I am 32 years old, my husband is 37. I was working in an MNC. When my husband got an onsite opportunity for 6 years he asked me to come along. I left my job and went with him. Then I applied for a visa, but because of something my husband did wrong, I didn’t get a visa and returned to India.
Previously my mother-in-law used to be very dominating and always interfered in our personal matters, even though she is a doctor and a highly educated lady. My father-in-law has no option but to always support his wife. When I was in the US, my relationship with my husband was not good. We had no physical intimacy. He wanted us to have a baby. My MIL always tells my husband to force me for having a child, otherwise he’ll give me a divorce. Her perception is that after a kid I won’t have the option to leave her son and then they can torture me. My husband is not buying a house as yet, because he has the perception that I might leave him and will take half of his property.
I decided to stay in India and started working. But now my project is over and I am jobless. Since a few days, in everything, my husband is threatening me that he’ll give me a divorce. It has been 1.5 years since we are staying separately. He is in the US. This month he is coming back and saying he’ll stay in the guest house. I told him he can stay at my 1 bhk but he said no. I suspect that he is having an extramarital affair, as I have seen him many times watching porn and masturbating. This puts me into a great depression and I feel betrayed and ignored. I told him I feel you are hiding something from me, so he blocked me everywhere – on WhatsApp, phone, Facebook, email. His parents are also threatening me with divorce. Please suggest what should I do. My parents are innocent but due to my in-laws bad behaviour they are not talking with each other. I don’t know what to do.
Snigdha Mishra says:
I can understand this may be confusing if nothing else. How is your communication with your husband? As in how do you talk to him if at all? It is important