Relationships 101

7 golden rules for a live-in relationship

Living in together is an arrangement to live-together, sans the commitment. But what are the rules?
Couple in new home

Are you ready to take your relationship a step further? Does living together sound exciting to you? If your answer is ‘yes’, then you are definitely heading in right direction. Having spent so much time over mushy dinner dates and movie outings, it gets tougher to say goodbye and go back to your respective pads. The best way to deal with the staying-apart pain is to stay together and enjoy each other’s company.

For couples madly in love but who fear commitment, live-in seems to be the perfect midway. The two of you, bound by love and not matrimonial rules, can live it up and enjoy the perks of being a couple. Thankfully, live-in relationships are finally coming out of the closet in India. Young working couples can now opt for cohabitation and build their professional careers.

The pros and cons of live-in relationships

The bottom line is that the two of you are in a relationship. So just like any married couple, as a live-in couple you too will have your set of challenges. Though the two of you are not married, when two people live together there are differences too.

Let’s look at the pros of living together

  • No more goodbyes, as you get to sleep together after dinner or movie dates
  • Share the first cup of tea or coffee and watch the sunrise together
  • Cook each other meals and throw in surprises to show that you care for each other
  • Live like couples without the tag of being married and committed
  • Freedom to do things without anyone invading your privacy

Now let’s look at the cons

  • After a breakup there are fewer chances of coming together, as there was no bond or commitment
  • Either of you may cheat on one another, which might lead to heartache
  • Families don’t stand by in case of a fight or argument
  • Very little support from society per se, especially for women
  • The stigma of being labelled for life
  • In case of a pregnancy, the guy can easily walk out, leaving the woman to deal with it all alone

As is evident, live-in relationships have their own set of challenges and advantages. It is upto the couples to make it work to enjoy the benefit and minimise the issues. That is where it becomes important to plan and agree on some rules so that neither partner feels taken for granted.

7 Rules for a live-in relationship

In order to avoid being treated like a doormat, couples who decide to live together should follow a few rules. This will ensure that either of you doesn’t burn your fingers while taking the risk of a living-in relationship.

1.Decide the fine print on finances

The two of you will now be running a house together. Before you move in, sit and design a plan for financial management. Decide who will take care of which expenses in order to avoid any confusion or chaos once you live together.

Maintaing expences
Maintain daily expenses : Image source

2.Divide the chores too

From doing the laundry to tidying up the house, both of you should divide the tasks to delegate equal responsibilities. Even figure out maids for cleaning and cooking to make things easier. With this sorted, the two of you can live peacefully, avoiding fights.

3.Be clear on why you are taking this plunge

Like marriage, a living-in relationship is a big decision. Take it wisely and not in haste. If you have spent one or more years together, only then think of moving in together. Have clarity on why the two of you want to live-in and whether this will lead to marriage at all. This way you don’t move in with false promises and expectations.

4.In case of pregnancy

Now that the two of you will stay together and share the same bedroom, this would mean sex any time of day or night. Make sure the guy uses protection or you pop pills to avoid unwanted pregnancy. In fact, before living in, set guidelines for situations when you accidentally become pregnant and what would be the next course of action.

Unplanned pregnancy
Unplanned pregnancy: Image source

5.Sorting troubles together

The initial few months of living in would be nothing less than a honeymoon. But once the charm fades, there would be room for fights, arguments and irritations. As a couple, you should know how to deal with them calmly. Do not make the mistake of taking a harsh decision and ending it all for a petty fight or disagreement. Learn to kiss and make up to keep the flame of love burning.

6.Give in to desires and fantasies

The sheer joy of living in is the idea of exploring sexual desires and fantasies. Women should make the most of this time by playing in to their desires. Men too should be open to experimenting and spruce up their lovemaking skills. With no bond or rules, couples can go crazy making out and exploring sexual fantasies. Good sex always helps in keeping you cheerful and happy at work too.

7.Keep a time limit on live-in

Having decided to cohabit, couples must also keep a timeline on the duration of their stay together. You cannot go on living in a relationship if you have marriage on your mind. For those who are comfortable, living in might do, but then be prepared to face raised eyebrows or pestering questions.

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