There is a phenomenon known as the grass being greener on the other side of the fence, where people think that living in a different situation could make their life better.
Can that be said about homosexual relationships? While some people are still a tad unsure about the topic, as reported in a new Tendermeets article we live in a much more accepting society where it is not a crime to be gay, it is not even the taboo it used to be. With that in mind, we’ll look at various elements of these relationships to understand their similarities and differences to other relationships.
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Environment And Sexual Orientation
The environment and sexual orientation of an individual are worth looking at when determining whether someone is happier in a relationship or not. One thing about heterosexual couples is that they are not often lambasted by family and friends for being straight. However, the same cannot be said about people that are gay. So finding acceptance within the family could be the biggest hurdle a gay couple has to cross.
In other words, having a relationship is often the best form of support that a gay person can have. Not only are there fewer potential partners for them, but they must also test their compatibility in many different ways than straight couples.
Often, gay people will find a small group of people that are similar to them in orientation and use that as a safer personal environment where they won’t be judged by other people.
So, like others, gay people seek out friends that are supportive and loving even though it is often more difficult to find.
Myths and facts about gay relationships
Sadly, there are many different myths about gay relationships that are perpetuated through media or by people trying to express their grievances with gay couples. That being said, it’s important to identify and dismiss these ideas which we will do here.
Myth: Same-sex couples have a “man” and a “woman”.
This is a very common myth, but it’s completely ridiculous. Two men might have one in the more feminine relationship, but that doesn’t mean one is a man and one is not. Gay people are just as unique in their roles in a relationship as straight couples.
Myth: Gay relationships fail at a much higher rate than others.
That’s not true at all. They have nearly the same incidence of falling apart as any other adult relationships. After all, there are a lot of the same motivations to be together and the same challenges faced by gay couples as straight ones. A study in 2003 found that homosexual marriages had a slightly higher chance of success at 20 years compared with straight relationships.
Myth: Gay and lesbian people are not good parents.
Many studies have been completed on this topic. People think that because gay people can’t have children without medical intervention that they can’t be successful parents. According to many studies, homosexual couples are just as effective as parents as straight people, offering rich, fulfilling lives and development for children in their homes.
What makes same-sex relationships succeed or fail?
No relationship is immune to problems. Gay or straight, people fall in love and then out of love just as easily. Yet, it’s still worth examining the things that make same-sex couples succeed or fail.
For one thing, overall compatibility is something that can drive people apart. You might get into a relationship and then begin to drift apart as you realize that you don’t like all the same things or enough of the same things to justify a relationship.
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Just like straight couples, you could run into major fights and issues. While gay people aren’t any more likely to cheat on their partners, it does happen. So, when someone cheats on their partners, they will leave them.
Still, there are many shared elements of a successful relationship between gay and straight couples. If people are loved, respected, and have common goals, the chances are that they are going to last a long time.
Building A Healthy Gay Relationship
Building a healthy gay relationship takes work just like any other relationship. In some respects, it can be a little more difficult. For example, finding a partner when you are busy with life is hard, but there are ways to solve that. So, the first step in building a healthy gay relationship is ensuring that you find the right person.
One method that people use successfully is dating online. Using a professional dating service, you can find someone that is nearby, looking for the same things as you in a partner and has the looks that you want in a match. Not only is this convenient for people that are busy with elements of their day to day lives, but it’s also a fantastic way to schedule dates with little effort.
From there, building a healthy relationship involves many things. For example, people need to set boundaries for appropriate behaviour in a relationship. Some people want equal shares in all aspects of the relationship, while others make trade-offs in work and taking care of the home.
It’s also important to agree with short-term and long-term goals and then put those plans into action. You want to set your relationship up for success rather than failure by discussing whether you are ready for something long-term or just want to date and see where things go from there. All of these expectations are useful in making a healthy gay relationship.
Gay relationships are just like straight relationships in all aspects of happiness and heartbreak.
To answer the question posed by our title: no, gay relationships aren’t any better or worse than others. They require work and understanding along with a little bit of luck to be completely successful. It’s more important now than ever to understand that gay people are people first. So, readers are encouraged to dispel myths and to learn more about gay people instead of denigrating them in the future.