“I love you, unconditionally. You are the world to me.”
We all crave for that unconditional love which makes us dream of a perfect fairy tale. A kind of love where there aren’t any “ifs” and “buts”. All that is present is loving your partner no matter what and being honest with him/her. Unconditional love is the purest form of love where all that you care about is how you feel for your partner and no external factors come in the way of your love. Your partner is your priority.
What Is Unconditional Love In A Relationship?
We all know that love and infatuation are different. But unconditional love is another dimension altogether. In order to know what unconditional love is, it should be first distinguished from conditional love. Conditional love usually involves certain conditions that your partner imposes on you during the course of the relationship. Unconditional love, on the other hand, does not impose any such restrictions or conditions on the partner. You both love each other no matter what. Unconditional love lets you be honest with your partner and you can be yourself around him/her. Material aspects such as fame, money, etc. do not affect the relationship. The only factor that matters the most when it comes to unconditional love is how you feel about your partner and the fact that you can’t picture your life without him/her. In unconditional love, you don’t expect anything in return.
Some unconditional love examples are when a guy falls in love with a girl who is in love with someone else but still chooses to love her no matter what. Another instance is when a rich girl falls in love with a middle-class guy because of his pure and caring heart. An unconditional love example can be as simple as falling in love with a girl and making her your wife someday.
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12 Signs Of Unconditional Love In A Relationship
You might not know that you are in a relationship with unconditional love. But when you know it, it feels special and you feel lucky to be in a relationship that is about love and care for each other rather than a partner’s whims and dominant nature. You feel lucky that your partner loves you and takes care of you so much and you finally realize that you can see your future with him/her.
So the question is, “How do you love someone unconditionally?”
Loving someone unconditionally is being selfless and prioritizing your partner’s needs above yours. It means keeping your relationship above other commitments and most importantly, loving your partner no matter what. To know whether you are in such a relationship, you need to look out for the signs of unconditional love in a relationship. Here are 12 Signs of unconditional love in a relationship
1. They bring soup for you
If you are feeling under the weather, only a real partner will go out of his/her way and bring some comfort food for you. True love isn’t only about taking care of the good sides of you but also taking care of you when you are blowing your nose away. As the famous saying goes, “In sickness and in health”.
2. They support you in your dreams
No matter how different you both are professionally, someone who unconditionally loves you will always support you in your dreams and ambitions, no matter how different they are from your partner’s ideals. They will always encourage you to fulfill your dreams and will motivate you to push yourself harder even at times when you feel like giving up.
3. They handle your vulnerable side
When times get tough and you become a mess, your partner will be there by your side to make you feel strong again. Your partner isn’t scared of seeing your vulnerable side. Instead, your partner will be there for you and take care of you till you feel like yourself again. They are there for you no matter how bad the situation is.
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4. They put your needs above theirs
Ever planned watching a movie with your partner and having those long discussions on which genre to pick? A partner who unconditionally loves you will first argue with you over the movie genre but will eventually give in just to make you happy. Someone who loves you unconditionally will always keep your needs above theirs. Make sure that you don’t get too used to such kind of pampering and keep your partner’s needs above yours too as relationships are all about compromises made by both partners.
5. They are proud of your success
Imagine you and your partner are both in the same profession and apply for a job that is a dream job for you both. You get in and your partner doesn’t. Your partner will feel bad about himself/herself but what your partner will feel stronger is pride. Your partner will be proud of your achievements and will celebrate it with you even if it’s a rainy day for him/her. Celebrating each other’s successes is another important sign of unconditional love, especially when things are going south for one of you.
6. They respect you
In a relationship, it is very important for both partners to respect each other. Respecting each other and valuing each other’s beliefs is a sign of a healthy relationship. If your partner will treat you with respect in front of his friends, family and also in private, it means that he/she is not insecure of you or the relationship and values your opinions equally or even more than his/her own.
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7. They will let their guard down in front of you
If you two ever get into a heated argument, your partner will be the one to calm down and try to make things right again. Even if it isn’t your partner’s fault, he/she will let their guard down and sort things out. It is because for them, the relationship is more important than who is wrong or right. Being with you matters the most.
8. They see your full potential
“I believe in you”.
Even in times when you give up on yourself, your partner will be by your side to cheer you up. It is because your partner knows you from inside out. They know how important your dreams and ambitions are to you. They will never want you to give up on something you’ve always built your life around. Your partner sees your full potential and will always motivate you to move towards it. This is what unconditional love is about.
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9. They are selfless
Remember the story, “The Gift of the Magi?” even if you don’t, here’s how it went- A poor couple decides to gift each other secret presents for Christmas. However, they didn’t have enough money so the wife sells her long, beautiful hair which she loved a lot to buy a platinum chain for her husband’s watch. Her husband on the other hand, sells his watch, which was his only prized possession, to buy his wife a beautiful set of combs for her hair. What mattered here is the act of selflessness. People who unconditionally love each other will always make selfless sacrifices to make each other happy.
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10. They don’t expect anything in return
One of the most beautiful things about unconditional love is not expecting anything in return. Your partner will make you happy with little gestures but will never expect you to return the same. Even if you don’t acknowledge their gestures, they will let it go. There aren’t any conditions or restrictions in the relationship. For them, it’s all about making you happy. Their happiness lies in yours.
11. They forgive you if you screw up
Imagine a situation where you still aren’t over your ex. One day you meet your ex and something happens between you two. You feel terrible about it and tell your partner everything. Your partner will obviously be mad at you but in the end, you partner will forgive you and will move on from it. In unconditional love, sometimes you need to forgive your partner if they are genuinely sorry, no matter how badly they screw up.
12. They’ve always got your back
A partner who unconditionally loves you will always have your back. They will not tolerate anyone badmouthing you or disrespecting you in public. They will make sure to teach such people a lesson. Your partner will stick up to you in public and will always be there to save you from being embarrassed or humiliated.
Unconditional love is above loving each other no matter how bad everything gets. Your partner will be by your side as your friend, confidant, lover and also family. If you have something that is this special, don’t let it go or take it for granted. Cherish what you have and acknowledge your partner for all that he/she does for you. Such people are keepers so don’t let them slip away.