Struggles and Scars

He would abuse and then apologise – I got trapped into this vicious cycle

She liked the attention he gave her so she fell in love with him. After marriage he was a totally different person
man abusing woman

(As told to Saurabh Paul)

I fell in love with the image he showed me

It all began with a crush in college: those furtive glances which suggest that two young people are fancying each other. Soon, familiarity grew, and not many days after, friends became a couple. I had a middle-class upbringing and he came from a better-off family. That was the time of my life when I had an imperative desire in me to be loved, or be in love, and he came along just around that time. A bit of attention flattered me no end.

“I love your long tresses,” he used to say, “Never cut them short.” I usually blushed in response.

It might have been a case of peer pressure – not many of my college mates were single. And I just hurried into things: plunging into marriage without actually giving myself the time to know my prospective partner. I had seen his best, or rather his ‘made-up’ part, before marriage, but not his other (and which I now know) ‘real self’. One fateful day, I got married, without the consent of my family. I had completed my graduation and had been working for about six months at the time.

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  1. I do not know what on hell are such people made up of who can go to any limits just of their own satisfaction. Just one word for him “Inhuman”. Such people deserve no life at all. BRAVE WOMAN. and a correct decision.

  2. Great, that you left the guy at the right time. And this realization is always important that: You are not alone! Your friends and family members are the best people to help you.

    You have done the best for you! You might have rebuilt your self-esteem, and start rebuilding your life as well!

    1. Thanks for your comment:)
      Yes, indeed she has rediscovered herself. They say that a pain that doesn’t kill you, eventually makes you stronger- so is her stronger self now.Confident, after having surmounted the wall of fear and anxiety that engulfed her

  3. Seeing a face before marriage and a completely different face after marriage is quite a common place situation that many young women and men face. How boldly the person deals with it is the matter of importance. I am glad that she finally decided to step out of the cobweb that she had been stuck in for so long. Marriage is not the end of a woman’s life and freedom. If it doesn’t give the female spouse enough freedom and liberty, she sure has the right to come out of it and seek a better life.

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