“Has your boss been giving you special attention lately? Do you catch him staring at you? Have you been wondering if your boss likes you romantically? Maintaining boundaries in a workplace is difficult as you spend a major part of your day with your colleagues. With all those hours of work and extra shifts, you tend to form personal relationships with your co-workers. But what if these personal relationships arouse romantic feelings in your boss? How does one tackle that?
10 Signs Your Boss Likes You Romantically
If you think your boss is interested in you, it is difficult to confront him about it because of being a part of a professional setup. You don’t want to sound like you are accusing your boss of something that can turn out to be untrue, let alone all the other complications that will come with it. So, you ask yourself, how do I tell if my boss likes me? The answer lies in the signs. Being an employee restricts you from directly confronting your boss (you can if you aren’t sure and want to look like a fool or want it to become the next topic for office gossip), so do it the old fashioned way. Follow the signs boss likes you romantically and judge for yourself whether it’s true or not. Here are 10 signs boss has a crush on you and likes you romantically.
1. Your boss likes you romantically if he is being too helpful
All of a sudden, your boss is finding excuses to interact with you and help you out more in comparison to other co-workers. You may feel that your boss is being a really good mentor, but is it just because of this? When someone is going out of his/her way to help you, it means that you mean something more to them. Beware don’t entertain this over helpful behaviour as your boss can think that you are reciprocating their signals.
2. Your boss gets you gifts
Are you the only one who is getting these special gifts from your boss? Think, what makes you so special to be receiving such kind of presents from your boss? There are other deserving employees in your team that should be appreciated, but you are the only one who is receiving this kind of special treatment. If your boss is giving these gifts secretly and asking you not to tell anyone else about it, you have more reason to be suspicious.
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3. Your boss is constantly flirting with you
If you are receiving flirtatious messages from your boss at odd hours, it’s a sure shot sign that your boss is attracted to you. Your boss flirting with you could spell trouble for you as well. No one who maintains professional boundaries sends flirty messages to their subordinates at late hours. This is also a sign that your boss wants to sleep with you.
4. Your boss invites you for dinner
After a late-night, your boss asks you if you want to grab a few drinks or have dinner. You turn them down for some reason. After a few days, your boss again asks you out. It is because your boss is attracted to you and wants to build a personal relationship with you in an environment that doesn’t involve work. He/she wants to get to know you personally.
5. Boss likes you romantically if he compliments you too often
If your boss appreciates you for your work, it is because you’re a deserving employee. But if this appreciation turns into compliments that aren’t work-related, it means that your boss is romantically attracted to you. “You are a very attractive woman” is one such example. This isn’t a line a boss usually says to his subordinates, it shows that your boss is observing your physical characteristics and is attracted to you.
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6. There’s physical contact
Does your boss pat you on the back more frequently? Is he/she leaning closer to you to help you out with something? Your boss could be a person who likes to give pats to his/her colleagues frequently. But notice if the same treatment is being given to all employees. If you are the only one who is being given this special treatment, you know what it means.
7. He tries to spend time with you privately
You notice that you are the only one who is made to stay back after office hours for work whereas other members of the team aren’t asked to stay back like you. Your boss and you are the only ones that are staying back in the office and working late. This is because your boss wants to spend time with you and is using work to get some private time with you.
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8. You catch your boss staring at you
If your boss is romantically attracted to you, you might have caught him/her making googly eyes at you. For those who don’t know what making googly eyes means, it means staring at someone with love and awe. When someone is attracted to you, they tend to stare at you more often to catch glimpses of you. Staring at their crush is normal for people. What is not normal if that person is your boss. If these stares are making you uncomfortable, you need to do something about it.
9. Calls/texts you for no reason
When a person has feelings for someone, they feel the urge to talk to their crush more often. “I called you to submit that thing. I just forgot what that thing is.” If your boss calls you out of nowhere, it means that he/she wants to talk to you but doesn’t know what to tell you. He/she will first make work-related excuses to call you and when those finish, he/she will just make other excuses to talk to you.
10. Your gut feeling says so
When someone likes you or is attracted to you, you just know. Your sixth sense suddenly gets heightened and you know that this person has other intentions. If your boss’ changed behaviour is making you overthink and feel uncomfortable, there are chances that your instincts are right. Your boss likes you romantically and is giving you obvious hints and you know it.
When you realize that your boss has feelings for you, it becomes a dilemma because if you misread your boss’ body language and behaviour, it can become embarrassing and can cost you or your boss their job. It is important to be observant yet sure that your boss is really into you before you take any step. If you see your boss and yourself in these signs then you know that your boss likes you. So the question is, what are you going to do about it? If you don’t do anything, your boss might think that you are okay with such behaviour and it will keep increasing. If you’re thinking to do something about it, what’s it going to be? Share with us in comments.