As told to Dr Sanjeev Trivedi
(Names changed to protect identities)
My name is Rinki. It’s not only marriage to a wonderful husband, Dheer or a lovely son Pranjal, but people have always said that I’m a lucky girl. Good parents, nice in-laws, successful husband, comfortable living, nothing ever felt missing in my life.
So when I first met Rian and found myself drawn towards him, I kept asking myself, why am I getting so greedy? Who wants to disturb a comfortable and cosy life for the sake of a fresh new crush? Rian was married to Deepshikha and they had a lovely daughter. Their marriage seemed as perfect as ours and therefore I could manage my emotions and didn’t want to express them.
I’ve forgiven my husband for his affair but I still don’t feel at peace
@Pooja
I think you are right in your views. Cheating and then crying out a river, blaming everyone else except self, shows cowardice. I agree there.
@Sangeeta Nair:
I would wish God give her strength to tell the truth about her affair with Rian to her husband, Dheer and son Pranjal. God should also give her enough strength to face any humiliation and dire consequences as a retribution for her immoral behavior.
@Dr. Trivedi
Sir, is it true to assume that most married Indian men and women are prone to extra marital affair, and they also are immune to any sense of guilt?
My question is: why married people, supposedly in a monogamous relationship, cheat? Is this because that the current society is teaching us to seek instant gratification? Or are the parents neglecting to teach us what is right and what is wrong? Either way, it becomes commonplace to accept that greed is good and a small or big fling wouldn’t do as much harm as moral values prohibit. But it always ends up devastating the relationship: GREED.
Understand the feelings she has for him. Sometimes we don’t end to make lot of decisions emotionally which hurts badly in return.Time heals things.
The lady has the liberty to desire for another man as till now her husband has not caught her. Once he catches her, and asks her to leave, there will be another post with something like “my desires ruined my life”
I think that the lady suffers from OCD and needs psychological help.
She definitely is over obsessed in the relationship.
Can empathize her condition…God give her strength and purpose of life..Right now she wouldn’t really understand anything….let time take it course …..She is a sensible lady and would soon get over it….
@Dr. Sanjeev Trivedi:
With all due respect, that comment of yours appears patronizing a cheating wife.
In my view, sympathizing with a cheater, trying to sympathetically understand his/her problems, is a covert way to justify immorality. Of course, the modern society does not have any separate definition of immorality. So what is illegal is viewed as immoral. Such myopic view leads to condoning of extramarital affairs which is surely immoral but not illegal.