The effort needed to have a happy, healthy relationship
Happy relationships don’t exist unless you work for them. It takes a lot of work and consistency to make a relationship work, let alone be happy. Couples in happy relationships have a tendency to make it seem as though the whole relationship is maintained effortlessly, but in reality, it took them a while to figure things out or be at a place where they know what they are doing. There is no detour to find the place of happiness. For that you must take the longest road and discover things as you travel along the way.
A sense of responsibility and accountability always helps to garner a healthy relationship between two functional people. To be able to stay mentally healthy with each other’s support means that you care enough. Relationships are almost like baking cakes; it is just very stressful, but in the end it’s worth the effort.
So, what exactly are the things that couples do in a happy relationship?
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They are transparent to one another
Your transparency will help you two grow as human beings. When two people are in a relationship, a lot of things are at stake. Be it your vulnerability or your lack of responsibility, everything is bound to surface as you stay in a relationship. But that is healthy, since it makes things obvious between you and your partner. Couples who are in a happy relationship tend to stay honest. Honesty is very much an agency that helps them keep the transparency alive.
They compromise and that is something people avoid doing these days. Compromises help you reciprocate things that are beyond anyone’s comprehensibility. These compromises help them establish trust, which further strengthens the relationship. These compromises may range from having dosa to reading something you aren’t fond of; little things like these can spice up the life of any couple.
Financial talk is done frankly
Relationships often falter when it comes to financial talk. Financial talk is done in a way which establishes equal shares of everything. Certain compromises are understandable, but the majority of it should be talked out in a formal way. Love is infinite but resources/capital aren’t, so spend them wisely.
Love is infinite but resources/capital aren’t, so spend them wisely.
A little PDA
PDA is often harmless, unless you are trying to rub it in everyone’s face. Do what you have to and care less for the world. But be on the lookout for moral police, because they are likely to bash your love. If you love your partner, there’s no harm in a little PDA. Let the world gaze at you, for you are only in love and not there to make war.
“I don’t like this thing that you do” is the kind of attitude that can make couples fight less. Being honest and calling out each other’s bullshit can be very healthy for any relationship. It doesn’t mean that you are less empathetic towards your partner, but it makes a point where you realise that no one’s perfect. Don’t let the small things fester into something dreadful, be upfront and this is a formula for a healthy relationship.
Doesn’t matter where you do it, but taking some time out of the day to go out and having a nice dinner can always lead to a happy ending. The dates don’t count, but the time spent does. Most happy couples go out on dates frequently and have healthy conversations about things. Every little snippet of your respective lives matters and talking about it helps you make memories.
Every little snippet of your respective lives matters and talking about it helps you make memories.
These little things do help and they matter.
Complimenting each other
It is more like you are flirting, except that you are not being very subtle. Compliments help to keep the positivity flowing through any relationship. These compliments would act as validation, which often elevates the chances of having a healthy and tangible relationship. It might also be a random act of kindness or them looking sharp in an outfit; compliment and see where it takes you. Help the butterflies in your stomach bloom out of the cocoon, set them free.
Literally have a lot of dessert, because life is short and you might as well have diabetes than miss out the amazing desserts. Dessert can sweeten up the relationship, just like your compassion. So always remember to be more compassionate, empathetic, sensible, responsible and more importantly a kind person. Because relationships are not tokens or medals that you have but like flowers which need to be taken care of every day.