Attachment Style Quiz

November 30, 2022 February 8, 2023 | Ekshika Parnami

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Why do you feel insecure? Why do you attract toxic people in your life? Why do you need your partner to make you feel whole? The answer to all of these questions lies in your childhood experiences and interactions with your primary caregivers/parents. This attachment style quiz, consisting of just 7 questions will help you understand what your attachment style is.

For starters, the ones who have a secure attachment style are empathetic, capable of setting healthy boundaries, and feel more secure and stable in romantic partnerships. On the other hand, insecure attachment style can be of three types:

Avoidant-dismissive: push their partners away, lie to them, have affairs, seek independence

Anxious-ambivalent: overly needy/clingy and have a way of overwhelming their partners
Disorganized: attract abusive partners or toxic relationships, seek drama/unsafe experiences

Finally, the most important tip for a person with an insecure attachment style is to choose people who are kind, reassuring, trusting, and reliable. This will make them feel safe, secure, and at home. If they choose emotionally unavailable people, it will just trigger their fears even more. How do we help them make such healthy choices? Our counselors from Bonobology’s panel can help you in changing your behavior patterns and prompt healing from childhood trauma.

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Tags: Couple Relationships, dating and relationship advice, Dating Tips, insecure, Intimacy, mental health, Relationship Advice, relationship counselling

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Ekshika Parnami

I wrote my first poem in fifth grade and haven’t stopped since then. As it has been famously said, “I don’t write poetry, poetry writes me.” Writing has not been a luxury for me, it has been a need that keeps me sane. Pouring my emotions out on paper comes as naturally to me as breathing. A degree in Journalism from Christ was just the cherry on top. Writing long essays as a part of UPSC preparation or term papers as a JNU student never felt like a burden to me and it was in fact therapeutic to type 2000 words in one go. Interning as a reporter with Indian Express taught me how asking the right questions can lead to crisp and engaging pieces. Emotionally, I have keenly observed and experienced inconsistencies in relationships, in my own life and around me while growing up. I have hopped from relationship to relationship, be it long distance or unrequited, toxic or abusive, live in or casual. To heal from the pain and heartache of those and the rough marriage of my parents, I would post long pieces on Instagram, which were basically a vent and also the start of my journey towards self-love. Some people started relating to my writing and would tell me, “You should get paid for this!” So, here I am. I found my medium to get those overwhelming feelings and lessons learnt, out of my system.

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