When you are too close to your best friend, one of you is bound to fall in love with the other at some point of time. And then you are left wondering Am I in love with my best friend? You can’t be so close and just want to be best friends. It’s just a matter of time who falls in love with the other one first. All of a sudden, you don’t see your best friend as your friend anymore. Your heart starts racing and you want something more out of it. You are falling in love with your best friend.
Am I In Love With My Best Friend? 15 Signs That Say So!
Do you constantly find yourself asking ‘Am I in love with my best friend’? Falling in love with your best friend is not a big deal but dealing with it is a big one. There’s so much at stake. You could either be one of those lucky ones having a happily ever after with their best friend, or end up losing your best friend forever. It all starts when you realize that you see him differently.
All of a sudden, you are checking your best friend out, having day dreams of what it would be like if you both were together and most importantly, get jealous when he is around other girls/guys. Suddenly, you don’t feel like keeping your best friend in the friend zone anymore. If you feel all these added to those butterflies in your stomach, you are having a crush on your best friend or maybe, falling in love with your childhood friend. Here are 15 signs that you are falling in love with your best friend.
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1. You start daydreaming
You will start daydreaming and fantasizing about your best friend. You dream about all the ‘what ifs’ and think about what it would be like if you two were together. In all these years of friendship, you’ve always thought about your best friend in a more protective and sibling like way. But now all you can do is to think about your best friend as your boyfriend/girlfriend.
2. You want to text him/her
Every urge of yours is telling you to text him/her even when you don’t have anything to talk about. You want to talk to your best friend all the time. When a person is in love, they feel like talking to their lover all day and night and say good night with those cute heart emojis. Are you feeling the same?
3. You feel jealous
When your best friend is spending more time with someone other than you, it makes you very jealous. At first, you feel that you are being jealous because you’re being a possessive best friend. But this is you being jealous because you’re afraid that your best friend might end up falling in love with someone else. You start feeling like your best friend is slipping away and you’ve lost your chance to tell him/her about your true feelings. Are you still asking yourself, “Am I in love with my best friend?”
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4. You feel differently
You no longer see your best friend as that annoying sibling you never had. Suddenly, your best friend seems attractive and your heart starts racing when you see him/her. You feel these butterflies in your stomach and run out of words when your best friend catches you off guard. You feel like doing things with your best friend that normally couples would do but all these new feelings and emotions are confusing you. You don’t want to lose your best friend, but you also feel like he or she is your soulmate.
5. You call them for no reason
How many times have you called your best friend for no reason and just hung up the call? If you haven’t done so yet, that phase is soon about to come. If you’re calling your best friend and ending up saying nothing, it is because you want to tell them about your feelings. Your heart is telling you to tell them how you feel but your mind is stopping you from doing anything stupid.
6. You are laughing at their jokes
Those jokes that you would find annoying are the ones that you are laughing at the loudest. Even things that aren’t funny are making you tingly. It’s a kind of defence mechanism that you’re trying to use to show that you’re fine but it’s actually showing the opposite.
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7. You want to spend more time with them
You are now craving to spend more time with them. You want to know more about them to know whether you are just crushing over them or are in love with them. All of a sudden, you want to know everything about your best friend. You feel like wanting to know them at a deeper level. Even when you are out with your other friends, the person you want to spend time with is your best friend. And there comes a point when you start wondering if you are falling in love too fast.
8. You’re checking them out
You now notice your best friend as a different person. All of a sudden you find your best friend hot and you start checking them out. Suddenly you are talking to your best friend and end up gazing at their eyes or their expressions and start thinking about how beautiful it looks. Seeing them now brings a slight blush onto your face and you can’t help but smile in front of your best friend.
9. They are in all your conversations
When you are talking to your friends or colleagues, you bring up your best friend in your conversations. You can’t stop talking about your best friend and this is because you are so love-struck by your best friend.
10. You feel happy when he/she is with you
Imagine you being at your party with your childhood friend and the party is going great. Everyone in the room is enjoying except you. A few minutes later, your best friend walks in and your face lights up immediately. You feel alive and happy again because your best friend is now with you. His/her presence makes your day.
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11. You start dressing up
All of a sudden, you start dressing up. You start paying more attention to your looks and want to look good when your best friend is around you. You avoid roaming around in your sweat pants in front of your best friend anymore. Those trendy outfits that were buried in your closet are finally being worn. You want your best friend to notice these changes in you and seek their compliments. Turning lovers from best friends sure calls for some special attention!
12. You want to mark your territory
When you see other people flirting with your best friend, it makes you jealous. You start hanging out with your best friend more and post pictures to mark your territory. You want other people to know how close you two are and what your best friend means to you. As much as you want your best friend to be happy, you secretly wish that it was with you.
13. You feel like kissing them
When you’re moving your best friend from the best friend zone to the boyfriend/girlfriend zone, you feel attracted to them. You want to kiss them and start dreaming about how it would feel if you two kissed. You stare at their lips and play those love scenes in your mind. No matter how many times you may have casually hugged them, but once in love, the whole set of feelings change.
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14. You want them to be happy
Your best friend calls you in the middle of the night for some advice. It’s about a person they’ve recently met and they want your advice about how to go about it. No matter how much you are in love with your best friend, you will tell your best friend to follow their heart. Even though, you want to be the person they fall in love with, if their happiness lies in someone else. You’ll let them go. After all, all you want is to see them happy.
15. You imagine your future with them
No matter how many people come and go, something in your heart wishes that you both were “end game”. It is always nice to see that there is hope. You play it out how it would be if you both actually got together and became a couple. You imagine how long you both would be together and all the things you both would do to keep each other happy. You imagine your future with your best friend.
So, what to do when you like your friend? How to tell your best friend you like her/him? Don’t hold back thinking about the stakes. Life doesn’t always give second chances. It is important for you to tell your best friend how you feel. Not telling your best friend about your feelings will make you regret and there will always be this thought in your mind that if you had told them things could have been different. Your best friend will not judge you if you have feelings for them. They will help you deal with your feelings. You never know, they might be feeling the same. If your best friend doesn’t feel the same about you, you will at least have some closure. Don’t keep thinking what could have happened. As they say, “Carpe Diem”, seize the moment.