Does your wife give you a cold, detached look? Do you feel lonely and depressed even after being married to the woman you love? There is a high possibility that your wife hates you. You feel that there is a wall between your wife and you. Your wife, who would first greet you with a smile and make your life fulfilled with the warmth of her love, is now acting cold. You feel as if she doesn’t even care about your existence. These could also be the signs that she has fallen out of love, is cheating on you or has got bored of you. There are high chances that she has started hating you. Here are signs your wife hates you:
5 Signs Your Wife Hates You
The two of you being married for a few days, months or years does not mean you know her or understand her. Husband’s tend to take their wives for granted and at times women develop lack of feelings for them. Everything seems normal, yet it is not. If your wife hates you, these are the most prominent signs you can notice. Although, we’d advise you not to jump to conclusions too soon.
1. You both don’t talk
All mode of communication has stopped between the two of you. From the constant bickering and complaining, it has turned into dead silence. At first, she would talk to you and share her feelings. Now it feels as if she doesn’t even know you exist.
2. She doesn’t care about you
She doesn’t call and ask you when you will come home. She doesn’t care whether you’ve eaten or not. You need to unlock the door with a key to enter your own home because she has already slept off.
3. She doesn’t try to look good around you anymore
At first, your wife would try to dress up to look good around you. She would wear your favourite colours to try to impress you. Nowadays, when she goes out with you she will dress simply whereas when she has plans with her friends, she dresses up like she used to.
4. She doesn’t smile anymore
She doesn’t give a smile when she sees you. Seeing you makes her depressed or frustrated. She looks grim when you are around.
5. She avoids spending time with you
She doesn’t spend time with you like she would anymore. When you try to make plans with her or try to sit down and talk to her, she makes excuses. She will make you feel as if you’re forcing her to spend time with you.
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If you have noticed these signs, you should introspect the reasons as well.
8 Possible Reasons Why Your Wife Hates You
“My wife is bored with me, my wife is fed up of me. I think my wife hates me.” Your wife’s recent behaviour might have brought these thoughts into your mind. It is normal to feel depressed and alone. You might not be in the right frame of mind and be continuously thinking about the reasons why your wife is feeling resentful towards you. You need to find out the reasons why your wife has started hating you, it might have been evolving for some time and you might have noticed it just yet. Identifying the reasons could help you in regaining her love and trust. Here are 8 possible reasons why your wife hates you.
1. She has so much to deal with on her own
After marriage, there are so many responsibilities that both the partners need to share. However, many a times, most of the responsibility falls on one partner, without the other partner even realizing it. Such a situation arises unintentionally but can have serious repercussions. Ask yourself, how much of the daily responsibilities as a married couple could you both share? Do you invest as much time as she does in the household? You might be busy with your office work, but think about how much your wife is burdened with the daily responsibilities. She is doing it all alone.
2. She feels insecure
Your wife may be feeling insecure about you and your life without her. Are you the type that spends too much time with your friends or co-workers? Those late night drinks with your co-workers, while your wife is waiting for you at home alone could be one of the reasons for her insecurity. You need to think whether you are spending enough time with her and giving her the love that a wife needs.
3. She hates your habits
Your wife might not be hating you in particular but some of your habits. Do you have any such habit that your wife hates and you do it anyway? She might have constantly told you to leave it and you do it anyway. Marriage is about compromise and understanding. You need to consider your wives feelings as well when you start a habit which is opposed by your wife. Try to sit down and talk to her about it instead of continuing those habits without considering her feelings.
4. She has to take care of the kids by herself
After the child, all the responsibility has fallen on her. She is the one trying to work from home and juggle between work and the kids. You might not be that much involved with the kids as you should. Remember, both of you as parents should share the responsibilities of the child. From taking the child to school, getting homework done, making them have their meals, playing with them, taking them out, etc. there’s a lot to do. All of this can’t be done by her alone. No wonder she hates you.
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5. You’ve lost purpose
You may not be the same man she married and that’s why your wife hates you now. Before marriage, you were this passionate and dedicated, career-oriented person. Now, you quit your job or are making bad investments rather than focusing on your career. You are wasting your life going after things that have a dead-end. Your wife might have constantly told you that you’re losing your way, but there are chances you aren’t paying attention to her. You may not be the same person she married. After marriage, you’ve changed as a person and she’s resenting it.
6. You haven’t been able to meet her expectations
Before marriage, you might have promised her a life full of love and happiness. After marriage, you aren’t being able to make enough time to show her how much you love her. Her expectations from the marriage and you aren’t being met. You might have even made some materialistic promises like a big house, family trip every four months, etc. which you haven’t been able to give her.
7. She doesn’t love you anymore
Sometimes, marriages fall apart because one of the partners falls out of love. This could be because of many reasons such as not spending enough time together, routines kicking in, clash of expectations, etc. If your wife doesn’t love you anymore, it doesn’t mean that she loves someone else. It just could be that she has fallen out of love and is trying to continue this marriage because of other obligations like the kids. She hasn’t told anyone about it and her frustration has come to a point that she hates you.
8. She may be depressed
Your wife’s hatred may not have anything to do with you. She might be feeling depressed due to some other personal reason and could be lashing out at you because of it. Your wife’s feelings may not have anything to do with hating you.
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6 Tips to Deal With Your Wife Hating You
Once you have identified the reasons why your wife hates you, it is important to deal with it and work to regain her love and respect. You need to focus on saving your marriage before it’s too late. You definitely love your wife and you need to make her feel that lost love again. So, here are 6 tips to deal with your wife hating you and win her back.
1. Start helping out more
You need to understand that taking care of the household responsibilities isn’t an easy task for your wife. There are a hundred things to do in a day, and doing these chores everyday becomes frustrating. Start helping your wife out more at home. You can wash the dishes while she cleans up, take care of your kid’s homework, get the groceries and do a lot more. Ask her what more you can do to help out. Tell her that you acknowledge how much work she does and thus want to help her more.
2. Appreciate her efforts
Men usually tend to start taking their wife’s efforts for granted after marriage. It is because they are so involved with their work life that they tend to neglect their personal life. Observe all the efforts that your wife puts in and appreciate her for the same. Compliment her when she cooks your favourite dishes or when she dresses up for you. Acknowledging her efforts will make her feel appreciated and loved.
3. Try spending more time with her
Many a times, because of hectic schedules, couples tend to get distant, because of which, there grows a wall between the two. This wall keeps growing and it gets too late when you realize it. Spending more quality time with your wife will help that wall to melt down. It may take some time for things to get back to normal again, but they will eventually do if both partners are willing to give it another try.
4. Talk to her
They say communication is the key. This is true especially when it comes to couples. Sometimes the most effective techniques are the simplest ones. Talk to your wife and ask her whether something is wrong. Speak to her calmly and empathetically. Once she starts confiding in you, she will tell you what is wrong with her. She will tell you why she has begun hating you and you both will be able to solve the differences between you.
5. Express your love for her
“Before marriage, you would say I Love You so many times a day. Now you hardly do.” This is something that most wives complain about. They feel that their husband becomes less romantic after marriage. You might be facing the same issue. Tell her how much you love her every day, gift her flowers, cook for her and tell her how lucky you are to have her. If she still loves you, her hatred will begin to diminish.
6. Rekindle the lost love
If your wife has fallen out of love, you need to remind her how it felt like. Feelings don’t completely go away. Take it from the movie Crazy Stupid Love. Bring back old memories. Show her that you are still the man she fell in love with. If you’ve put on weight after marriage, hit the gym and sweat a few pounds. Do the things you both would do together when you both were dating. It will help rekindle the lost love and your wife will start falling in love with you again.
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Your marriage will have tons of ups and downs. It is important that both partners take care of each other’s needs and communicate to solve issues. If this doesn’t happen, one of you will start getting frustrated in the marriage and start hating your partner. It is important to understand your wife’s perspective and gain her trust and love. Now that you know what to do, go on and save your marriage before it’s too late.