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Effective tips from an introvert on how to date an introvert

The perils of being an introvert are many but dating an introvert is very easy....
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Who is an introvert and how do you date one?

We find ourselves lost in a conversation. We end up listening more than we ought to. When the person in front of us is bragging and it gets nauseating, we still keep quiet and pray to ourselves that the person will finally stop and get away. But we never muster the courage to ask him to stop. Together with Yes Dates, let’s figure out how to manage such a situation.

Am I talking about you? Then you are an introvert.

People like us, who are reticent and introvert, we find manoeuvring around conversations extremely difficult. It’s a severe handicap and we don’t like it.

The dictionary defines introverts in myriad ways but ask any introvert and he will tell you that he finds it difficult to express himself. An introvert won’t necessarily talk. He might talk normally but he will always find it difficult to express himself.

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In Group Discussions, we score fewer marks. In a party, we silently grab a corner and nurse our own drink. We hate loudmouths, showoffs, patronisers, liars, drama queens and stupid people. But we can never tell them so on their faces.

In Group Discussions, we score fewer marks. In a party, we silently grab a corner and nurse our own drink. We hate loudmouths, showoffs, patronisers, liars, drama queens and stupid people. But we can never tell them so on their faces.

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It’s all in their heads

The introverts have their own world where the conversation mainly happens within the mind of the person. An introvert will abuse you, slap you, ask you to go away and even kick you in your face…. but the whole drama is happening within his mind.

That’s not the worst part… the worst part of being an introvert is that his lips will get automatically zipped in front of his crush.

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I have personally lost count of how many crushes I have not been able to date, simply because I could not open my mouth and speak when I was supposed to or expected to.

Ask any introvert about what is the greatest relationship issue and he will tell you that he isn’t able to express himself. An introvert will expect that his partner (or crush or whatever is applicable) will speak his mind. That’s the golden moment for any introvert and you will see him nod vigorously and say “Yes, this is what I was trying to tell you”.

But that seldom happens. Not many can understand what the introvert wants to say and more often than not, an introvert is misunderstood. People think that he is a coward, he is lazy and sometimes, that he doesn’t have the guts to stand by the truth.

But that seldom happens. Not many can understand what the introvert wants to say and more often than not, an introvert is misunderstood. People think that he is a coward, he is lazy and sometimes, that he doesn’t have the guts to stand by the truth.

He is none of the above, but he is just not able to say it.

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This ‘problem’ needs your empathy. Imagine a song stuck in your head for the longest time but you are not getting the lyrics. You keep on searching for it, expecting that somebody will tell you, but nobody is able to.

This happens with you? Yes? Now, let’s multiply this problem. Let’s make this a regular affair. Every two days you get a song in your head but you aren’t able to get the lyrics anywhere. Your mind is consumed by the music but there are no words to express it.

Related reading: Dudes are shy at dates

Be empathetic

Chances are that you are already identifying with this or you are starting to feel the pain. Both ways, you are now feeling what an introvert feels like.

Forging relationships for an introvert is difficult, but not impossible. But it is more difficult than for normal men who can express themselves freely.

Once in a while we get partners who understand our feelings and help us blurt out the words out. We get to sing the song, because we are finally told what the lyrics are.

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Do you know an extreme introvert? Well, if you want to date him or her, then be their lyric and watch how they sing the song for you.

Introverts have feelings too, more often than not they are more powerful than you.

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2 Comments

  1. Ummm.. My boyfriend is an extrovert and I am an introvert and that can create problems but with help like these one which these articles provide I am thankful.

  2. Introversion is not simply shyness; it’s a more complex set of preferences in which the individual tends to extract more reward from intimate social interactions and small groups. Dating an introvert is simple, as long as you’re aware of the characteristics of your introverted partner.

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