Sagar: I remember seeing Neema for the first time at MS University. Despite being in the same college, same class and taking the same majors, we never talked in college. On our interview day with TCS we were introduced to each other by a common friend. There was an immediate connection. On the very first day of our training at TCS, we shared the same desktop to go through some presentations that didn’t make any sense to me. There was something about this girl that made me feel like I wanted to share my life with her.
In those initial days of attraction, we sensed that we had entirely different personalities. In fact, these differences were what attracted us to one another. And thus began what would one day turn into our long distance relationship story.
Our Long Distance Relationship Love Story
Neema: Honestly, if anyone ever asked me what I like about Sagar, I would be blank. It’s odd, I don’t have any reason to like him. I just love him. He has the same admirable qualities as my father — so cool, calm and composed. He never gets angry with anyone, no matter what.
S: Our romance picked up momentum when we started working together at TCS. I worked the morning shift, so I wanted to do something interesting in the evening. I enrolled in French evening classes at MSU and persuaded some of my friends to join me. Neema was one of them. Who knew it would one day turn into one of those long distance love stories?
I knew that French classes hardly interested Neema. It was the time after the classes that I would look forward to. We would all go to Dairy Den Circle for Jay Ambe’s Aadu wali chai. What I liked about Neema was that even though she didn’t drink coffee or tea, she came to keep me company anyway.
On our last day of French class, as I drank my tea, she proposed to me. It felt incredible. I was chuffed such a sweet, sensible, simple living, high thinking girl like Neema saw something in me.
Instead of accepting her proposal, however, I ended up declining it. Although I enjoyed being with her, I did not feel those lovey-dovey feelings for her. So, I felt that I shouldn’t accept her proposal and just be friends. My plans were clear: I didn’t want to fall in love and mess up my perfect life. Above all, I knew that sooner or later I would be leaving for the US. So, I had decided that I could not marry before I returned with my Green Card.
A part of me wanted to accept Neema’s proposal, but I thought she deserved someone better. One day, I told her what was stopping me from saying yes to her. To my surprise, she still wanted to marry me. And finally, after 4 months and 12 days, I said yes to her. And that was the beginning of our long distance love story.
N: Since the day we began the relationship that would turn into one of the successful long distance stories. I have never felt, even for a single minute, that I proposed to him. On the contrary, he has always made me feel that it was he who proposed to me and kept showering me with so much love.
S: The only twist in our relationship is that it has been a long-distance bond. Between the time Neema proposed to me and the time I said yes, she had already moved to Gandhinagar. Like many long distance relationship couples, we had to wait for Mondays, Thursdays, and Fridays to see each other.
N: By the time I took the transfer back to Baroda, Sagar had to move to the US. So, all we had were weekends to talk to each other for hours without worrying about the time factor.
S: Thankfully, our families approved of our decision to get married, in spite of the distance. Although I was able to come back to India for the wedding, I had to return after a mere 3 months. Since then we’ve been waiting…and waiting…and waiting.
We tease like friends, flirt like lovers
The best part about my long distance relationship is that we are the best of buddies so we don’t use the typical loaded terms like Husband Wife, Responsibilities, Family Customs and Rituals, etc.
N & S: Whenever we talk, we are the same best friends that we always were. So, our romance always has a flavor of flirting, teasing, and making fun of each other. Maybe that’s the love hack that makes our long-distance relationship work.
Our bond is strong enough that this distance is bringing us closer to each other and helping us understand each other. Because of the time difference between the US and India, the only time we get to talk to each other is during weekends and a few minutes on weekdays. We wait like the boyfriend-girlfriend who live at home and wait to go to college the next day to see each other. And we have, thus, turned what could have been a difficult situation to one of those fulfilling, joyous long distance relationship success stories.
(As told to Darshana Shukul)
Of course, they do. Long distance relationships may have their difficulties, but, when you love each other, things like distance and timezone differences become secondary. As long as there is open communication and trust, with both partners willing to put in the work, long-distance relationships can be as happy and fulfilling as any other relationship.
Very. Successful long distance relationships are all about trust, patience, and open communication. Long-distance love may be hard, but, as long as you both care about and trust each other, there will be no problems you won’t be able to solve together.
Every successful long distance story will tell you how this love is as real as any other form of it. Maybe even more so since you are both willing to battle multiple barriers just to be with each other. It is a love unafraid of borders. It is a kind of love that is trusting, caring, and fulfilling as long as you are honest with yourselves and with each other.