Is he trust-worthy? Watch out for the red flags
Trust is definitely the most vital factor that can make or break a relationship. It’s impossible to build a long-term bond with someone who makes you suspicious, whom you can’t trust with your eyes closed and who has a tendency to make you wary of their ‘little white lies’ frequently. That is why it’s important to make sure that the person is worthy of your unwavering trust before getting committed to them. If you want to know if he is really trustworthy, look out for these 6 tell-tale signs.
1. He is finicky about his phone
If he tends to take phone calls in another room or away from you in public places, then it’s an obvious sign that he has got something to hide. Some people like to keep a few things private, and that’s perfectly okay. He doesn’t need to share every detail of his life with you, but if he always takes his phone with him when he leaves the room even for a few seconds, receives texts in the middle of the night that he answers in a suspiciously private manner, keeps changing his mobile phone password so that you don’t access it and always takes his calls in private, then there is something shady about the guy.
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2. He randomly cancels plans
It’s perfectly normal to blow off plans on short notice for legitimate reasons – like working late or having a family emergency to take care of. But if he has a tendency to cancel plans frequently with weird excuses or if he always comes up with the same excuse then it’s time to open your eyes.
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3. He frequently ‘forgets’ to share information
Let’s say he hangs out at his friend’s place every Friday night. You were told it is a ‘boys only’ party time but eventually you find out that girls often visit them too. When you confront him about it he says he ‘forgot’ to mention about it. This is called ‘little white lies’ and no matter what the colour of it is, it’s a lie.
4. He is not there when you need him
Being in a relationship needs two people involved in it to be present for each other when the situation demands. It’s perfectly normal for him to not be there every time you need him due to valid reasons. However, if he takes too long to answer your call or reply to texts whenever you try to reach him to share work problems, family issues or emotional vulnerabilities then he has got something to hide. You need to be able to count on him when things go bad. If he is ‘too busy’ to comfort you when you need him there is no way he is worthy of your trust.
5. He has jealousy issues
A person who lies at your face, hides things from you and then manipulates you by piling more lies to prove that he is not lying knows in his core what he is doing with you. Such people tend to look at the world from the same mirror. If he is constantly jealous of whom you are talking to, always asking where you are going and what you are doing behind his back, don’t mistake that for him being caring. It’s an untrustworthy person’s tendency to project his guilt about the things he is doing wrong with you.
6. He has lied to you in the past
If he has lied to you about important matters on more than one occasion in the past and has got away with it, I can bet he is going to lie to you again. It’s obvious, but needs to be said anyway. Some people have a tendency to lie and they are definitely not the ones you can trust.
That being said, dump him right away!