I am a 24-year-old engineer. I passed out from my college last year and joined a private company. I enjoyed my job and my workplace. I met him there and we were from the same department. I liked him because he always supported and guided me. He was my senior and nine years older than me.
But I was reluctant to go ahead with a relationship with him for two reasons. One was that I had just overcome a huge breakup (from four years ago). That was my first relationship. Since then I dared not try to fall for anyone again! The second reason was that he was married. So I thought anyhow I have no future with him and I should suppress it. But day after day he showed interest in me. One day, after few months, I told him my feelings without any expectations. He revealed that he also likes me a lot. Since then we were in a relationship. We did everything like a couple.
He said he is going through a bad marriage and showed me the divorce certificate. He said he wasn’t sure what’s going to happen. He said that his baby is not his. I believed him, because I loved him a lot. I wanted to spend my life with him without any name for my relationship. He gave me many commitments, many promises. I loved him madly.
After a few months I decided to resign from work to prepare for competitive exams. He showed no sign of sadness.
His behaviour changed. He started saying that we were just a little more than friends. “I cannot leave my wife. I can’t be committed to you.” I kept on asking, he went on lying and denying all the past promises. He blocked my numbers. Even if I call him from different numbers, he no longer receives the calls.
I know he has left me but I am not able to accept this reality. It really kills me to see again I failed to understand humans. I cry every second, I beg to forget him but all my memories keep haunting me. All unanswered questions keep irritating me. Why and what did he gain? He left me. I was so selfless. Why this betrayal? I suffer every second, ma’am. I call him, send messages, but there is no reply from the other side. What do I do?
Dr Avani Tiwari says:
Dear Young Lady,
First things first – you haven’t failed to understand humans.
Doomed from the start
You just failed to pay attention to what your own common sense was telling you when this