Why do you feel insecure? Why do you attract toxic people in your life? Why do you need your partner to make you feel whole? The answer to all of these questions lies in your childhood experiences and interactions with your primary caregivers/parents. This attachment style quiz, consisting of just 7 questions will help you understand what your attachment style is.
For starters, the ones who have a secure attachment style are empathetic, capable of setting healthy boundaries, and feel more secure and stable in romantic partnerships. On the other hand, insecure attachment style can be of three types:
- Avoidant-dismissive: push their partners away, lie to them, have affairs, seek independence
- Anxious-ambivalent: overly needy/clingy and have a way of overwhelming their partners
- Disorganized: attract abusive partners or toxic relationships, seek drama/unsafe experiences
Finally, the most important tip for a person with an insecure attachment style is to choose people who are kind, reassuring, trusting, and reliable. This will make them feel safe, secure, and at home. If they choose emotionally unavailable people, it will just trigger their fears even more. How do we help them make such healthy choices? Our counselors from Bonobology’s panel can help you in changing your behavior patterns and prompt healing from childhood trauma.