The zodiac has played Cupid to many love stories. Though I cannot certify the scientific logic to this matchmaking, a lot is unexplainable in this world – including the madness of love. If you have a Cancerian man in your life, you’d really want to read this. Because Cancer men have some typical characteristics that determine how they behave in love or when they are dating.
The Cancerian Man
Born in the heat of June and July, the crabby fellow is as much a catch as the second guy you go out on a date with, which is uncharted and unpredictable. But we all want to have some solace in mapping the person sitting opposite to us, besides the fact and human proof and zodiac signs are there to tickle that fancy. Surprisingly specific and acidic inaccuracy, here are five signs to watch out for if you have a Cancerian man to deal with. Now do not ask if these are five positive or negative points; that is for you to judge. But we feel that if you are dating a Cancer these aspects of his character are bound to show.
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5 Signs To Watch Out For If You Are Dating A Cancerian Man
He might come across as shy, docile and insecure in the first few times you meet him but chances are he is anything but that. He is a chivalrous, caring man inside who might take a bit of a time to open up. Keep these 5 points in mind if you are navigating in a relationship with a Cancer man you will find it much easier to deal with him.
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1. Cancerians can be vicious
The unassuming thumb-size chillies that can burn down your nervous system for seconds – the infamous chilli from India is quite the analogy for our shy Cancerian man. The docile and cautious Cancerian is easily mistaken to be a meek pushover, while the reality is when time and situation calls for it, our Cancerian man can be pretty vicious. Extremely secretive and mysterious, the crab man is very snippy about his personal space and if you so much breach the limits, you can prepare yourself for a severe burn.
Do not go by the appearance of the Cancerian man; there is more beneath the surface than you can imagine. He could seem shy, obliging and simple but when you push him the wrong way he will not hesitate for a moment to show you the fangs.
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2. Cancer is a shapeshifter
They are not the bipolar Geminis, but often exhibit a drastic shift in mood that can make you feel like you are standing on quicksand. Be prepared to be confused by a Cancerian, as the evening might start with the cheerful light man who greeted you with the brightest smile, but suddenly take a gloomy turn without any apparent reason. Do not beat yourself up about what you did wrong or if you should say sorry anyway because it is his intrinsic switch that is faulty.
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Unless it is something apparent that has flipped the mood table, do not sweat over the fickleness; the crab comes with a side of steamed moodiness. This moodiness is an integral part of his personality with the time you will realise that and learn to deal with it too. Don’t keep asking, “What happened?” that simply makes him more gloomy. Give him his space, in all probabilities he would switch back.
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3. Compulsive chivalry is a Cancerian trait
For the women who prefer their men to not try so hard to be one, must take their judgment down a notch, because a Cancerian’s chivalry is said to stem more from the stars than social conditioning. Old school in this department, men who live by the zodiac granted qualities will be holding the door open, paying the bills and letting you stay afloat on a plank while he drowns in the freezing sea a la Titanic, more often than you care for.
I am sorry, I got distracted there. But you get the drift! And don’t try to talk about equality, feminism, women’s emancipation there. Enjoy what he is doing for you he would love it if he sees those stars in your eyes when he gives you his coat in the rain.
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4. Cancerians have trust issues
He does not trust easily and that sometimes is the hindering agent in their lacklustre romantic timeline. It takes time for this sceptical sun sign to give up his barriers and rely on another person emotionally or otherwise.
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So if you are running out of patience and suspect your Cancerian man to be less invested in this, think again- it takes time for some people to allow vulnerabilities in a relationship, and our Cancerian friend is surely one of those. But when he finally shows you his inner self be sure that his love for you solid, stead and caring.
5. Cancerians can be insecure
He might not be expressing his need for security and reassurance like most other men, but our Cancerian man definitely needs your undivided loyalty in a relationship. So you might have assumed that your man is secure in his skin and knows his place in your life, but you are in all probability mistaken, as he needs the validation of his emotions and masculinity. So make him feel needed if you are trying to smooth things out.
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How Does A Cancer Man Act When In Love
A Cancer man in love is that pot of gold at the end of the rainbow that we all dream of. He will be everything you want from your beau. Here are some signs:-
- He will remember every small detail about you. How many ice cubes you like in your drink or that you like your tea piping hot. His eye for detail will only be directed to you. So when in a group he may not remember specifics of other girls but he will not miss out on your likes and dislikes. He will remember what you wore the first time you guys met and also perhaps the perfume you were wearing!
- Ask him for a casual favour and he will move heaven and earth to make sure it is done. You have an exam and have to stay up all night. You ask him if he can chat with you on your breaks and he will make sure he is up, even if he is a morning lark. He will go out of his way, inconvenience himself to any length to make sure what you want is done.
- They will celebrate the smallest of occasions. Even the 1-month completion at the job you love.
- He will listen when you speak, really listen. Try asking him about that movie you mentioned the other day? He will remember.
- He will constantly speak of the future and you will be in it. he will make long term plans with you and mean them.
- He will try and set up a casual meeting at his home where you will ‘bump’ into his parents. It could be a game night of Settlers of Catan or it could be a sports-watching thing. But he will make sure you meet his parents casually.
- Sometimes Cancer men express their love through cooking. He will cook for you.
When a Cancer man is hurt
It is not easy to cheese off a Cancerian, they have pretty high thresholds, but if you have hurt them even unintentionally you will need to work hard at mending things. Yes, Cancerians are moody, sensitive but they also love deeply and hurt as much too. They will hold on to the memories of hurt far longer than other sun signs. Chances are they will not even want to speak to you. You must have patience. Here are some things to take note of:-
1. Even your small actions will hurt him
If he is upset with you, your small actions will seem big to him. He will not be able to sleep well. he will start distancing himself. Give him space and time he wants gently making sure that you are available whenever he is ready. You can do small little things for him, like share a picture of a nice sunrise or a song that both of you cherished.
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2. Offer a sincere apology when you think he is ready
Cancerians are all about emotions so your apology too better be truly heartfelt. Look him in the eye and tell him how sorry you are for your actions. Ask him what can you do to make up for it. Wait for his response. Do not get angry if he doesn’t respond with warmth immediately. You have enjoyed his pampering now wait for his heart to forget the hurt again.
3. Try and speak about his feelings
Cancerians love words. Make him speak of the hurt. Let it all flow. Once he has purged and expressed his sadness, and if you feel the timing is right, write him a long letter or an email. Written words have a stronger impact, especially for Cancerians. He may cry, be ready.
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4. Tell him what he means to you
Speak of all the things which attracted you to him. Tell him about all the things he does that you absolutely adore and tell him how secure and complete you feel with him.
You have picked a strong, and a loving sun sign to love, do not mess it up because of petty fights and ego. Good luck!