The Fights With My Husband are Turning Ugly

My Questions and Answers | October 1, 2019 | Expert Author Joie Bose , Professional Coach
Updated On: October 18, 2023

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My husband is a very arrogant, egoistic and a short-tempered person and he is becoming more and more intolerant towards me. Our fights are turning ugly and he is constantly picking up fights with me.

Our fights are turning ugly with every passing day

He picks up on small things and creates issues. I am getting very stressed out nowadays. If I have a different opinion on anything he can’t take that and starts fighting with me to prove his point. Please help me out. I don’t know how to keep my relationship good, it’s becoming very ugly day by day. After a fight, he treats me like a stranger. Recently we are not even on talking terms and he keeps on giving me the silent treatment. He is always misbehaving with me and I can’t take it anymore. Whenever we fight it turns really ugly. What I can do to save our relationship?

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Hello dear,

Step back and see the entire situation. Your husband is misbehaving with you and he gets angry. He is all the time interacting with you even if you are silent. It just means that something is wrong in his life that he can’t share and he wants to share it with you but somehow can’t.

Here’s how to save your marriage from ugly fights

There is only one way to deal with this – be nonreactive. He will do all he can to make you react but you must not, under any circumstances. Behave as if nothing has happened and if he irritates you too much tell him categorically these words – you are being negative and I don’t want this at all. Then don’t react.

Stay normal

Talk about normal things. Make his favourite food. Men love to eat. Soon he will soften and one day, whatever is really bothering him will slip out of his lips and both of you together will be able to solve it.

Love,
Joie

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Joie Bose

Joie Bose is considered as one of the leading English poets of the city and writes Confessions with Joie Bose for Bonobology (when she is not working for a multinational company). She co-founded Poetry Paradigm and is an executive body member of Indian Performance and Poetry Library. She is also the joint-convenor of the National Poetry Festival. She has authored \'Corazon Roto and Sixty Nine Other Treasons\'(2015), has co-edited two poetry anthologies, \'Dawn Beyond the Waste\'(2016) and \'Cologne of Heritage\'(2017), and has been published widely in journals both nationally and internationally. HerÂ poemsÂ have been translated into Albanian, Bengali and Hindi. Internationally, she has performed her poetry in Japan and China, and in many Indian cities. Her works look deeply into interpersonal relationships, intra-personal relationships and the human psyche.