When you can’t simply cut yourself off from your partner
Self-destruction is somewhat encoded within our cells; we can only control what we want to and when we want to. Giving something like a drug the power over a person means that the said person has already lost their control over themselves. There isn’t any philosophical quotient or any biological equilibrium which can make things the way it used to be, but if your partner is into drugs, you can only know what it feels to be on edge on the time. People can only empathise and ask you to cut them off, but the problem is much deeper than just cutting your partner off, although this is the only possible solution in cases where things spin out of hands.
But help can be offered while coping with the fact you have to be with someone who is being preyed upon by their addiction. Life can be bitter, but it stings when you have to face the reality of a love life withering away. You can only handle yourself in situations like these, and strength and endurance are the keywords here. All you can do is gather all of it and fight every situation head-on. Probably you will be the only saving grace in the relationship, but if it affects you to the point where you can no longer endure, it is advisable that you consider rehab for your partner.
How to fight the long fight
It will obviously be hard for you to keep things together. The fight will no longer be with your partner, it will also be with your own conscience.
This long battle can only be fought when you realise how strong you are. Here are five ways you can handle yourself through the process.
1. Get as much as support you can find
Emotional support can get you through the long and harrowing nights.
Your friends and family should be there for you and your partner. In this way, you can have a team of your own to provide emotional support which you will be needing. The support must not be there for the sake of empathising, so be very careful while choosing your support. There should be no space for judgement or prejudices in this support. Even if that support boils down to a single person, rely on them. You will often feel weak and morally frail; this is precisely when you need to call your support system up and vent as much as you can. You can also take the help of online forums where you can even find like-minded people to talk to. These forums are usually safe places made and curated by people who have or are going through a similar situation. Your partner’s addiction is not on you, so you should be as transparent as possible for the sake of your mental health.
2. Clear your conscience
You should make it a point to assess every step so that it helps you clear your conscience.
You might end up blaming yourself for not looking out enough for your partner. If you are blaming yourself, then stop doing that right away. Their drug abuse is not on you. Your conscience will be on the verge of sanity so be there for yourself as much as you are there for your partner. Even if you decide to leave them, you must always find a rational way of telling yourself that what you did was right at that point. Never jeopardise what’s left of you before it’s too late. Your conscience can only be clear once you are transparent enough to realise what you are doing is for the greater good.
3. Join a support group
Surround yourself with people who can understand your situation.
Support groups or group counselling often happen in various places. Try to look these contacts up online and don’t hesitate to speak out about your problems.
4. Always be ready to act on your intuitions
Intuitions can never be wrong when your situation itself is compromising your partner.
If your intuition tells you to do something, then there must be a good reason to go with that. Your partner is at stake and so are you, so don’t hesitate to do what needs to be done.
5. Having a healthy diet
Diet plays a vital role in situations where it can drain you easily.
Try to include a lot of fruits and salads in your diet. Eat healthy because this helps you to be prepared for any dire situation which is physically and emotionally demanding.
6. You are not alone
Help is there if you need it. But always remember that you are responsible for your own mental health. Similarly, you do what’s necessary, because your partner will need help, especially from you.