So you have been in a relationship for the last couple of years and now you can feel that things are getting serious. But you don’t think you are ready for marriage yet. The ‘married’ tag just isn’t something that you can cope with. Too much responsibility and change in lifestyle than you would like right now. What’s best for you and your partner right now is a live-in relationship.
Not much responsibility, no major change in lifestyle and above all it’s such a cool thing to do! But stop here and think for a moment before you finalize. Do you really think a live-in relationship is an absolute walk in the park? Isn’t it likely that it involves more than what they show in movies and TV? Of course it does! While it may look to be extremely easy and smooth, it comes with its own set of disadvantages. Read on to find out what these are.
Lack of commitment
The biggest advantage of a live-in relationship is also its biggest disadvantage. A live-in relationship can be too flexible to demand serious commitment from both sides. Since walking out of the relationship is as easy as packing your bags and booking an Uber, even the slightest disagreement may see one of the partners taking recourse to this option.
Takes the charm out of marriage
A couple who lived in for some time before getting married often feels that the relationship has already become stagnant by the time they get married. They are already too used to each other and physical intimacy with one another is also not something new. There are very few things they can look forward to which married couples generally do. This is a major disadvantage of a live-in relationship.
There are many countries and societies where a live-in relationship is still a taboo. This is a major drawback of a live-in relationship. People around will tend to look at you with scorn. In fact, many couples from these countries declare themselves as married if they are living in, just to escape the social censure.
In patriarchal societies, the effect of a failed live-in relationship is most acute on the woman. She suffers both biologically and socially. She often finds it difficult to get back on her feet and move on with her life.Published in