The general perception that it is men who initiate sex, is not true and more often than usual it may be the woman who needs to make the first move. When an invite for sex does not evoke a favourable response, the lady may feel let down and take it personally. Remember, it is not about you, there may be reasons for him not having responded. Here are the top 10 reasons why your man might be saying NO to sex.
He may be stressed because of a work situation or something that has not been shared with you. An unsolved financial problem, a nagging negative thought or a possible situation that may be evoking fear, is a sure killer for the right mood.
Contrary to popular belief, many gym or sports freaks are not the studs they appear to be. It is possible that they may be among men who are physically tired and exhausted.
3. Performance anxiety
Premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction can break the confidence of a man and could well become a strong reason for shying away from sex, because accepting the inability to satisfy their mate could be difficult for some men.
4. A health condition
Pain, discomfort or a skin condition anywhere in the body may be a reason for him to say no. A bloated stomach may be holding all his attention to the mid of the body, not allowing it to slip below the belly.
5. Poor testosterone levels
The inadequacy of male hormone testosterone may be the culprit. After 30 years of age, some men experience a gradual drop in the ‘T Levels’. For some this drop may be more sudden and could relate to one of the many auto immune or non-infectious diseases, including diabetes. Some drugs, tobacco and higher quantities of alcohol are also known to be the cause of a in drop in ‘T levels.’
He may be unhappy with you, waiting for the apology to be tendered before resuming the normal physical relations. Reason for this could range from wrong behaviour to disrespecting him or his family.
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7. Body odour
More often than you’d think, bad odour may be the cause for him to become uninterested in you. Some people have strong likes and dislikes and sometimes it becomes difficult for the partner to imagine that a silly small little reason can be powerful enough to say no to sex. Other reasons could include lights, distracting sounds, temperature of the room or discomfort of the bed.
Other than drop in desire booster, obesity may additionally be a reason for discomfort during the sexual act. It may be too much work for a person who is overweight.
9. Another relationship
There could be an emotional attachment elsewhere and the new relationship may be the reason for his disinterest in you.
10. You’re too fast
For some people, emotional involvement brings comfort before indulging in sex. You need to see if you are going too fast or are able to match his pace. Some men do not want the partner to be overly active. It gives them the feeling of losing control, while some other men may be put off by absolute inaction or lack of response.
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