Shaved legs – check. Odourless armpits – check. Fresh coat of nail paints – check. Perfumed hair – check. Butterflies flapping in the stomach – check. And you are ready for the first date! Well, almost ready. Other than looking your best, a first date is the time to let the guy see the person in you and for you to read the person in him to see if things could be taken forward.
Because first dates are the first big impression you leave on the special guy and the insights you gain from the first date are expected to lay the groundwork for understanding the future of your relationship.
But it’s just the first step and not a final verdict on your romantic destiny
Having said that, if a first date goes terribly wrong, it’s safe to say it indeed is a warning that you two are probably not meant to work it out together. Hence it’s certainly important that you do a few things right to make sure you make the most of your first date.
1. Carry cash and go Dutch
There no bigger turn-on for a guy than going out with a girl who likes to pay for her share. It’s also a b-i-g boost for the feminist in you. It doesn’t matter if he chooses to be chivalrous and rejects your offer; it’s your gesture that counts. Remember, just because he is a guy he is not entitled to pay for you. Just like, even if he pays for you, you are not entitled to have sex with him. It’s a two way street.
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2. Show good behaviour to people around you
You know how they say, your behaviour towards the servers define your personality? It’s true in all facets of life – including your first date. Be warm to the Uber driver, the waiters, the elevator man and the elderly people who bump into you on the street. It makes a huge impression on the guy when he sees you being gracious to strangers around you. But genuinely believe in treating people good, don’t fake it.
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3. Drop the agenda, be honest
Don’t go to the date with an agenda. How would you feel if the guy comes to meet you only because he wants casual sex? Similarly if you go to the date to evaluate the guy’s financial or social worth for your future security he will sense it. Instead show him your spontaneous side and genuinely go to the date to know him better. Men like women who are not needy and take things easy.
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4. Be a conversationalist
The idea of a date is you two get to talk. Don’t be a grouch who sits there acting bored. Engage in a good conversation instead. But don’t make it all about you and blab. Once you open up and really talk to each other, you would get to know each other’s likes and dislikes. If you two have any common hobby or interest, say photography, engage in a fun discussion on that. It’s no secret that men like women who know the art of holding a good conversation. Refer to Cleopatra’s irresistible charm as an alluring conversationalist as history knows it.
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5. Have fun and let it show
If you are having a good time, show it! Don’t be that high-maintenance princess who is hard to please. Don’t act like you have something better to do by checking your phone, taking not-so-important calls – if you have to be somewhere else then just leave.
Finally, remember that chemistry takes time to build and love doesn’t happen on the first date. All you can do is, have fun and enjoy each other’s company. Don’t be afraid to show it if you do and the rest will follow.
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