Love is a beautiful feeling. Everything is a bed of roses when you are in love. If everything goes great, it is the best feeling in the world, but if things aren’t working out, then it can be a roller coaster of emotions and you may end up doing things (read: stalking your ex) which you might definitely regret.
In our college the moment the students stepped through the gates, half of the population was in love. While most of the relationships lasted long enough to see the convocation ceremony, some of them, couldn’t even survive the freshman year examinations.
College was a time when hormones were raging wild and students had multiple affairs too in a short span of time. This obviously resulted in a lot of break-ups and heartbreaks.
What is stalking?
While some people move on, some aren’t too willing to let go. What happens when an ex is not willing to let go, is best shown in the Hollywood movie Fatal Attraction. The ex played by Glenn Close wreaks havoc in Michael Douglas’ life and even tries to kill him.
Stalking has been tackled in Hindi cinema too in movies like Darr and Anjaam.
Stalking your ex is human nature. It is a desperate attempt to see what the ex-flame is up to. This comes from the possessiveness that one feels in love and when it doesn’t work out he or she is not willing to let go. People go to extreme extent to keep a track of their exes. Modern India has discovered the world of online stalking now and the internet is the place where you unleash your inner demon on your ex.
How people stalk
Here are some really interesting instances I’ve seen in my personal life. Some of my friends have channelized the stalker lurking inside them, so diabolically well, that they can run their own intelligence agencies.
Here are the 7 ways in which they stalked their exes…
1. Fake Profiles
My batch mate Jaya didn’t take her break-up too well. She couldn’t get over her ex-boyfriend and was shell-shocked when she found out that he had blocked her on all social media sites. She made fake Instagram and Twitter profiles to stalk him and find out where he was in life without her.
2. Going undercover
Ruchika, an acquaintance from my undergraduate course, had never seen a dance club in her life.
After her break-up, she actually went undercover to a club where her boyfriend was having a party, just to see whether he was dancing or flirting with other girls.
3. Arranging a fake date
Priyanka, a friend I made at an internship, actually landed up in the same restaurant where her ex-boyfriend had gone on a date. She dressed up really well and chose a seat facing her ex. Of course, she had a fake date in tow. The boyfriend was clearly aghast and we all had a good laugh at how Priyanka managed to ruin a perfect date. This was funny for us, but not for the ex I am sure.
4. Following the tags
My sister’s friend Jennifer would stalk every person who would tag her ex boyfriend in pictures on social media just to find leads to whether he had started dating someone else. While the boyfriend had clearly moved on, Jennifer wasn’t willing to accept that she was now single.
5. Tailing like a detective
My friend Shubhangi, from my dance class, wasn’t ready to believe that her ex-boyfriend had moved on. She asked a mutual friend, who went to the same tuition classes as her ex, to give her a detailed report every single day, about him.
6. Staying in the circle
People who are seeing each other often hang out in the same circle. After a break-up I have seen some people make the extra effort to stick to the same circle so that they could keep a tab on the ex while bumping into them at parties, birthdays and at the nightclub. I know a friend, who would call up the party host to ensure he got an invitation to the same party as his ex.
This is an extreme step but a friend took it. She hacked into her boyfriend’s email inbox and discovered that he was already with someone else. She took printouts of the intimate email conversations and sent it to all his family members, his colleagues and even bosses.