Philosopher Friedrich Nietzche once said, “I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” Lies in relationships not only break trust and faith but are also difficult to catch in the first place.
As Counseling Psychologist Pooja points out, “Poker faces are often seasoned liars. It is almost impossible to catch the kinds of liars who lie with a straight face.” So then how can you find out if your partner is lying about cheating?
“Evasive body language is a sure-shot sign of compulsive cheating and lying. A lying partner will avoid eye contact, fiddle, fumble, and try to make some excuses.” People’s lips become pale and their faces become white/red when they lie. In spite of all their pretended ease, their body language will have a different story to tell. Take this quick quiz to tell if your partner is lying about cheating:
Don’t let them wreak havoc with your sanity. As per a study conducted by the Institute for Family Studies, around 20% of married men reported cheating on their partners while approximately 13% of married women reported cheating on their spouses.
If you notice small instances of dishonesty, remember that they are not so small. Also, what to do when such small lies become big lies, like cheating? Pooja says, “Confront them with the truth. That is the only way to deal with this. Also, make notes. False stories often contradict themselves.”