One thing about me is that I’m very straight-forward, and sometimes my bluntness lands me in trouble. I’m not afraid to tell someone they have bad hygiene habits, so I will never be awkward in telling someone to get away from me if they smell bad or look unkempt.
I just get straight to the point. There was once this guy who was a senior strategist, Japan returnee, a newbie. He was very quiet, but I couldn’t resist starting a conversation, because he was so fascinating.
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So, every lunch hour I would waylay him and ask questions, about his hometown, why he went to Japan and why he had returned. So it turned out that he had a great job in Kyoto and met this very pretty and willing girl and soon they moved in together.
After ten years of blissful togetherness, Jacob gave in to the mounting pressure to marry a girl from his own community. He convinced his partner about the situation and they parted ways amicably. He then returned to his parents, and a suitable match was fixed and got married.
Within the year he got a divorce, which is very difficult among the Catholic community, on the grounds of incompatibility. By now we had become good friends and we shared a lot of stuff about each other.
I probed the reasons for his divorce, could it have been that he was emotionally obsessed by his Japanese lover? He said he had been over it, and that the only reason was his’s wife’s poor hygiene habits.
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Jacob was a pretty clean person himself, but I didn’t think he was a cleanliness or control freak. After he told me his wife has poor hygiene habits, and that was the reason he divorced her, I was astonished. Did people really end marriages because of something like this?
But turns out, the matter wasn’t as silly as I had initially thought. Once he broke it down and explained what he meant by his statement, I understood the importance of marrying someone hygienic.
She wouldn’t wax or clean
I asked, “are you an OCD person?” Then he elaborated – she had hair all over her body, which he was OK about, because waxing was unheard of in those days – 1999 or thereabouts.
She had long armpit hair and he didn’t want to discuss the Nether area, because he was so upset. So early on in the marriage he brought it up with his wife, who took great offense. Her argument was “I am a gold medal winner in engineering, how dare you talk to me about it.”
Her menstruating habits were disgusting
He was willing to add shaving the nasties to bath-time foreplay, but she wouldn’t wash each time she peed, his face wrinkled in disgust. Not to mention the days when she had her period.
She wouldn’t bathe for days after getting her period, and there were pads and tampons lying around in the bathroom. He didn’t have a problem discussing periods, but he was mildly disgusted when the bathroom was left in a mess like that.
He was hesitant to talk about this, but during these 4-5 days, she would eat all her meals in bed and not even clean up after. There were food stains on her clothes and on the sheets. I decided to sleep on the couch.
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She wouldn’t wash her hair
She would use coconut oil for her hair, giving off a rancid overall smell. People who use mustard oil also have a similar putrid aura around them.
However, his wife would apply these oils and wash them once a week. For the rest of the days, he had to put up with that disgusting smell, and embrace woman who had a lack of hygiene habits and rituals.
For most men it’s all about finding the right hole and getting the job done. But our hero had tasted the exotic luxuries of lovemaking.
It depends on the community
Later I discovered that both men and women of the Muslim community are far advanced in hygiene. They wash their genitalia after every round of pee, and mostly stay waxed/shaven. Also, the uncircumcised penis collects smegma, (a sebaceous secretion in the folds of the skin, especially under a man’s foreskin) and besides being smelly, causes several infections in their female sexual partners.
It was then I realized that bad hygiene habits mostly vary from community to community. While I may be stereotyping one community, I can’t deny that I haven’t met people from one section of society who shared common traits.
A few years later, in 2001 I met Jacob; he had remarried a girl from his church in Seattle. He looked happy. And she looked pretty clean. It was a match made in heaven.
It is a sign of carelessness, messiness and laziness. People who have poor hygiene habits can be quite disgusting to share a house with.
Basic hygiene habits like bathing, washing hands, and dental care are important to prevent diseases and be clean. Lack of hygiene can lose you a job, a life partner, and many things in life because nobody wants to be around dirty people.