5 Signs That The Woman In Your Life Has Daddy Issues

Gaurav Deka
Your girl might have daddy issues

Her father could have been an alcoholic, abusive towards her mom, was strict to a fault or was too busy at work so never emotionally available. Many women grow up with fathers who are unable to develop healthy relationships with their daughters. This inability to have a close relationship with the father creates all kinds of issues in a woman that she herself does not know about its existence or only discovers when she is trying to have a relationship with a man.  A woman has daddy issues if she is trying to resolve the issues that were created in her childhood with her father through her other relationships in adulthood.

What Are Daddy Issues In Women?

The origin of daddy issues, like all other tabooed sexual issues, goes back to Papa Freud. Though the coin “Electra Complex” was coined by sidekick Jung, in simple language, any woman having daddy issues will have a subconscious hook by which they attract or fall in love with men who typify all kinds of unresolved issues in their relationship with their own father, or rather a way by which they replicate a similar relationship which can fill up the void of an absent father or the lack of a relationship with a significant male person from their childhood.

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Symptoms of daddy issues

The first symptom of a daddy issue is a woman is unable to sustain a stable relationship. She is usually jumping from one relationship to another. She has a tendency to like older men and even regularly falls for married men and gets even more hurt in the end leading to further mental turmoil. She wants attention and importance like a child and is actually quite aggressive in bed. Many men initially might like this aggressiveness and craving for attention in the initial stages of the relationship but later it does become tiring.

5 Signs Of Daddy Issues In Women

Women with daddy issues usually have trouble knowing what they want from a relationship. This happens because they never had their fathers by their side when they were growing up. There were no daddy-daughter hide-and-seek games, never any me time at KFC, or play time at the park. This emotional and physical unavailability of the father also creates issues like a woman feels sexually inadequate, becomes clingy and is often extremely aggressive.  Here are 5 signs that show a woman has daddy issues.

Sign 1: No concept of boundary

Not only do I mean sexual aggressiveness here, but a sense of individuation in such women may be absolutely lacking. You may find your girlfriend or spouse not only struggling to find her own space but continuously transgressing into your space. You have to understand that they are still not ‘adults’.

And are stuck in their childhood stage of clinging to a parent, demanding attention, space and accommodation. As an adult, you may understand your boundaries and space, but she may have no awareness of any boundary (she’s still stuck in her 7-year-old time energy capsule).

In fact, most of these women would feel guilty of laying down any boundary for themselves, because they’d feel they’re upsetting you by doing that, much like they’d upset their parent by retreating into an adult life where everyone exists as an individual. This is a clear sign a woman has daddy issues.

Sign 2: Abject plea for validation

As I said, Daddy Issues are not simply about getting attracted to an older man, in order to replicate a childhood relationship, but also mostly about the ‘absence of a father’. This can even mean that the father existed but was never emotionally available. In such cases, you may find your girlfriend or spouse constantly hankering and bawling for attention and validation. Everything in her world is of value and worth only because you approve of it.

Everything in her world is of value and worth only because you approve of it.

Criticism of any sort may be taken over-emotionally. Sometimes followed by anger, crying and aggression, to the extent that you may have to amend a negative statement that you made earlier.

Sign 3: Crippling jealousy

Unrelenting jealousy and insecurity are classical signs of a woman who might be having daddy issues. This may also come with extreme clinginess and demand for attention. She may still be inhabiting her child body, where everything in her world is about fighting for attention from her father who is occasionally more attentive to the mother. That’s actually the root of Electra Complex. It’s the envy or the jealousy of a female child for her father in competition to her mother as a part of sexual development. And some women unfortunately may find themselves stuck in that stage and make life hell for their partners in adult life. There is no doubt then that a girl has daddy issues.

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Sign 4: Pathological fear of being single

This is almost addictive because such a phobia may drive a woman into serial dating and settling down with anyone who walks into their life. They cannot, I repeat, just cannot handle breakups, as they find them apocalyptic and damaging. They have to move on to another person.

In many cases, they would keep going back to their ex and indulge with them physically, mentally and emotionally without any sense of self-respect or self-esteem.

The fear of being single may drive them into an addictive cycle of losing their own sense of self, as they find it immensely difficult to be comfortable in the presence of their own company. This is an absolute sign of daddy issues in a woman.

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Sign 5: Constantly asks – Do you really love me?

Since everything in their world is motivated by fear and by a deep sense of threat and loss, the thought that their partner may leave them any day and then they would have to survive alone, they need constant reassurance. As a child we are, of course, scared that in the absence of our parents we will die! Even when you first start going to school, you remember feeling a deep sense of fear and loss about what if mommy or daddy don’t come to see you or pick you up. It’s a crippling and debilitating thought for the child. But with time, as we grow up into singular beings, we are more comfortable with being by ourselves.

Certain times, in dysfunctional families and abusive marriages, because the child constantly witnesses violence and aggression from the father, they are trapped within that fear that ‘that’ experience may find repetition and because father didn’t love mother, the child has to constantly find some kind of reassurance that he (the quasi-father-partner) loves her and wouldn’t abandon her.

Daddy issues are prevalent in more women than we can imagine. It does stem from a deep sense of neglect in childhood. Love and professional counselling can help resolve daddy issues in a girl.

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1 comment

Gauri May 13, 2018 - 1:31 am

Trust me whoever has written this has no idea about what all goes inside the heart and mind of a girl who never got a father’s love… It very easy for people to coin terms n rationalise things but trust me… The most valuable person in a girls life is a father and when he isn’t available a girls life is altogether different…

To a normal male this article may come as a strict no-no warning to not get involved with the talked about person…

But I would respectfully request the writer that if you present a side that projects the negativities …. Try being emphatic enough to take effort in writing yet another round of and about things of how the same person should be loved and treated and what all can be done to make the bond more beautiful…

Every person has pains griefs or sorrows …Or at least meets them in his journey of life and yet needs a companion to share life with …

So if you find and point out specific cons perspective of things… Find the pros perspective too or at least plausible solutions…

Sorry for being assertive n thankyou for reading..

Stay blessed!

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