There is a fine line between being a loving girlfriend and a clingy one. All boyfriends want a loving girlfriend who cares for them like no other. What boyfriends don’t like is a psycho who stalks their everyday life and does not give them space even to breathe. Are you that psycho girlfriend? Be prepared to become his psycho EX-girlfriend if that’s you. Men loathe sticky girlfriends and you should know better if you want to show your guy you care. If the clingy girlfriend signs are there in you then maybe it’s not too late to rectify yourself and save your relationship.
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One of our male readers shared his dating horror story with a girl he met while pursuing higher education abroad. She would want to spend all her time with him and would get frustrated if he made plans with his friends even if they involved her. She wanted all his attention and demanded he share his location with her. She would constantly check his ‘last seen’ to make sure he was not avoiding replying to her and even threatened him with suicide when he tried to break up with her.
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We know that clinginess is confusing. You don’t want to be too clingy nor too distant. It is difficult to find the right balance between clinginess and distance. The truth is that the extent of clinginess varies from relationship to relationship. What could be too clingy for one boyfriend could seem like lots of love and care for the other? But there are some needy girlfriend signs that most men get put off by. Who said understanding relationships was a piece of cake?
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What is being in a clingy relationship?
Being in a clingy relationship is when girlfriends cross all limits of possessiveness. They want a relationship where it’s just the two of them and there is no room for their boyfriend’s friends, family or colleagues. They become too clingy and needy and their boyfriends start to find ways to avoid them.
What makes a woman so clingy and needy? Are all women in relationships clingy and needy? Most women who are clingy are not even aware of the negative effects of their actions and probably do not think they are doing anything wrong. It’s as if their judgement and self-awareness are clouded with an influx of emotions and love hormones. They constantly feel the urge to either talk to their partner or meet up with them. Staying apart even for a few hours makes them psychotic and crazy. These are needy girlfriend signs.
Clinginess could either be due to the initial excitement of a relationship or the fear of a potential heartbreak. The fear of her boyfriend cheating on her makes her uncomfortable and she, therefore, forces herself into her boyfriend’s life to constantly be a part of it. But this results in making her look like the sticky girlfriend about whom horror stories are written about.
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15 Signs Of Being A Clingy Girlfriend
Are you afraid to screw up a relationship because you can feel yourself becoming too clingy? Don’t worry, this article will help you see through all those overwhelming emotions and become the girlfriend your boyfriend actually wants to spend time with. If your boyfriend is asked, “Are you dating a clingy girl?” Would he say, “Yes”? Read through the following clingy girlfriend signs as warning signs in your relationship.
1. You do not give him space
You become so desperate to be a major part of his life that you even want to become the air he breathes. You want him to spend his entire day with you and will keep asking him whether he thinks about you.
You want him to give an update of his whereabouts every 5 minutes and will start obsessing if he stops replying to your texts all of a sudden.
Men love their space more than anything else. Give him the space he needs and he will gradually let you enter it. Be patient enough to let it happen on its own. Don’t push it. Don’t show the clingy girlfriend signs.
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2. You want to talk to him the all the time
We all love the honeymoon phase of a relationship where you both can’t keep your hands off each other and have so much to talk about. You want to talk to each other day and night and eagerly wait for the next time you meet. After the honeymoon phase wears off, things get back to normal as the temperature of your relationship is in control. If you still want to talk to him the entire day even after the honeymoon phase is over, then stop.
When you keep calling him or sending him clingy girlfriend texts, even if you know that he might not be able to talk, it is called disturbing. Then you want to Facetime, video chat all the time and tell him to show on video where he is hanging out.
3. His entire life must revolve around you
After getting into a relationship, many people forget that they still have separate lives. A clingy girlfriend is the first one to forget that. You want him to do everything solely with you. You want to be the most important person in his life and in this attempt, you force him to plan everything according to your wishes.
Wherever he goes, you follow. These are clingy girlfriend signs.
We know of many such stories but here’s the one that stands out the most. After four months of dating, the girl being talked about, made her entire life about her boyfriend. She was already texting him and calling him all day but then she also started adopting his hobbies and interests. She noticed that he often used the excuse of watching cricket with his friends and excluded her so she made it her job to learn everything about the sport and demanded she be invited too. She ordered books online and read up on the game.
It reached a point where she would even come to his workplace and eat lunch with him because she couldn’t be away from him for so many hours. The guy didn’t know how to deal with his clingy girlfriend.
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4. You are over-dependent on him
You take this relationship too seriously. By building your whole life around him most of the time, you have forgotten what your life was like before him. Doing anything without him makes you feel nervous. You call him to solve every minor issue in your life. These are signs that you are being highly clingy. For a happy relationship, one must have their individual lives and interests as well as some in common.
5. All his attention should be on you
You want him to give you his undivided attention. Even him talking about another girl makes you furious and suspicious. You feel like you should always be on his mind like he is on yours. Initially, your boyfriend might find it cute. He might even think it’s a sign of love. Constant attention-seeking will eventually frustrate him and he will want an out.
While jealousy is completely normal you must be able to control your behavior and show some restraint. Do it before he thinks you are an unstable girlfriend.
6. You become suspicious
There are parts of his life which you might not be involved in. Not knowing his whereabouts will make you suspicious. All sorts of weird thoughts and ideas will be in your mind. The fear of him cheating on you will make you paranoid. You will start asking him constant questions and you won’t believe him even if he is telling the truth and will constantly demand proof.
Constant suspicion is a big turn-off. It will only distance him even more and he would see all the clingy girlfriend signs in you and end the relationship.
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7. You are constantly thinking about him
It’s good to be crazy about him. But by constantly thinking about him and your relationship, you are leaving no room for your individual life. It is very important to have a life of your own in which your boyfriend doesn’t play a part. Maintain a balance between your individual life and your love life. Make sure you don’t ignore your friends while you are in a relationship or distance yourself from your family.
For instance even when you are out shopping with your friends you are buying stuff like shirts, perfume, tie, watches – only for him. You must make an active effort to be there for your friends and family and also invest more time in your professional career. All these qualities will make you more attractive to a man.
8. Insecurity creeps in
Somewhere within, you get a feeling that your boyfriend isn’t as serious about your relationship as you are. This makes you uncomfortable and insecure. Thinking about the fact that you may not be his only top priority might make you fear that your relationship is threatened. You try as hard as you can to become his priority. You might be important in his life but you cannot constantly keep seeking validation about this. Your boyfriend will have things in his life that are as important to him as you are and this is completely normal.
Trust is the foundation of a healthy relationship and if you don’t trust him, then what are you fighting for? If he is looking stunning in a leather jacket compliment him, instead of thinking other women will be eyeing him.
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9. You are jealous that he has a life without you
Your boyfriend has a life of his own. He could be making plans without you and you don’t enjoy it. You are jealous of him enjoying without you and question whether his friends make him happier than you do. You even try to sabotage his plans and forcefully include yourself in them. You are nothing but being a sticky girlfriend and you could end up being his nightmare. He would not really know how to deal with his clingy girlfriend that would lead to fights and constant tiffs and eventually he might dump you.
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10. You are possessive
Every girlfriend is a bit possessive about her man but too much of it is the doom of a relationship. If you are being over-possessive, stop it! You are obsessing over him. Over-possessive girlfriends start treating their boyfriends like their property and no one else can even eye them.
A casual conversation between your boyfriend and a female friend will make you want to scratch the girl’s eyes out. You must be able to trust your partner and understand that at times he will interact with the opposite sex and even have close friends who are women. Irrational jealousy and possessiveness have no place in a healthy relationship.
11. You are too available
Always being available for him will make him take you for granted. He will know that you will always make time for him and thus he will only make plans at his convenience and not be afraid to cancel on you last minute. Know your self-worth and make him realise it too. Do not put him above everyone and everything. If you had plans to meet your friend for coffee don’t cancel on her just because your boyfriend is available now.
12. You don’t think he loves you enough
Have you ever asked your boyfriend whether he loves you about 500 times a day? You are already being clingy. Whatever validation he is providing you with is not enough for you and it might never be. Him telling you his feelings isn’t enough validation. You constantly want more, even if you don’t know it just yet. There is constant doubt in your mind related to his ‘true’ feelings. If you constantly feel this way and there have been instances that might indicate the same then have an honest conversation with him. Otherwise, the signs that you are clingy girlfriend are just too apparent. Do you keep gifting him things and expect him to reciprocate constantly to show his love?
13. Low self-esteem
“What did I do to get someone as amazing as you?” This is something we all have told our boyfriends at some point in time. Do you think that you don’t deserve him? Do you think that he is too good for you? Low self-esteem usually makes a person more insecure. She, therefore, clings onto every possible thing to make the relationship work because she fears that he will find someone better than her and leave her. If you didn’t deserve him, then he wouldn’t have chosen to be with you.
14. Stalk his social media account
Social media accounts are a great way to gather really useful information about your boyfriend’s life. A picture is worth a 1000 words and so are the comments on them. But what about stalking his friends, friends of friends and friends of friends of friends? Have you reached the point where you stalk all possible accounts remotely related to your boyfriend just to know where each one stands in his life?
I sense a clingy lover!
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15. You keep wanting to meet his parents
When you are in a serious relationship then wanting to meet his parents isn’t surprising or uncommon. He is very important to you and what is better than getting to know him further through the eyes of his parents? You want to know his parents on a personal level and want them to like you. You constantly coax him to take you to meet his parents.
Meeting the parents is a big step which he might not be ready to take. So trust him when he tells you that he will do it when he is ready. Don’t badger him and let the process take the time it needs.
How to stop being a clingy girlfriend?
To avoid being a clingy girlfriend could need some hard work depending on how easily you get tempted into doing the crazy things your mind is asking you to. Worship the tips below to help you be the girlfriend every guy loves.
- Maintain a distance. Make him call you first sometimes too. It will make him miss you more and keep the spark alive in your relationship
- Keep some aspects of your life a surprise for him to explore. Don’t give everything away too soon. Men love women who have an air of mystery around them.
- Stay mysterious. Make him want to unravel your secrets. Make him crave you
- Do things for yourself. Work on your own life first
- Give him space. You need to trust him with what he does when you are not around
If you could relate to more than seven points, then it’s time you do something about it before your boyfriend plans to dump his clingy girlfriend. A relationship may not work, but being dumped for being too clingy isn’t something any girl wants to hear.