Workplace relationships are far more complicated than your usual relationships. The office is always brimming with activity and energy, making it a good place to find someone interesting. It is not unusual to feel attracted to members of the opposite sex, given the time you spend in an office. Have you been wondering if a male colleague is attracted to you? Do you feel that a male co-worker likes you? Are you here because you want to know what signs indicate a male co-worker is into you?
Well, if a male co-worker likes you, it might get confusing for you because most colleagues are helpful towards each other and many strong friendships blossom in workplaces. If you feel a male colleague is giving you more attention than otherwise required, he might be interested in you.
Maybe you have similar feelings as well. It might be that you want to know whether you are interpreting his behaviour correctly before actually concluding that your male colleague likes you. Or perhaps you do not like him. In any case, a wrong move can affect not only your relationship or friendship with him but also your professional life. That’s why, after reading this article you will be able to make an informed decision.
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15 Signs Your Male Co-worker Likes You
Usually, the signs of a guy liking you are quite similar to the signs of a male co-worker liking you, but he may not be upfront in approaching you, as he doesn’t wish to sabotage his professional life. If a male colleague has a crush on you, you can sense it but he won’t be upfront about his feelings. You could be a colleague or you could be in a different position in the hierarchy. Nevertheless, unless you are sure that he likes you, you should not infer anything. Professional relationships can turn sour and ugly if you wrongly interpret a man’s friendly behaviour and equate them with flirting. At times, your or his job can also be caught in the radar. Before making any move, you need to be sure if you are correctly interpreting the signs a man is attracted to you at work, and if you are willing to take things forward with him and even get into a workplace romance.
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Read these 15 signs carefully in your male co-worker to find out if he likes you. If he is into you, these signs will spill the beans that he is attracted to you.
1. He cannot take his eyes off you
Body language communicates intentions very efficiently. You will have to observe him a couple of days and voila. You will know.
Do you see him constantly looking at you? Maybe from across the hall or during meetings? When you both are working together he doesn’t lose a chance to look at you from the corner of his eyes. If your male colleague’s eyes are always finding you, then this is the first sign and a quite clear one to know he may be attracted or interested in you.
If you feel the same way about him too, consider upping your dressing game a little to leave a more lasting impact on him. But keep it subtle. You don’t want to walk into the office with a complete makeover. That’d be a dead giveaway. Instead, make small but noticeable changes. Order a few new lips colors that accentuate your lips and make them seem irresistible.
2. He will find ways to bump into you or work with you
Wherever you go in the office, you’ll find him around. Initially, it might be a coincidence and he would be glad to put it that way. But gradually, you’ll know when he finds excuses to work with you on the same projects or keeps bumping into you, whether it is the cafeteria or even when you are around some other colleagues.
He may also try becoming friends with the closest of your office pals. Wherever you go, he will be around.
If he is there to give you company for lunch and coffee, even if you have changed your usual times, it is clear this guy likes you at work. If you notice this often, we have a smart trick for you. Get yourself a premium perfume that is different from your signature fragrance. That way, you can stir him up just by walking past him, leaving a lingering trail of irresistibility behind. A man who is already fawning over you will go over the tipping point with this slight change. And will know that you are egging him on to act on his feelings. If he has been holding himself back owing to a lack of clarity about how you feel, this will crack open a window of possibilities.
3. This male colleague is always eager to help you
So you have a very helpful colleague, who makes your tasks easier to complete. He is always there to help you. Not only help, but he will guide you or let you know some well-guarded secrets of the job or office. He will discourage you from asking for help from other colleagues as well. But you need to be careful; selfless people are rarely to be found. Romancing your cubicle buddy isn’t hard when you coat it with helpful surprises.
If he is being very helpful, he surely has a motive to be in your good books. This could mean your co-worker has a crush on you.
4. He notices every detail
He may not have a strong memory, but he remembers everything you said or things you do. Maybe one day you wore a dress of his favorite color and he mentioned that in a conversation sometime later. They might not be big things, but very small details like the footwear you are wearing or a bracelet you usually wear but forgot someday, he asks about it.
Not sure if he is actually paying attention to you or are you cooking it up in your head because you have feelings for him? Well, try to mix things up a little about the way you dress. If you typically wear pants to work, order a few pencil skirts. Or replace your striped shirts with fanciers silk ones. If he notices it instantly. You know your assessment has been on point. He does pay a lot of attention to you.
Think about it, how much he notices being just a colleague. This is definitely among the signs that your male colleague is attracted to you. One of our readers, who is now married to her co-worker, said that during their courting period he remembered small details about her like the fact that she only drinks black coffee and needs a minimum of five pens and a highlighter at her desk to get work done.
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5. Trying to talk about things outside of work
He will find out the topics you like to talk about and he will come around to start discussions on them. Talking only about work may not give him enough time to be around you, especially if you do not work next to each other. So maybe he will initiate discussions. It could be about any social issues, a sale nearby, best restaurants or whatever interests you. He wants to know more about you as a person, not just a co-worker.
Sometimes he might even do the opposite, start discussions about things you don’t like because you cannot resist those topics and you’ll jump into the discussions. The efforts he makes to get you to talk says a lot about how much your male co-worker likes you.
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6. He pampers you, and this is not what he does with everyone
He seems to be well-acquainted with other co-workers as well, but you do not see him putting a lot of effort into pleasing them. But when it comes to you, the game changes. He will bring chocolates or pastries for you and say I was just passing by so thought of getting chocolates/pastries for you. He may sometimes even get a coffee for you. Or if you are swamped with work, he’ll come around and remind you of the breaks you need to take. He’ll want you to spend time with him during breaks as well. Yes, honey, your male colleague is definitely into you.
7. He compliments you for all the little and big things
This is a very obvious sign. If a guy is complimenting you often, he clearly is interested in you. He will never leave out a chance of complimenting the changes he notices or even your habits. You are having lunch with a bunch of your other colleagues, yet this slips his mind and unconsciously he isn’t even hesitant about complimenting you.
He will even appreciate you doing well at office tasks. This just shows how much this male co-worker likes you.
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8. He wants to go out with you after office
You have a bond after office as well; we all have. After all, our work colleagues gradually become friends. But whenever he asks you for plans after office, he wants it to be only the two of you. It is never a bunch of friends. He will always want a movie, a coffee, or dinner just with you rather than a group of people around you. You guys text a lot, you have phone conversations after office and that’s not about work.
That he initiates most of it clearly shows that he wants to have a bond outside the office and a bond more than work colleagues.
9. He flirts a lot
Flirting is another obvious sign and like all the girls you can read this very efficiently. He will tease you about small things, irritate you and then will find cute ways to make it up to you. He will crack a lot of jokes to make you laugh, sometimes he will pass cheesy compliments also to make you smile.
If it’s only you who he flirts with, then his intentions are clear. He is interested in you, no matter if he met you at the workplace. It’s an absolutely clear sign your make co-worker has a crush on you.
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10. He admires you as a person
He will often mention what traits of your personality he likes, and he will say things like – he has never seen a girl like you. Maybe he admires your intelligence, firmness, or many other things. He’ll talk about how sometimes you have inspired him to do well.
11. He is protective towards you
You are in a meeting and you put up your ideas, but they get rejected by the mass and even when he knows that idea is not good enough, he will support it during discussions. He defends you or supports your view in public in meetings or at discussions.
Or he will try to help you and guide you if he feels you are wavering off-topic during the meeting. You will always find him around to save you because he is attracted to you and likes you immensely.
12. He gets terrified if you talk of switching your job
After a bad day at work, you obviously don’t feel great and are in a bad mood. He will sympathise and console you if you didn’t have a good day at work. He’ll stick around to make you feel good or motivate you about coming good days. He’ll freak out if you think of quitting your current job and finding another.
If you find him coaxing you to stay put in your current job and not switch, it is one of the most common signs a man is attracted to you at work
13. He wants to know about your personal life
He is curious about your personal life more than your professional life. He will find excuses to bring up your personal life more often. He wants to know what your relationship status is or if you are interested in someone outside of work.
Soon he will know all about your family, friends and other details of your personal life.
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14. You talking about other guys will annoy him
Whenever you talk about your crushes with him, it freaks him out. He gets jealous; either he avoids the topic or whenever such topics start, he excuses himself from the conversation. Because he does not want to imagine you with someone else. This particular male colleague of yours would not like you to have friendly conversations with other men in the office too. So how do you tell if a male coworker likes you? Well, if he frowns when another man approaches your desk, even though it’s for work, he surely likes you.
15. You’ll see his friends teasing him when around you
Whenever you are near him, you will find his friends pulling his leg or teasing him indirectly. Such jokes are very common and even though people think that they are teasing them in an indirect manner and girls might not understand, but if you are smart enough to understand you’ll know they are teasing him and it’s about you.
After reading these signs about your co-worker, you need to take a call. There are some do’s and don’ts of dating a work colleague, make sure you take care of those. Maybe you are glad that this male colleague likes you because even he tempts you. Although it can be the other way around as well: you are not happy about the fact that your male co-worker is interested in you because you never had any interest in him or you are already taken.
Whatever you choose, do it judiciously. Relationships in the workspace don’t affect your mind alone; they affect your professional relationship and image both. If the conclusion is affirmative, then you need to figure out your next move. Do you want to avoid him or you want to encourage him to initiate the confession?
But the best answer to both questions is to have a talk with him. If you realise it and you are sure about it, having a talk can save both time and energy you would invest in waiting for the confession from the other end.