She seems like the perfect girl. Always dressed impeccably, has manicured nails, a perfect social media and a lipstick that never smudges. Perfection personified. Till you figure out that it takes an of money to maintain this perfection and she did not, in fact, wake up like this. You’ve got yourself a material girl, living in a material world. In other words, a high maintenance girl. Dating a high maintenance girl might not seem like a big deal initially but take our word for it, it will cost you some big bucks in the long run. Especially if you are someone who lives a low maintenance life, adjusting with a spendthrift girlfriend can be tough. It might be better for you to avoid a high maintenance woman.
10 Signs She Is A High Maintenance Girl
So, what does high maintenance mean? A high maintenance girl is someone who has high standards with respect to almost everything!
She not only has high expectations with respect to material things but also with respect to her need for love and attention.
Being high maintenance can be related to anything, it can be materialistic, emotional or otherwise. A high maintenance girl is rarely ever satisfied with anything. If you feel like you have to constantly prove to your girlfriend that you love her and that you are worthy of her love, you’ve got yourself a high maintenance girlfriend. Here are 10 signs she is a high maintenance girlfriend.
1. A high maintenance girl is self-obsessed
All that your girlfriend cares about is her appearance and what others think about her. She has attention-seeking tendencies. Her obsession with her personal image will become evident to you after a point. She will always strive to achieve her idea of perfection. This will show in the way she conducts herself. Though this might seem harmless at first, it will become intolerable when you realise this is all she cares about. Her inability to prioritise your needs to make you even slightly happy is one of the red flags of a materialistic girl.
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2. She criticizes your dressing style
Girls who are high maintenance are conscious about their looks and their image in front of others. While you are dating her, you are a part of her image too. Therefore, she will want you to match up to her level to impress others. She wants to flaunt you in front of her friends and will want you to dress according to her idealistic standards when you are meeting her friends. She will make you feel like a trophy boyfriend in front of her friends.
3. You feel like her errand boy
She has the habit of bossing everyone including you. She makes you do her chores like pick up the dry cleaning, pick up her clothes from the store, feed the dog, etc.
Asking for favours once in a while is normal but if she makes you do her chores almost every day, you’re not her boyfriend but her personal assistant.
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4. A high maintenance girl takes ages to get ready
She is never on time at any event. Imagine telling her to meet you at 7:00 p.m., and when you call her at 7, she’s still not done styling her hair. It takes her hours to get herself all prim and proper. If this is not a sign of a high maintenance girlfriend, then what is?
5. It’s not easy to please a high maintenance girl
You have planned a perfect date for her. But when she comes for the date, instead of being happy she starts complaining about everything. She won’t acknowledge the effort that you put into planning the date for her. Instead, she will point out every possible flaw with your plan.
A high maintenance girl like her own suggestions and plans best. Therefore, your innovative, out of the box ideas might not impress her. She might put on a happy face for your sake but you’ll be able to tell she’s not as pleased as she should be.
6. She’s controlling
A relationship involves two people making decisions together. In your case, she is somehow always the one telling you what to do. She chooses the high-end bar that you should be seen in with your friends, or tells you to hang out at an upmarket club and gets upset if you have friends who do not fit her bill of “successful people”. It is essential for her to make everything fit her idealistic view. You are no exception. She wants you to behave in a way she approves of and therefore ends up being controlling of your every action.
7. She tells you what to buy her
Men may be confused about what to buy their girlfriend and sometimes end up buying the worst of gifts. This is why sometimes girlfriends give hints or slip in suggestions about something they would want. Giving subtle hints is harmless but imagine your girlfriend giving you a list of things to buy her. Oftentimes, this list is filled with fancy things that you can barely afford (and she probably knows that already).
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8. She wants you to be her personal chauffer
You’re always picking up and dropping her everywhere. As cute as it might sound, it’s not possible to pick her and drop her every time you meet her. It becomes tiresome and expensive especially when you both live quite far from each other. But she isn’t willing to understand the situation. When you talk to her about it, she emotionally manipulates you and you have no other choice but to give in.
9. Materialistic things make a high maintenance girl happy
Your high maintenance girlfriend loves you when you buy her expensive gifts! Nothing makes her as happy as fancy shiny things with huge price tags. It doesn’t matter if you end up being in debt. The way to ger heart is through your credit card. Feelings, emotions and love don’t matter much to her as much as materialistic things do. Sometimes you may even feel that you need to keep buying her expensive things to earn her love. Ask yourself, is she with you because she loves you or because of the gifts, you buy her?
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10. Forget offering to split the bill, she always makes you pay
She is used to a lavish lifestyle and wants you to live that way too. To make things worse, a high maintenance girl makes you pay for all these expensive dates. If not all the time, she makes you pay most of the time. It doesn’t matter who is earning more here, it should be the responsibility of both the partners to share the cost or to take turns to pay. If she’s making you pay all the time, it is because she is used to other people paying for her and she likes that privilege.
If you see these red flags in your girlfriend then you’re dating a high maintenance girl. There’s nothing very wrong with being high maintenance. It’s just the way she’s used to living. What matters is whether you can afford this lifestyle. If you think you have the means to and you love this girl, your relationship should be seamless. However, if you are constantly struggling to make ends meet because of this high maintenance girl, you may want to let go.
If your girl is understanding and respects and accepts your differences, that’s great! But if she chooses to criticize and boss you around, her priorities are wrong. Remember what the true meaning of a relationship is and how it feels to be acknowledged by your partner and taking decisions together. If you still have doubts, watch the movie Pyaar ka Punchnama and you’ll know for sure what to do.