Affair and Cheating

The Secret Behind How An Extra Marital Affair Starts and How It Ends

Extramarital affairs are relationships outside of marriage where an illicit romantic or sexual relationship or a romantic friendship or passionate attachment occurs

How long can, and how long does an extra marital relationship usually last? Who starts it, who ends it and what finally ends the illegal, amoral relationship? And lastly, who are the people who indulge in an extra marital affair?

(As told to Anita Babu Narayanan)

How shortlived is an extra marital affair?

These were a few questions that Meera pondered until it happened to her. And though it seemed trite, she had to admit it happened just like that! Though when she looked back, it would seem things were leading to it anyway, her entire life. Guess these are the facts about extra marital affairs. [restrict]

An ordinary life

A middle-class urban existence, orthodox parents, and in-laws, a ‘stuck up’ husband was just not reason enough for a woman to stray out of her safe and stable marriage. And stability was one of the main reasons she had ‘opted’ for in an arranged marriage.

Extra marital affairs disturb the peace and happiness of the families
Ordinary family: Image source

There was no real sorrow. But within six months of marriage the restlessness had begun. It was a nagging thought whether life had something more interesting to offer other than a secure marriage, a husband who comes home every evening and decent in-laws.

And then he entered her life

It was during this listless stage that Vishal entered her life. He was unlike the other philandering charmers she had met before. She had always enjoyed the harmless flirting of other men at her modest workplace but Vishal was different. He was not a player. Even though he was married, there was a certain integrity in his flirting and she could not play the game as guiltlessly with him as she did with others before.

Extra marital affairs are short-termed
Flirting: Image source

That’s how the affair began

That particular day, they were walking to the railway station when he suddenly took a detour… “Care to see the beach?” She had often told him of how in spite of living in Mumbai, she had never seen the sun set on the Arabian sea. She heard herself say ‘why not’ without really thinking.

Our constitution does not give us the permission for extra marital affairs
On the beach : Image source

Soon they were on the beach, the sun had already started setting and before she knew it, his right hand was on her left breast. The touch was thrilling and even though she knew she had to stop it, she couldn’t bring herself to say so. Instead, she found herself enjoying the kisses which rendered any other communication impossible. In that moment nothing mattered, that’s how she knew how it started. But I didn’t know then extra marital affairs come with some unspoken rules.

After that it seemed a sham to cry foul. She let herself into the throes of passion and being desired as she had never known before. The gifts, endless phone calls, holding of hands, stolen moments in parks and lifts, everything was delicious, making her break into a smile when alone. She had not known this fervour in the so-called famed honeymoon days too. The laced guilt only added to the heady concoction.

Mostly extra marital affair make when the one member is not satisfied with other

The end of the affair

Love affairs like this come with a time line.  So the sun had to set and one day it did. Fewer phone calls, the reluctance to be seen together, the distancing didn’t happen all at once. It took five months. Finally she asked him,  “What’s up? Why are you avoiding me?”

“I am sorry. My wife seems to have guessed. She keeps asking me vague questions about you all the time. Every day I lie to her. I can’t take it any more. I thought I could, but I can’t. This is not my cup of tea. I love you, but we are through.”

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Personal-Calls : Image source

So now, she knew how these things ended too![/restrict]

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    1. Alas within six months of a marriage she was searching affair and involved. Six months even not sufficient to understand husband & wife each other. When man involved in affair, he is blamed. Ironic that wife also involved in affair blaming husband. What a fate?
      Husband and wife are partners or team members in marriage. They are not competitors standing against each other like in boxing. Any problem in a marriage whether it is for husband or wife , it is problem vs husband& wife but not against individual vs problem. Relationships in a marriage passes through various phases/challenges. Both spouses should understand each other , standby each other and resolve the issue.
      Here what efforts wife put up to rectify the situation? She has not discussed with husband on what are her desires and expectations etc. Instead choose to stray and enjoyed affair and kept it secret.from husband. What a selfish crook and.back stabber! What a Pity & destiny that poor innocent husband got this kind of women as wife. There is a saying ” Ghar ki chor ko even God can’t catch”. But Ghar ki chor most dangerous …………

    2. When a person lacks values and ethics, has no value for what they already have or not in a position to realize the value of person’s they have this can only happen. Grass is always Greener on otherside. When they reach otherside, some otherside is greener. By the time it is realized they destroy others lives. Does a cheater ever cares for his/ her family, never. Cheater is a selfish crook waiting for opportunity and enjoys at the back of trust of her husband. Cheaters are cowards or like parasites in stool who will never leave the marriage but do all dirty things at the back and remain shamelessly in a marriage enacting drama at home. Ofcourse, time and destiny will not remain same. They will.catchup sooner or later and it’s a matter of time. Till the time, cheater can satisfy animal instincts and pave way to hell. Cheaters are there only to destroy innocent lives otherwise for what they marry or why don’t walk out marriage and enjoy adventures.

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