Being single is good, being committed is even better
Single life is the best. You are independent, you do things only as per your comfort, you don’t have to look presentable at all times, the Swiggy delivery man is your best friend and life is one endless vacation. But then you meet your soul mate and everything changes.
Actually, once in a relationship, life becomes much more happening. You may be just living in or are married; life has so many new things to offer that you never knew of. You bask in the glory of this new found happiness and almost forget the time when you were single. Sure there are times when you wish you were single again, like when you are expected to at least know the recipe for making a sunny side–up. But mostly it’s all good.
Here are a few things I most definitely don’t miss about being single:
1. I always have a plus one
Gone are the days when I had to be nice to my colleague just so that she would accompany me to that movie I was dying to watch. I can always count on my partner to be my plus one for all the social events, movies, that must-shop-at sale and for the midnight Bhurji Pav cravings.
2. Someone to come back to
No matter how awful my day was at work, I can always rely on my partner to hear it all out patiently and I can count on him to have a bowl of my favourite ice-cream ready while I do it. I have a person to binge text on a boring day and bitch about my mean boss. I could have had the worst day at work or I could have spent the last 2.5 hours in traffic, I know I will forget all the stress after coming home to my partner.
3. A hand to hold
At times you just need to hug someone and not say a word. It happens to the best of us and is completely human. That feeling of someone being there to hold you just when you need it is worth a thousand sweet words. I always have a hand to hold when I feel lost and that reassurance of someone being there is priceless.
4. Exercising is way more fun
I may have been a couch potato before because going to the gym is just not worth it and who exercises alone! But now I have a legit reason to burn those calories and bond with my guy at the same time. Be it the relaxing yoga or the instant calorie burning jog, I always have company who makes exercise time, fun time.
5. Holiday plans that actually happen
I remember making and re-making plans with my friends for months together to make that one Goa trip happen which never did. Now I can just hop on a plane with my husband and head out to our favourite destination. The trip gives me everything I need – great company, an amazing destination and the much needed relaxation.
6. What’s cooking?
I think cooking just for myself was possibly the most boring job I was doing. It is just too much effort that’s not worth it. I remember eventually giving up and ordering Chinese. But being in a relationship has proved that cooking together with your partner can be so much fun! It can be quite a stress buster to whip up a meal while narrating the happenings of the day to each other. There is a certain satisfaction in preparing a meal for a loved one and the appreciation I get only encourages me to do better.
7. Remote check, Popcorn check
My husband and I love to binge watch TV shows on a Sunday instead of dressing up and pointlessly hopping from one party to another. I get to spend a lazy evening with my guy and my favourite show. What more can a girl ask for? A cup of Hazelnut coffee may be…
8. He loves me, he loves me not
There is a lot of uncertainty linked with being single, especially during the first few dates. You kind of like a guy but don’t want to make it too obvious. The guessing game is maddening, and even if they do confess liking you, there is always the question of trust. Being in a relationship is simpler because it is possible for me to sit and have a conversation and clear things out which avoid unnecessary misunderstandings.