Unfortunately, in this day and age, we all know a fuccboi or a poor girl who’s had her heart broken by one. Long gone are the days when people committed to each other for life! With fuccbois (commonly known as ‘fuckboys’) in the picture, no matter how much of yourself you invest in a relationship, it is literally impossible to get them to commit and stay loyal to you. Fuccbois are the embodiment of “hook-up culture ” and everything that’s wrong with it.
Do not get disappointed with such changing norms and ideas regarding dating. If you genuinely want a serious relationship, then there is hope. However, this means you have to stay clear of the fuccbois around you. These fuccbois have transformed the dimensions and experiences of dating. They are responsible for trust issues that a lot of women face after dating them. Thus, you must keep your eyes peeled and your senses sharp to avoid them.
Definition of a ‘fuccboi’
If you’re a novice in the realm of fuckboys (lucky you) you are a part of a majority of the girls are trying to understand the meaning of a fuccboi and what a relationship with such a guy entails.
To put it simply, a fuccboi is a guy who runs away from commitment and gets into relationships just to satisfy his sexual desires. Fuckboys/fuccbois are like predators who look out for their next prey. Once they zero down on you, he will probably gain your trust in such a manner that you commit yourself completely to him. But he will fail to be honest with you, will play with your emotions and ultimately, break your trust. And, they probably planned to all along..
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A fuccboi comes into your life with the only aim of taking everything from you without actually giving back anything noble and worthwhile to you. The worst part is, he probably does not respect you or your feelings. And yet, he gives you false hope and expresses fake love to you. You are important to him as long as you can make him happy and satisfied sexually.
Characteristics of a fuccboi
Dating has changed as we know it. The romantic and ideal rom-com like dating is extremely rare these days. In a world where you can find “a match” with a swipe of your finger, casual dating has become a common phenomenon. Live-in relationships are quite popular among the youth. Dating two people at the same time is a shocking trend. So, we can come to the conclusion that deep and meaningful relationships have taken a step back.
The only way you can stay away from a fuccboi is by knowing what his character traits are. Once you get acquainted with these traits, you will know how to spot and get rid of such a guy from your life. Here are some of the common characteristics of a fuccboi.
- He is willing to do anything to get what he wants, regardless of the consequences
- He is secretive and manipulative
- Lying is his natural habit
- His physical appearance and body are more important to him than anything else
- He has a tendency to flirt with every girl
- You find him at all the parties- he’s a total jock
- He will be eager to see you naked, and would not hesitate to send you pictures of himself with barely anything on
- Portrays himself as a powerful and strong person but he is actually weak
- He might have misogynistic tendencies
- Smooth-talking is his forte; he’s one hell of a charmer
- He gets agitated when someone disagrees with him
12 Signs You Are Dating A Fuccboi
Your mental health will take a tragic turn in the long run if you happen to date a fuccboi. He will suck all the energy out of you and leave you feeling devastated at the end and will be seemingly unaffected by the whole thing. Do the aforementioned fuccboi characteristics strike a chord? Dying to know if your guy is one too? Then these are the 12 signs you should look out for
1. He takes a step forward in the relationship too soon
A fuccboi will try to get personal and physical with you way too soon. You will not even get the time to register what is happening and where your ‘relationship’ is headed. He will not take the initiative to get to know you. His main purpose will be getting intimate with you, without necessarily giving you the time to be comfortable about it.
His only focus will be getting into your pants, and he will literally beg you for it.
2. His family and friends are unaware of your existence in his life
He will not be happy with the idea of introducing you to his family and friends. Any efforts that you make to meet his family and friends will be obstructed by him. This is a dangerous red flag that he not serious about you. He knows he is using you for sex, and does not intend his close circle to know you, though he may never admit this.
3. He avoids meeting you in public places
Whenever he plans to meet you, it will either be at his place or your place. This means he will avoid meeting you in public places where you both can be assumed to be a couple. In addition, he will always make plans to meet late at night, so that a majority of the people can be avoided.
Plus, he’d want to score any opportunity to get on top of you.
4. He is clueless about his life and future
A fuccboi is so engrossed in satisfying his present “conquests” that he does not have the time to think about his life and future. He remains clueless or is not interested in sharing his future plans with you.
5. Sorry is not a part of his dictionary
Humans are only apologetic if they care about you and are concerned for you. But since he is not worried about hurting you, he will not apologise for anything. On the other hand, he will become defensive and justify his actions when you try to confront him for anything wrong that he does.
He definitely fits the bill of a selfish boyfriend.
6. He is a narcissist
Saying he loves himself is an understatement. He seems like a low-key or a high key narcissist who is obsessed with his own appearance and needs. You are not his priority. He only gives attention to you for the sake of getting laid.
7. You feel like you’re the only one in the relationship
You feel like you’re the only one who’s committed. It’s almost as if the relationship exists only in your brain although he said you’re “dating”. You feel like this because this is the truth. He isn’t concerned enough to be committed to you, his idea of dating is completely casual. You’re the only one emotionally invested in this relationship because in his head, this isn’t a relationship at all.
8. Conversations with him usually revolve around sex
Since sex is always on his mind when he is with you, he will obviously keep talking about it and giving you hints regarding it. Instead of having meaningful and thoughtful conversations with him, your conversations will revolve around sex even when that’s not really what you want to talk about right now.
He’s not interested in having deep conversations with you and isn’t very keen on hiding that either.
9. He has never asked you out on a proper date
A proper date would mean that you both are officially seeing each other. But a fuccboi does not want that. So, he will probably never ask you out on a proper date. If you ever take the initiative of going out on a date, he might make up excuses to avoid showing up.
10. He never compliments his exes
When a fuccboi talks about his exes, all he has to say about them is that they were crazy. He never has anything nice to say about them and always complains about them and blames them even though there’s no valid reason behind it.
There are no take-aways, no time-outs and no repentance. It’s all sorted for him.
11. There is no proof of your relationship with him
Whether it is a photograph or a selfie or a social media post, there is no proof of your relationship with him, because he does not want the ‘relationship’ to be exposed. Though his phone might be full of your pictures in compromising positions, there won’t be pictures of you two together.
You ask why? Well, obviously because he is also trying to woo other girls apart from you.
12. He does not respect you the way he should
There is a serious lack of respect in your ‘relationship’. A fuccboi leaves you feeling like an object way too many times. You feel disrespected, objectified and upset. If this is the case, then this relationship is sucking more out of you than it is giving back to you. It might be time to look for an exit.
Why become stressed and prolong a relationship with a fuccboi who you know is bad for you? Save your time and energy. Find the right kind of guy for yourself and enjoy the perks of a healthy relationship. Remember, you deserve much better than a commitment-phobe fuccboi.