Finding someone special outside marriage in a friendship

Shivi Goyal

(Names changed to protect identities)

Life is unexpected and full of escapades we never expect!

It is like a roller coaster ride for all relationships. But the moments that are unvoiced in a relationship remain with us till we die …

For five years I never encountered anything unusual in my relationship with my husband. Everything was perfect and peaceful and I believed this was my destiny. Felt like heaven being married and considered my husband to be the perfect love I was looking for. I thought this was love that will last forever. But life behaves like a moron at times. I was in an impression of pure love until I met him (Prithvi). I happened to experience the sigh of love with him which was apparently the purest form of love and I think it will last forever. I’m sure a lot many of you will be able to connect with your own journey as well!
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He (Prithvi) was a charming and intelligent married man. He was my best friend forever. He used to work with me in the same company and we shared things on a personal note as well. We were the craziest friends ever and our madness used to reach heights with adventure and fun almost all the time. He was an enigmatic man, with plenty of reasons to make me smile. Years of true and genuine friendship between Prithvi and me turned into a passionate love story.

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I remember the full moon night with twinkling stars! We sat on the terrace for long chatting and gazing at the blushing moon.

Then something unexpected happened. His eyes went different and hands had a subtle touch. I never experienced this touch before him. He brought me closer, held my hands and kissed my forehead.

I felt like this is eternal, is this love? Or it is just a passion to be together? Or maybe we got attracted to each other as we were friends!

The night blessed us with a feeling which we both hadn’t experienced before. The moment made me feel the love and passion that was engraved into our souls for each other under the skin of friendship. It was the moment which was meant to happen, that left us with many unsaid things in our relationship.  We felt untainted love!

The night passed and it was hard for him to face and vice versa. We did nothing wrong but the unspoken love that spurred within us was making it tough for us to face each other. I was smiling within, blushing and felt the warmth of love like never before.

For a few days, we both kept busy with work snatching some time in between for ourselves. But things were different now, we were not just friends, we had so many things to share and talk about the relationship we encountered and the feeling of love which bloomed in our hearts, thinking what to name it!

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But we never got a chance to admit it, or knowingly we avoided it. Yes, his eyes said a lot, my actions said all, his texts and messages said that he in love! He wanted to shout aloud to the world that he was in love, but our current lives restrained us. We tried hard to stop ourselves and not to disturb the current life. But love is always in the air and the feeling of finding someone special at this juncture in life was out of the world.

Months passed, we hardly speak or meet now. I remain stuck with my family issues and he’s busy working. He misses me and I miss him, but due to societal stigma and respect for each other’s families and our love we control ourselves.

Our relationship used to complete the vacuum of current life. Now we are not in touch but I hope that the day will come when removing all boundaries we can be together again the way we were and can name our relationship. I sit alone and think of him as I just have memories left and I believe Prithvi does the same. We have no sight of each other but I live in the hope of meeting again and declaring our unsaid relationship, which is still alive.

(As told to Shivi Goyal)

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Saloni Maheshwari August 21, 2018 - 1:46 pm

I feel even when you are married or in a relationship, you might fall in love again! You never know or you never realized. Love can just happen. it’s about connection and intimacy and if you feel that connection with someone else than your partner, how can you deal with it?

It’s not that you wanted it but it just happened…

Neha July 29, 2018 - 2:31 pm

If ur husband do the same thIng .. what will u do..

Mita July 16, 2018 - 8:02 am

Love is said to be purest when it’s unconditional. Then why question this womans and her friends love for each other? They knew their relationship status before falling for each other and that knowledge didn’t stop them but only halt them momentarily. Does this mean she is over her marriage or doesn’t love her husband? I guess not. She has developed feelings for a friend and just like every new love she lured in its charm and freshness and also curious to know how further deep this relationship can sustain them. We humans have a tendency to appreciate beautiful things. We all look for love and acceptance for most of our lifetime. Where as love is always within us. She always liked this friend, it was not a touch or a glance that brought them closer but her acceptance for her own feelings towards him. I don’t know what she plans to do next but she should certainly choose one man and let the other one go to find his own true love.

Fga April 23, 2018 - 10:22 pm

Some relations gives the feel we never felt before. Though staying for decades with with your partner is then you feel the difference. Then you understand your partner was unfortunately not your soulmate.Knowing that the relation is of impermanence still we love to cling on .

Girish September 11, 2017 - 1:44 pm

If something gives me happiness, even for a moment I will do dat…..we ppl are no saint so i don’t get into judgmental mode…. If they were happy even for a moment they shared a beautiful moment that’s there treasure

RA July 5, 2019 - 9:59 am

As long it is friendship, it is OK. The moment it grows into love and threatens boundaries, one need to decide. Grass is always Greener on otherside. When you reach otherside, some otherside look greener. It is never ending story. If you interact with his wife, she will tell the real story and how much happy she is. He must be treating his wife as good as how your husband is treating you. To days MEN are smart. They never directly ask physical intimacy directly. They will patiently wait and do all gentle things to get women attracted emotionally and women herself will one day fall for him. That’s all at the end. Treading two parallel relationships only brings destruction and distress to all. If she is clear that OM is the real one for her, she shoud divirce her husband move with OM. But staying in the marriage and treading two relationahips is grossly wrong. It only brings destruction .

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