Going astray for a woman is much bigger a deal than a man cheating on his wife. A woman is very invested in her relationships. Though times are changing, and women have done extremely well for themselves on the economic front, she still remains rooted in her belief system and values. So to have flings is one thing, but being in a marriage and seeking pleasure or companionship outside is not something a woman just does for fun. It is a big deal now, that she is seeking solace in another person.
Why another man?
Women as creatures are intuitive. When things don’t work out, she knows its coming well in advance. Moreover the mundane life of a neglected wife can be lethal. Men dehumanize their wife so often than the only solace may come in the form of an extra-marital affair. She is not a prize that has been won and is only meant to be kept in the trophy cabinet for display. This is a common feeling amongst married women. She is also not just a house-keeper who is there to take care of the house, keep the cooked food coming, earn some extra bucks and pleasure the husband at night. Just like the men, it is important to cherish her and do things for her. Otherwise, the only possibility that remains for her is to find a partner worth investing on emotionally. Here are some reasons why she could step out.
How many times do men put down their phones and other gadgets, make eye contact, and talk to you about your day in particular? How many times do they notice a particular effort you took in re-arranging his desk or his study?
A feeling of being neglected, not cherished and cared for may lead a woman to another man or even a woman.
2. Can’t forget her past
Even though she is someone’s wife, she has feelings for her past lover. Though that affair didn’t lead to marriage, she kind of starts leaning backwards again, if she gets disillusioned with her marriage. Sometimes women may still be in love with someone else.
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3. Boredom of the drill
Wake up, clean potties, cook breakfast, get the home cleaned, get to work, shop for groceries, come back, cook dinner, and then crash. How many women get trapped in the usual and get bored to death? An interesting new fresher walks in with the possibility of friendship, and an affair follows. Men need to pull up their socks and get interesting sooner.
Our Counsellor, Prachi Vaish, lists some reasons that people give for having an affair.
4. Neglect her and lose her
Men forget to invest in a wife, it’s usually while she is the girlfriend that it’s all about her. Once the battle is won, she may start feeling neglected and not cared for enough. Good enough reason to go looking?
5. Libido mismatch
Women could want sex too. Why is it presumed that men are more interested? Men tend to take it easy in a few years while the woman may still be actively lusty and sexy. When she doesn’t find a match, then her mind and heart may start wandering.
6. To be seen
It’s easy for men these days to overlook what they have, with so much distraction everywhere, from magazines to the internet, to real-life attractions. A woman craves to be seen by her loved one, and she may go where she feels seen.
Men, pay attention, now!