6 reasons why women have an affair

Malini Misra
beautiful woman

Going astray for a woman is much bigger a deal than a man cheating on his wife. A woman is very invested in her relationships. Though times are changing, and women have done extremely well for themselves on the economic front, she still remains rooted in her belief system and values. So to have flings is one thing, but being in a marriage and seeking pleasure or companionship outside is not something a woman just does for fun. It is a big deal now, that she is seeking solace in another person.

Why another man?

Women as creatures are intuitive. When things don’t work out, she knows it coming well in advance. Moreover, the mundane life of a neglected wife can be lethal. Men dehumanise their wife so often that the only solace may come in the form of an extra-marital affair. She is not a prize that has been won and is only meant to be kept in the trophy cabinet for display. This is a common feeling among most married women. She is also not just a house-keeper who is there to take care of the house, keep the cooked food coming, earn some extra bucks and pleasure the husband at night. Just like the men, it is important to cherish her and do things for her. Otherwise, the only possibility that remains for her is to find a partner worth investing on emotionally. Here are some reasons why she could step out.

1. Technology

How many times do men put down their phones and other gadgets, make eye contact, and talk to you about your day in particular? How many times do they notice a particular effort you took in re-arranging his desk or his study?

close up of phone in male hands

Personal touch replaced by touchscreen?

A feeling of being neglected, not cherished and cared for may lead a woman to another man or even a woman.

2. Can’t forget her past

Even though she is someone’s wife, she has feelings for her past lover. Though that affair didn’t lead to marriage, she kind of starts leaning backwards again, if she gets disillusioned with her marriage. Sometimes women may still be in love with someone else.

woman working on laptop

When she is not over her ex

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3. Boredom of the drill

Wake up, clean potties, cook breakfast, get the home cleaned, get to work, shop for groceries, come back, cook dinner, and then crash. How many women get trapped in the usual and get bored to death? An interesting new fresher walks in with the possibility of friendship, and an affair follows. Men need to pull up their socks and get interesting sooner.

 4. Neglect her and lose her

Men forget to invest in a wife, it’s usually while she is the girlfriend that it’s all about her. Once the battle is won, she may start feeling neglected and not cared for enough. Good enough reason to go looking?

Feet of couple kissing

Do you make her feel loved?

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5. Libido mismatch

Women could want sex too. Why is it presumed that men are more interested? Men tend to take it easy in a few years while the woman may still be actively lusty and sexy. When she doesn’t find a match, then her mind and heart may start wandering.

6. To be seen

It’s easy for men these days to overlook what they have, with so much distraction everywhere, from magazines to the internet, to real-life attractions. A woman craves to be seen by her loved one, and she may go where she feels seen.

Men, pay attention, now!

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Karma Karma
Karma Karma May 27, 2020 - 10:16 pm

In many cases problems do exist in marriage. But problems in a marriage is not a license for cheating. If problems exist, women discuss issues with husband or can get counsellers help etc. Both women and husband responsible fort maintaining the sanctity of the marriage. But if everything fails, one can part ways and live the life. But staying in marriage and cheating is heneous thing. Wife is equally responsible for keeping the sacredness of the marriage. Wife is in the marriage no for blaming her husbandand & sleeping with third man. What wife has done to rectify the marriage except for sleeping with third person? Bloody for this wife is required in the marriage? There is no difference between a murderer and a cheater. Cheater meticulous planning, logistics, keeping secret with all deceptive and lieing skills like a murderer who executes. Murderers kill the person whereas husband gets killed internally everyday for life because of hurt and other negative emotions.Hence to keep the cheating under wraps, like a murderer , cheating wife ensures removes all evidences and act drama at home so that the cruel naked face of the women is hidden behind the so called beautiful face of the shameless women. Women stays in the marriage so as to enjoy the benefits of the marriage and uses husband as a slave/doormat. Animals have no boundaries, shame, guilt, dignity etc traits so as a cheater. A cheater is a psycho with weak minded mentality as she is a coward and hence can’t resolve issues with husband or could not part ways but chose to cheat by allowing third person to willfully use her body has become more or less like a prostitute. For a regular prostitute money is the motive for sex whereas for selective prostitute lust fulfilling is motive but at the end both share bodies out siders except for cheater is selective in sharing the body with a particular person. There are childish men, cute men, adventurous men, intelligent men, smartmen, confident men, extrovert men, gym men, watchmen, milkmen, taylor men and so on …… . Move out of marriage have adventures with these men and enjoy ones life and go to the hell, who cares.Cheating is immoral and is sin. But dont turn a sacred marriage into prostitution at the back of husband. Majority of cheating thrives on the saying ” Ghar Ki Chor Ko not even God can catch”. A cheater is a cheater for the life ( to her own inner consciousness) and she will carry this tag till she goes to grave yard irrespective of cheating disclosed or not forgiven or not. What remains is whether she is a serial cheater or one time cheater. At the end Ghar ki Chor is most dangerous.
Cooking food, taking care of children, paying monthly bills,nursing ones spouse in hospital are responsibilities which either can arise due to love or due to a unwritten contract like marriage. Even a nurse in hospital serves the patient, does she has love ? No only responsibility due to payment received. Spouses who see their significant others as their responsibility only, confused love with responsibility, treat marriage as business, can;t see the sacredness of marriage can only stoop to the low level of cheating & lies but in reality they don’t love their spouses in heart. Also persons for whom, sex is larger than life ,the purpose of human birth is only for mating either by hook or by crook or with the spouse or outside doesn’t matter them , who lack spirituality of life, for such people only genitals rule the relationships and hence cheating is reflection of their personality and for them cheating is a way of life.

Nalini Datta April 3, 2018 - 6:45 pm

Why if a man cheats, its manz fault. And when a woman cheats, its again a manz fault.Its disgusting ti see most, i mean most if the working women are cheating there partners. And we are giving justifications for that??? Sometimes it is felt that chanakya was right when he said ……..nari… ye sab hain tadan ke adhikari. He described 3 things, one of them females, who needs to be ….. Disgusting write up.

KB February 10, 2018 - 1:24 pm

Very well said ???????? its the situations that make anyone to take that extra step as life is only to live once.. and dyeing unsatisfied is not worth living. This goes for both men and women.
Great write up ..

Anonymous October 15, 2017 - 4:19 pm

I don’t get it. When it comes to women who cheat there are articles that states all the reasons why they cheated but when it comes to men there are no articles because people presume they are dogs. Why is that? If a woman is not happy with her relationship why not break up? But they choose to cheat and you’re justifying that by writing articles like this.

Saurabh Dalal
Saurabh Dalal September 11, 2017 - 5:04 pm

Some very valid points put forward. Not forgetting her past is especially relevant…. And if an Ex shows up again in your lives, your antenna should get alert promptly….. Never be overconfident about your relationship. Don’t take it for granted ever.

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