In a relationship, both partners are expected to accept each other’s good qualities as well as flaws, whole-heartedly. Without such acceptance, a relationship will not be able to survive successfully. However, there are certain bad habits that one of the partners might develop in due in course of time which have the potential to damage the relationship. These are the bad habits that cannot be accommodated in a relationship and need to be addressed as soon as possible.
Why are relationships fragile?
Before we move on to list the bad habits that ruin a relationship, it is essential that we understand why relationships these days have become so fragile.
Managing a romantic relationship has become a difficult task for people who are busy tackling professional responsibilities and other personal commitments. People fail to give enough priority to their relationship and take their partners for granted.
Some of them are not ready to make compromises and serious commitments when they are in a relationship. Some partners are even selfish and emotionally manipulate their significant others to their own advantage.
Instead of communicating face-to-face with their partners, people prefer to leave a text message or call them, which usually creates unwanted barriers and misunderstandings. Many people stop nurturing their relationships and do not have the courage to deal with the problems which accompany relationships, while there are some people who just seek adventure, so the idea of spending their life with one person does not attract them.
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The true bond and connectivity in relationships is missing nowadays. A majority of the people seek just pleasure and external beauty in a relationship, because of which the relationships have lost depth and true love. Such a grim picture of relationships has to be changed and one has to put in efforts to ensure that his/her relationship survives the test of time. Remember, a relationship is a blessing which needs to be fulfilling and enriching for both the partners.
22 bad habits that ruin a relationship and need to be addressed
As you can see, relationships these days are fragile and require constant attention and encouragement. One bad move on your part can cause irreparable damage to your relationship with your partner. Therefore, it is your responsibility to make sure that you acknowledge the bad habits you have and do everything in your power to get rid of them in order to salvage your relationship.
Here is a quick rundown of 22 bad habits that ruin a relationship.
1. Constantly nagging your partner
In the beginning, your partner might find your nagging and interference cute. However, in the long run it will become annoying, especially if it is constant. You must know how to set boundaries and respect the private space and time of your partner.
2. Avoiding direct confrontations
It is possible that you avoid direct confrontations because passive aggression is deeply rooted in your nature. But then this kind of behaviour will cause more harm to your relationship. It is important that you be honest to your partner and let him/her know what is wrong instead of keeping everything bottled up.
3. Saying negative things about your partner’s family/friends
You have to be very careful and avoid saying anything negative about your partner’s friends and family. Your partner might vent in front of you about his/her friends and family. However, he/she will obviously not appreciate negative views about his/her family and friends from you.
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4. Trying to initiate changes in your partner
Remember, your partner might not be the perfect person you always wanted, but then it is essential that you accept him/her completely. Do not have any unrealistic expectations and do not force him/her to come out of his/her comfort zone. You should not initiate any kind of radical changes in your partner.
5. Comparing your partner to others
Whether you do it consciously or unconsciously, you have to stop comparing your partner to the other people around you. Appreciating your partner is extremely important. You need to respect your partner and encourage him/her to be a better person, instead of constantly comparing and putting him/her down.
6. Spending time with electronics
Technology has become a part and parcel of your life. But then your relationship should be your priority and not watching a television show or having video chats with friends. You must give time to your partner when you are at home. Avoid using your mobile phone and laptop when your partner is around. In this way you can connect with your partner in a better way.
7. Overly criticising your partner
If you notice that you criticise your partner a little too much and that too on a regular basis, then you must stop. Avoid making any harsh comments on his/her appearance or saying anything negative about his/her profession. Learn to give feedback in a positive manner so that it can be accepted in a good light.
8. Keeping track of past mistakes of your partner
You must learn to forgive your partner when he/she commits some mistake and forget about it as well. If you happen to keep track of your partner’s past mistakes and mention these during arguments and fights, then it will have a negative impact on your relationship.
9. Being way too complacent
No doubt over a period of time, you will become comfortable with your partner and feel content and happy. But then you have to ensure that your partner is comfortable too. If you become way too complacent and take your partner for granted, then it will be a very big mistake on your part.
10. Maintaining low levels of hygiene
Keeping yourself clean and tidy is not only important during the time you were dating your partner. You have to keep high levels of hygiene even when you move in with your partner or marry him/her. Unhygienic conditions will just create a bad impression about you. Therefore being hygienic is essential, because it reflects your character and upbringing.
11. Arguing with your partner in public
If you have the habit of arguing with your partner in front of your relatives, friends or in public places, then it is really bad. Such a situation will become embarrassing for the people around you and also for your partner. It is always better to sort out issues in private.
12. Stalking and keeping an eye on your partner
Trust should become the main foundation of your relationship. You must respect your partner’s privacy. Do not turn into a creepy stalker and keep an eye on your partner 24*7. An absolutely avoid going through your partner’s emails, text messages, etc.
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13. Ignoring healthy feedback from your partner
Obviously you will not like it if your partner criticises you. But then, if your partner is giving you some healthy feedback, you must listen to it. Your partner wants the best for you and thus will criticise you only to help you improve. So ignoring such criticism will do you more harm than good.
14. Not talking about your sexual life with your partner
Until and unless you express your sexual desires and pleasures, your partner will not be able to satisfy these. Thus, you need to be open to your partner and let him/her know what you want exactly. Talking about your sexual life with your partner should be a normal thing for you.
15. Divulging too much personal information to family and friends
The relationship you share with your partner is sacred. The issues you have with each other should be kept private. If you constantly divulge information about your private life to your friends and family, then one day it will create major issues in your relationship. Therefore, keep your family and friends out of the relationship you share with your loved one.
16. Breaking promises regularly
Your significant other expects you to keep a promise when you make one. Maybe the first time you break a promise, your partner will let it go. But if you keep breaking promises regularly, then you will only disappoint your partner. So make a promise only when you know you can follow through.
17. Being jealous and over possessive
A little jealousy from your side will give the assurance to your partner that you truly love and cherish him/her. However, if you become over jealous and over possessive, then it can become suffocating for your loved one.
18. Forgetting relationship milestones
Relationship milestones are a way to celebrate the memories you both have spent together over the years. If you keep forgetting them, then it means that you do not value your partner and the moments spent with him/her.
19. Thinking negatively about things
In your life, you will face ups and downs. But this does not mean that you keep harbouring negative thoughts and fail to appreciate the good things in life. If you continuously think negatively, then it will be exhausting not only for you but also your partner.
20. Indulging in PDA
There is no harm in holding hands and kissing your partner once in a while in public. However, constant PDA is bound to make him/her uncomfortable and awkward at some point of time. You have to stop being insensitive to your partner’s feelings as well as the people around whom you become way too affectionate towards your partner.
21. Hiding things with the use of white lies
White lies are trivial and harmless. But if you get into the habit of using white lies on a regular basis to hide things from your partner, it will ruin your relationship. The trust your partner has in you will break when he/she gets to know about your lies.
22. Keeping emotions pent up
This can harm your relationship in the worst manner possible. If you do not talk about your emotions and feelings, then your partner will not be able to understand and comfort you. You both will not be able to connect with each other emotionally. Do not blame your partner for not meeting your needs, when you are unable to express them.
These bad habits may not seem that dangerous to you, but with time, these have the potential to become extremely destructive and end your relationship. Therefore, you must make the efforts to improve yourself and break the bad habits before these shatter your relationship beyond repair.