Most women have fantasised about finding the ONE and living a fairy-tale life with their soulmate. The hopeless romantic rarely believes that anything could go wrong in her relationship and so when she starts feeling lonely or disregarded in a relationship, it’s painful for her. The woman feels neglected in a relationship and the connection that she once shared with her partner seems to fizzle out, she thinks it’s her fault until she doesn’t.
After a long day at work, your partner comes home and starts fixating on his messages, video games, Netflix shows or worse goes out to socialize with his friends leaving you all alone at home.
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When your Prince Charming isn’t emotionally available or doesn’t cater to all your needs, it is but natural to feel lonely and unwanted in a relationship.
How She Reacts When Feels Neglected In A Relationship
Most women are conditioned to think that if anything goes wrong in a relationship it’s HER fault and she has to be the one to fix it. Read on to find the ways a woman can react when she is neglected in a relationship.
1. Crying and pleading for affection
If your wife or girlfriend cries in front of you, guys it’s serious and not some drama for attention. It’s hurting her self-respect and dignity. If even after this, your man doesn’t mend his ways, it is time to face the truth – you are not his priority. He disrespects your feelings and isn’t willing to change.
2. Blames her appearance
If you find her making remarks about her body, it’s probably because she doesn’t feel appreciated by you and thinks you don’t desire her enough. Instead of getting aggressive and putting the blame on you, she blames herself and her appearance. If he isn’t taking steps to make you feel special then maybe you should stop your guilt trips.
3. Doesn’t care anymore
Remember when she used to tell you every detail about her life and how it used to annoy you. You knew about her whereabouts 24×7. But, now you are often clueless and don’t know if she will be home or not when you are back at work. Guess what? She no longer cares whether her significant other is worrying about her or not. She may even believe that you are indifferent about her safety.
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4. The inevitable dead bedroom
She no longer initiates sex. Most emotional problems give way to the dead bedroom. If she is depressed regarding the way the relationship is going, it might affect her hormones and libido. She might realise that sex will not fix the emotional void. She avoids sex because she feels neglected in the relationship.
5. Change of priorities
She has found new passions to pursue. It could be gardening, vlogging, cooking, or making headway in her career. Suddenly the tables have turned and now you are the one who feels like a trophy girlfriend, something you have been treating her like! Guess what? She is fed up of NOT being your priority and hence she is new prioritizing herself.
6. Exit affairs to bid goodbye
Often spouses indulge in exit affairs to pull the final trigger on their relationship. Either she would want her man to feel the same pain and betrayal that she has felt all along or it’s her way of saying that she is ready to move on. Exit affairs are different from regular affairs – there’s no coming back from this one.
7. Too many fishes in the sea
Once she has decided to move on, she will not consider working on the relationship anymore, not even for the children because she realises that she can be a better mother once she is out of this unhappy marriage. She might casually date, fool around with different men until she finds the one who sweeps her of her feet and gives her what you can’t.
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Men, if you are often curt with your women, or never do what she asks you to, then sooner or later your relationship will crack. As women are often emotional creatures, as her partner, it’s your job to make her feel emotionally satisfied.
And while it’s true that even power couples and happy couples can cheat one each other, one of the biggest reasons for cheating is neglect. So, don’t take this casually and work on your issues with the woman in your life before it’s too late.
Seek help – go to relationship counselling to save your relationship, have a honest and open conversation with each other and see if you are on the same page. Also an expert can tell you what to do when your man is not even affectionate or romantic. Sometimes change of scene works wonders. Consider going for a vacation together – who knows you might get a new perspective.
Usually when she is emotionally discontent and feels that she is not her partner’s first priority, she starts to feel neglected. She wants her significant other to spend quality time with her and take care of her needs. If he emotionally checks out of the relationship it hurts her.
She looks inward and tries to find faults in herself. For instance her husband could be cheating buts he would be feeling guilty. When she realises that she didn’t do anything wrong, she starts being too emotional or passive aggressive. She can also become destructive and ruin her relationship completely by having an affair.
Check in with your woman every few days to know how she feels. Ask her about her day, remember important dates like birthdays and anniversaries. Make her happy by pampering her and be an active listener. Most importantly, work on yourself and if worst comes to worst, seek couple’s counselling.