Welcome to the age of male gold diggers! Oh yes, gone are the days where we only had female gold diggers. Times have changed and the tables have turned. Male gold diggers are everywhere, like predators looking for their next prey. This gold digger boyfriend could be at your favourite restaurant, a bar, shopping mall and even in your bed. How do you know your boyfriend is not in the relationship only for the money?
Have you ever considered that your boyfriend might be one too? Have you ever had doubts about his actions? Many guys only have a relationship because they are interested in the money, not in the woman. It could be any woman as long as she is bearing the expenses and showering him with gifts. Yes, that may sound absurd but is the truth.
Signs Your Man Is Using You For Money
What keeps your relationship going? Is it love, or lust or…could it be money? Does your boyfriend appreciate your qualities or just the thickness of your wallet? You are way more successful than your boyfriend and he is financially dependent on you. He pleases you so that you please him in the form of money. Here are some indications that your boyfriend is a gold digger:
- You give him the best of gifts and he doesn’t shy away from asking for them… well, maybe a little (it’s part of an act).
- He keeps a keen interest on your bank balance
- You’re somehow often paying for his car fuel or other things without even realising it
- You feel like he puts you in situations in which you have no option but to pay
- He rarely ever pulls off nice gestures for you or buys you nice gifts because he thinks you can afford them on your own
Male gold diggers are everywhere, like predators looking for their next prey. They could be at your favourite restaurant, a bar, shopping mall and even in your bed.
You didn’t say that you are his sugar mama! Well, a sugar mama is just like a sugar daddy. A sugar mama pleases her boyfriend with expensive gifts and he stays with her as long as he avails all her financial benefits and your boyfriend has made you one! He is dating you for money and you are not even aware of it.
8 Signs You Are Dating A Gold Digger
There are many relationships where men aren’t as financially secure as women, but they still put in every effort to compensate emotionally by focussing on the little things. They have enough self-respect to make sure that they fill the void by more important factors such as love, care and understanding.
Gold diggers might give you all of the above, but it comes with a price and that price is debited from your account. Is your boyfriend in the relationship just for money? Look out for these signs to make sure you are not dating a gold digger.
1. He initially pays for everything and then never does
He was a perfect gentleman on your initial dates. He insisted on paying for dinner and even paid for your cab fare, but as time passed and he started getting to know more about you and your…ahem, bank balance, the financial burden was slowly passed onto you.
Remember the times when he left his wallet in the car? How typical! But what do you know about his financial condition? Was the money he spent on you even his or was he borrowing from Visa to pay for Mastercard?
2. He always has financial emergencies
How many uncles and friends of his have you helped in distress? He borrows money from you and promises to pay back, but you never see the money again. I’m sure that these uncles and friends only turn up when there is a financial emergency, otherwise, you have never heard of them.
“My gold digger boyfriend once even went so far as to telling me his friend had gotten into an accident and he needed money desperately but he hadn’t gotten this month’s salary yet so he needed me to lend him money. To this day I have never seen or heard of that injured friend ever again.”
Your boyfriend seems to be very concerned about these people and is always ready to help them.
How caring! But why does that help have to go through your pocket?
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3. He is always interested in your finances
Rather than spending quality time with you, your boyfriend prefers to talk about your finances and investments. He will also give you financial advice and ask you to invest in funds you have never heard of. His interest has an ulterior motive which involves him profiting from the entire transaction.
Your boyfriend should talk about you, your likes and your qualities. After all, he is in a relationship with a person, not a bank!
If he does then your boyfriend is in the relationship only for the money. Unfortunately, this is one of the signs a man is using you for money.
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4. He loves shopping….as long as you are paying
Your boyfriend suggests taking you shopping. He adds three or four items for you and the rest of the basket is filled with his things. At the cash counter, he suddenly gets an emergency call or finds some other excuse to disappear.
Mind you, all the things he has chosen are way too expensive for someone like him, but he doesn’t care as long as you are paying.
He technically takes you for shopping but you end up swiping your credit card.
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5. He is unemployed or lies about his job
What do you know about the person you are dating? Have you ever checked his facts? Your gold-digger boyfriend might have portrayed himself to be a successful person and you believed him without a doubt. Have you ever actually visited his office?
In your career you have setbacks but still keep working hard to get back on track. How much effort is your boyfriend putting in to get back on his feet? Some unemployed boyfriends are like parasites and purposely do not do anything about their unemployment as long as they have girlfriends like you to pay. He could be in the relationship only for the money. Do run a check on him.
6. Your boyfriend sees you as his ATM
It is payday and he knows it.
He asks for money to pay his utilities and other expenses. Whenever he needs money, you write out a cheque for him or take out money from the ATM and he barely even mutters a thank you. He knows that whenever he wants money his sugar mama is going to be there to comply. He is using you as his ATM and his personal bank. Try saying no and see how he reacts.
“My boyfriend is a gold digger and knows the day my salary comes in. He often feels the need to go out on a fancy date, dinner or movie on the same day. If sometimes I refuse, I can be sure to expect a mild temper tantrum”
7. Romance comes with a price
He is in a very romantic mood. Things between you two suddenly heat up and he asks you for something when you are too vulnerable to say no. The favours he asks for are always expressed in monetary terms.
When he gets his way, all the romance suddenly turns cold. All his love and care will seem to vanish. Such people are just financial opportunists, looking for ways to extract money. If this isn’t one of the signs a man is using you for money, then we don’t know what is.
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8. He gets angry if you say no
Some days your gut will make you question your decision. You will ask yourself, “Should I give him money?” and you will finally decide to say no to him. He will become angry and desperate because that was not the answer he was expecting. This is one of the signs your boyfriend is using you for money.
He has understood that his magic on you is wearing off and he is not happy with it. Sometimes your gold digger boyfriend might just make up an emotional story to pull you back into his spell. Make sure that you don’t fall into his trap this time.
How to break up with a gold digger
So, how exactly do you get out of a relationship with a gold-digger boyfriend?
The answer is simple, you rip the band-aid off and break up with him. He will try to wrap you up with words and try to get back on your good side or gain your sympathy. But you must remember to be strong and not let his crocodile tears tangle you again.
Stick to your guns! You have seen the signs a man is using you for money and know for a fact that he’s in this relationship for the money. So it’s time to cut him loose and look out for someone who deserves you!
Many successful women fall into the trap of these financial opportunists. These men take advantage of a woman’s emotional vulnerability and find their way into their lives. In no time, they make their way into their finances as well. These men are able to blind a woman with their scripted love and these women fall prey to such parasites. Be sure to look out for these signs while you are dating, so that you can save yourself from being emotionally and financially cheated.