When you have handed everything on a silver platter to your beau, he might take you for granted. Sooner than later you will realise that you let them have the upper hand in most cases and they no longer make any effort to seduce or woo you. Every romantic relationship has power play going on – but for a healthy and nurturing relationship, one needs to keep that kind of play only in the bedroom.
If you are the only one who makes an effort and gives in a relationship, it’s time to take a back seat because the other person is getting complacent and is getting used to having everything their way. Wake up woman, your partner is taking you granted.
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In the past, a man’s job was to be the sole breadwinner of the family while a woman was supposed to stay at home and take care of the kids. Now years later, the tables have turned – we see men being stay-at-home parents and women going out in the world and being the boss.
If He Is Taking You For Granted This Is What You Should Do…
Sometimes as a relationship progresses and one becomes (too) comfortable with their partner, they stop making an effort.
In case you feel your man is forgetting your birthday or anniversary, or not taking you out on a date despite you repeatedly requesting, consider the following steps which might help you deal with this issue.
1. Confront him head on
Sometimes we think passive-aggression will make the other person realise that they are in the wrong. But, this kind of aggression is immature. Instead, sit him down and tell him that you are disappointed and you want him to make amends if he wants to save your relationship.
Make him understand that you have had enough of his bullshit and it’s time to pull his socks up.
2. Don’t let go of your dignity
Chin up! Since you are not the one who is at fault here, there’s no reason for you to constantly beg and plead for his attention. Don’t be a doormat and do things his way thinking it would make him turn over a new leaf.
This might be counterintuitive and things might still be the same i.e. he would continue taking you for granted and be indifferent to your needs. He behaves as if he has checked out of the marriage emotionally.
3. Go no contact
If your begging and pleading have fallen to deaf ears, then it’s time to go no contact. Start by getting another place or request him to take accommodation elsewhere.
When he sees you are adamant and not willing to give in, then absence may make the heart grow fonder and one day you will see him at your doorstep with flowers and an apology note.
4. Concentrate on your work and hobbies
This one is especially for women whose partners have lost their jobs due to the pandemic. If he sees you not paying attention to him day in and day out and prioritising your work and hobbies – then his ego might get hurt and he might start questioning you.
That’s your chance to show him how much hurt and disappointed you have been due to his neglectful ways.
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5. Avoid having sex with him
Most men love sex. So, you start giving excuses to him every time he initiates sex, then sooner than later he might go bonkers. If he is a child-man he would fight with you; if he is the mature kind, he would want to have a conversation with you.
Utilise that opportunity to tell him that you are no longer interested in having sex with him because you feel like you are taken for granted.
6. Have an affair!
This one is a bit controversial and might not be popular among many of you. However, if you are the vindictive type and have had enough of your partner’s bullshit, maybe it’s time to show him what he has been missing.
Get on those dating apps, which could be alternatives to Tinder, swipe right over the man you think can make up for partner’s wrongdoings and go to town on him. Perhaps then your partner would realise his mistake and once again try to woo and seduce you. But let’s keep this as a last resort. Because once you go this way you might be created more complications in your relationship.
If you want to salvage your relationship with your beau and ensure he does not take you for granted then perhaps it’s better to pretend to have an affair, than having a real one.
The time and space that you will have apart might make your (ex) partner miss you and he would realise all that he has not been doing to keep you happy. But, for this to work you have to HAVE your will power intact. Don’t text him first and express interest in his well-being after being radio silent for twenty four hours.
Focus on quality time, physical touch and words of affirmation. If he is confused about what to do to get that spark back, guide him and tell him things that you would like him to gift you or things that would make you happy if he did them for you.
If NOTHING – silence, fights, rules, begging, pleading and couples therapy doesn’t work then it’s time to put a full stop to the relationship. Also, if he listens to you for a few days and then goes back to being the old him, and if this keeps on re-occurring, then woman, pack your bags and don’t come back.