Rishita Ray and Abhinav Sigh had fallen for each other after they met in the workplace. Everything was going fine till their relationship was under wraps but when they decided to get married and the wedding date was made official, trouble started especially for Rishita. Her boss did not take their romance in the right spirit. He started complaining that Rishita was not spending as much time at her desk as she was at Abhinav’s and their lunch hours were becoming prolonged. Rishita felt she was being professional as before and hadn’t allowed her relationship with Abhinav to come in the way of her work. But her boss started creating issues and the last nail in the coffin was driven on the day that she called in sick when Abhinav was on a holiday. The boss, in order to check if they were together, actually called up both their places to check where they were. Rishita felt so humiliated with this behaviour that she immediately put in her resignation. She soon joined another organisation but as the couple married and set up home both felt that their office romance was creating a hindrance in their professional pursuits. Now that they worked in different offices they were in a better place.
Here’s How To deal With Office Romance
Love at a workplace is an exciting thing; not many are privy to that experience. However, while an office romance might be sizzling for the couple, it might invite unwanted publicity from co-workers if not handled well. People do fall in love in the workplace, that’s normal and sometimes the relationship work and sometimes doesn’t. But you have to know how to conduct yourself when you are seeing someone at the workplace.
Here’s how to deal with office romance.
1. Know where you stand
If it was just a fling during the Christmas party, don’t assume you have something romantic. Be sure of it. People will always get wind of it, but make sure you are certain it’s a romantic endeavour and not just another fling. Be honest with each other and let the other person know where you stand.
When people get wind of your relationship they would perceive a fling in a certain way and a more serious relationship in another way. So if you know what kind of a relationship you are having with your interest in the workplace then you can handle it accordingly. If it’s just a fling and creating issues in your professional life then you can both just back off. If it’s serious then you have to join hands and formulate a plan to handle your office romance.
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2. Money before honey
What this means is to not let the office romance get in the way of your work. This might take some effort but don’t let your feelings for someone ruin the way you do your work. You have to do your job before you can move past the second base. And you have to do your job well. Never hold yourself back from working well just because your partner might feel bad. If your work needs you to reprimand your partner, you cannot go on soft on him/her.
When in office, working your ass off is what they are paying you for, so you have to prioritise that. Beyond your office hours, or outside your office, you can indulge in romance fully.
3. Company policies matter
This is a major move before you can do some office romance. Check out if the company you are working for only frowns on office romance or pronounces it totally illegal. Many companies might be very strict with no romance between co-workers. Be certain what the policy is. If what you are doing is against the rules, be good enough to sneak around while romancing. Also, ask yourself if the risk you are taking is worth it.
Some offices have strict policies that they don’t let spouses work in the same organisation and they are completely against people in the same department having a romantic relationship. The second bit might be an unwritten rule but if you ask around you will get to know that. If you are working in an organisation like this and you are very career minded then best is to steer clear of an office romance. But sometimes it’s hard to handle matters of the heart. In that case be careful and even if you are seeing someone from work it’s best to stay tight lipped.
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4. Know the hierarchy
I know, I know, love is blind and all that, but if you are going to be dating someone from the office, it’s better to be doing it with someone you do not have an everyday, work-related entanglement with. That way, even if the romance dies and you break up, there would be no awkwardness between the two of you.
For instance dating a boss could spell trouble when you break up. He or she could turn vengeful and make your life difficult when the relationship does not work out. Many people have lost assignments, projects and even promotions because they were dating someone superior to them in the hiararchy and later got harassed by the same people when the relationship went kaput. So if it’s an office romance you are indulging in it’s best to go for a colleague who is at your same level or someone from another department who would not have a say in how your career shapes up.
5. Professionalism first
If you are in a relationship with someone from the same office, be sure to keep the public display of affection at bay (especially in front of the bosses). You don’t have to guard your relationship like a national treasure from the onlookers, but make sure you maintain decorum and professional attitude towards one another when you are within the four walls of the office.
Just because you are in a relationship doesn’t mean you have to sit beside each other in the conference hall, have meals together always. These might make your colleagues and co-workers to act biased towards you. They might cite your relationship as the reason why you always agree to your partner’s plans (even if your partner’s plan is the best among the lot).
Just be tactical about your relationship in your office. There are a lot of things you need to be mindful about.
Never, ever, have personal outbursts with your partner when you are at work. Also, relationship problems should be left outside the door when you enter your office and don’t let any personal fight reflect in the way you treat your other co-workers. People will get wind of that and get agitated themselves.
Just remember that you are at the workplace to earn money and make a career and not for romance. But if you like someone at the workplace you can have a relationship but keep the romance and the PDA for work after hours. Be perfect professionals in the office and stay objective about each other. That’s most important.