7 People Share The Worst Things Their Marriages Have Ever Survived

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Marriage is a huge commitment. Sticking it out with one person for life is a big commitment and no easy task. Marriage is definitely one of the most glorious things there is, and the one that has to endure almost anything. The story of Kajol and Ajay Devgn’s marriage is an inspiring marriage story because their marriage has weathered much. While the media has made allegations of extramarital relationships against Ajay Devgn, Kajol in a recent interview said that she had two miscarriages before daughter Nysa was born.  Weathering all storms the couple has been together for 21 years now, are parents to two beautiful children and have their own production company.

It is said that marriages are made in heaven but the fact remains it has to be lived on earth. All married couples go through certain stages – little fights, big fights, romance fizzling out to the point that it culminates to lack of intimacy. While some sit out the storm easily, some face different kinds of problems that put their marriage to test. Is marriage the hardest thing to deal with? It could be because marriage is about two totally different people from different backgrounds coming together to share the same roof after attaining adulthood. It’s about understanding each other and facing the trials and tribulations of life together. In doing that some people come out with flying colours and some people stumble. Here are inspiring experiences of people who managed to ride out the storm of their married life. These are inspiring stories of marriages that survived.

Inspiring Stories Of Marriages That Survived

It is said that when the honeymoon period gets over the real marriage begins. You never know when a marriage can throw you a curveball but how you deal with it and how you come out strong from the situation says how successful your marriage is. Six people tell us what their marriages went through and how their marriages survived.

1. “When we lost our baby”

“We lost our baby. He was two and a half years old. The blow was hard and my wife took it really hard. She took to drinking and there was not one day when she went sober. The death hit me severely but I had to be strong for my wife. We bickered a lot. I was angry most of the time on my wife because she was not even trying to cope with the loss. My mother was the only one patient with her. She fed her and helped her. There was a time two years after the incident that I wanted to go for a divorce but I couldn’t do it.

It was after my wife tried to slash her wrist that I realised I loved her like crazy and I was being selfish. The near-suicide made me care for her, made me stronger.

We went to therapy for a year before she learnt to cope with the loss and stopped drinking heavily. It has been 5 years now. She is sober. We have a healthy baby boy and we have never been more in love.”

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2. “When he had an affair”

He had an affair with this student of his for six months. I never found out about it. He came and confessed. We had a spat where we didn’t even look at each other’s faces. But things got better. Infidelity can make or break marriages; for us, it made ours better. We made the effort to stick it out and he showed he could be trusted again. He has kept his word since that day and I am glad I didn’t pack up and leave for the one mistake he made.

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I realised it is easier to hold on to a grudge and tougher to forgive. But if the bond of your marriage is really strong it would survive all adversities. ”

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3. “When he lost his job”

“There was a time when the company my husband worked for crashed. Unemployment made him crazy. My in-laws or my parents were not supportive at all which made him even crazier. The little money that I made, he spent it on useless things and never lifted a finger to help around the house or with our kid. No work did not help his self-esteem and he got selfish day after day.

We spent months living under the same roof and talking only when needed. He was depressed but refused to seek help, taking jabs at me whenever I tried to talk to him about getting help.

It was only after he got a new job that he started getting better. The first month of the job he rarely came home and I thought this was it for us. The month he got the first salary, he came home and handed me the money. He even agreed to go to a therapist and was back to his self after a few months. If I think about those days now, I still get the goosebumps. My husband is a strong man but unemployment can drag a whole family down.”

4. “When my wife was diagnosed with cancer”

“My wife got diagnosed with cancer a few years back. There was a massive financial strain but we managed to get through. Am glad the cancer was diagnosed in its early stages and I am grateful that she was strong enough for both of us. I love her like crazy.

I guess going through her cancer treatment was the toughest period of our marriage but emotionally and financially. It was like a battle we fought every day and came out triumphant. I feel a marriage that survives cancer can survive anything. ”

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5. “When we had to endure a long-distance marriage”

“My wife had to go for a teaching job in Oman for three years. I had to stay back for the kids. We didn’t know that distance was going to be so hard. We met only during vacations and it was not easy. I never knew a long-distance relationship could be so tough. On the one hand, I missed her physical presence and emotional support and on the other hand, I had to look after the children single-handedly. It was at times so emotionally draining. Three years is a long time. But when she came back, the reunion was the sweetest thing I HAVE EVER KNOWN.”
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6. “Adjusting with children from her first marriage”

“My wife had children form her first marriage and after we got married, things weren’t that great. The teenage children did not like me one bit. The mother-in-law looked at me like I was a monster. Gave me hell.

Given how everyone hated me, my wife had to take her family’s side sometimes which drove me crazy.

I never knew dealing with stepchildren could be so difficult and they could have so much hatred in their heart for their stepdad. Sometimes I used to think that I was all wrong in my decision to get into this marriage. It was only after the elder child went off to college that the younger boy started warming up to me. It is all good now.”

7. “When she went through a trauma”

“I was raped. The struggle was ugly. There was a time when my husband would be upset about everything and he would vent it on me. He failed to see that I was the victim. People around like neighbours, relatives and even friends did not make it easier for us. They drove us insane asking the prodding questions and everything inevitably would lead to what was my role really in the rape. I plunged into depression and sometimes I felt that our marriage would fall apart.

But I don’t know from where we got the strength to stick it out and he understood what I went through was traumatic and became more compassionate. He is a nice man and I am glad we made it through a hard time.”

When marriages survive the most difficult situations these become the success stories. A marriage is never smooth sailing but how you deal with the hard times will tell you how successful your marriage is.

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2 comments

Abhi October 18, 2018 - 3:12 pm

My worst time is still going on, we were in a relationship but she left me to marry someone else. They got married after 6 months of engagement, and after 2-3 months they are separated now. Now she is back begging to get back into my life and i unable to accept her back until i move on from the past.

Ishita Roy
Ishita Roy May 19, 2018 - 12:43 pm

My neighbour lost everything in a tragic fire, including their son. We all saw their marriage crumble. So many trials marriage has to get through. It’s sad.

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