Women Making The First Move And Proposing

Love and Romance | | , Researcher & Writer
Updated On: November 30, 2023
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Women making the first move on a guy is considered rare and uncommon for some reason. Especially when it comes to marriage proposals, pop culture and movies have taught us that it is only a guy’s job to go down on one knee and offer a ring.

But let’s bust those myths today. I cannot tell you the number of times I’ve seen women go out of their way to impress a guy and make him hers. That being said, women making the first move is no rarity or special occasion. The chase and the thrill of it all is incredibly exciting, and as a woman, I’m proud to say that I’ve felt it too. Read my story below and see for yourself!

When A Woman Makes The First Move

I met him in the first year of university and I have to be honest, it was definitely not love at first sight. Being a small-town girl who spent a majority of her time with horses, I’d never been in a relationship with a guy before, let alone with a boy who had a past!

I was an only child and always my Dad’s princess and was taught never to compromise in life. So for myself, I had this image of the perfect Prince Charming in my head who would sweep me off my feet and I would be his first love…a love so perfectly sculpted and pure that it would make everyone around yearn for a life like mine.

But boy, I had absolutely no idea what was going to happen next. As days passed, the two of us became really good friends and confided in each other our fears, doubts and insecurities.

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I knew I was developing feelings for him

As our friendship grew, I learned about his messed-up past relationships and realized how much he needed a friend more than a girlfriend at that moment. I decided to be there for him to pull him through the tough time he was facing. I also decided to make our relationship more low-key, focus on being his friend and give him all the time he needed.

I guess I grew up more in those few months of our friendship than I had in my entire life so far.I knew I was developing feelings for him but I wasn’t sure if he was ready. How can someone trust again after being let down so many times?

I, too, was unsure about what I was going to do…how can a girl who had always dreamt of a fairy tale love story settle for a boy with flaws (which he never hid from me, by the way) and someone with such a messed-up history of relationships?

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Should a girl make the first move? Why not!

But I guess such is real life …so real that it defies all your imaginations and fantasies at times. He had never held back anything from me about his past and I really appreciated that. He even acknowledged the mistakes he had made in the past and accepted that he had his flaws too.

With the incidents that he narrated to me, I began to notice a pattern in his past relationships….how despite everything that went wrong, he always came back and apologized when he was wrong. How he had no fear of commitment he was in love with, how he just craved a little love and nothing more and his mature outlook on life.

And trust me, that was all I needed to know! I knew I could make this work. He had already been through a lot and I didn’t want him to even worry about this at that moment. I knew he would get all worked up if he even had the slightest idea. I didn’t even know if he felt the same way about me but I thought it was worth a try. I decided to make the first move.

Yes, women making the first move is nothing to be ashamed of. I knew our friendship was at stake, but I didn’t want him to be an ‘almost-ex’. I was so sure of my feelings that I decided to take the risk. But should a woman make the first move? If you’re in love and ready to be engaged, there is no reason you should not.

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Women making the first move is just as beautiful and loving

So one fine evening, I mustered up enough courage and proposed to him on Facebook and waited for him to type his reply, holding my breath patiently. He took almost 2 minutes to frame his answer and believe me, those were the longest 2 minutes of my life.

I read the text he had sent and my face lit up immediately. As it turned out, he had felt the same way about me too for quite a long time but was too afraid and shy to come out and say so. I was on top of the world!

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Guys Like Women Making The First Move

I was happy that I had made the first move – a choice that would define my life from that point on. I was brought up to be an independent woman and this act neither made him any less of a man nor defines me as a desperate girl seeking attention!

In fact, my husband appreciated it much more too as he knew he was dating an independent woman who goes after what she wants. Men find that terribly attractive, trust me on this one. Girls proposing to guys is less common but a man should not have to do all the work in a relationship. He should be swept off his feet too.

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I figured out, it doesn’t matter who makes the move, as long as we are both happy and content. I’m proud that he had the courage to trust someone all over again after all that he had been through and accept me for who I am. It’s been almost 2 years now and I’ve never been happier.

When you picture a proposal in your head, it’s always a boy kneeling in front of a girl. So should a girl make the first move? I say, why not? But it’s very much possible for a girl to want to get married first and woo the man she loves. Besides, this is also about being treated well and respected as an equal in a relationship. At the end of the day, love matters far more than these silly traditions. You just gotta find the right man!


1. Do guys like it if the girl makes the first move?

Absolutely! It is a beautiful way to show affection and tell a man that you are ready to spend the rest of your life with him. It is not a man’s or a woman’s job to pop the question. It’s all about love and feelings, at the end of the day.

2. Is it wrong for a woman to make the first move?

Absolutely not! Girls proposing to guys might be a little uncommon but it is actually done and men love it too.

3. How do you know if a guy is waiting for you to make the first move?

Women making the first move might seem surprising at first but many guys do hope that the woman they love will suggest marriage to them. Here are some signs he wants to marry you and is waiting for you to ask him for his hand!

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