These 5 things separate great sex from average sex

What constitutes great sex?

The difference between average sex and great sex is pretty much the difference between ‘Oh, God’ and ‘OH GOD!’

Sex in itself is good. I mean, it’s sex. Sex is like the lunch hour at a kindergarten. You run about, not being able to decide what to do because everything seems so nice. Yeah, that’s sex.

Great sex, on the other hand, is like getting to eat a chocolate-dipped cookie after having a large bacon-ham-cheese pizza with extra cheese.

1.  The foreplay itself is mind-blowing

It cannot be repeated enough how important foreplay is to have great sex. Mostly for women. Women take longer to get aroused. Oral sex ensures proper building up for the final act. Some are more turned on by the process than the final act. Great sex means a lot of good oral foreplay that keeps you going long enough, makes you moan a little louder and grasp the sheets a little tighter and roll your eyes a little further to the point you think this will be the death of you.

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2. Natural communication

Communication is key to any relationship. Even with sex, being vocal about what you crave is essential. Sex is messy in itself. Great sex means you have no inhibitions about getting messier with the act, about loud moans and grunts and directing your partner’s hands to places you want to be touched and telling them how well certain things feel. These might seem insignificant in a non-sexual scenario, but the vocalisation is a big turn-on for your partner. The louder, the better.

3. Insecurities are melted away

You are so engaged in the act that all your inhibitions melt away. The insecurities about your body, your smell. Great sex makes everything else seem like background noise. The focus is the pleasure, the pleasure is the focus. If you and your partner can jump to your feet from the momentary awkward smell and grabs and fluids flowing out, you are just meant to great sex.

4. Makes you question how crude can you get

Forget about the perfect body. Great sex leaves you questioning yourself what you have been doing with your sex life all this while. It leaves you breathless, panting and revisiting that one sexual experience. It’s like a page out of an erotic novel or the cinematographically brilliant scenes from a movie that you keep playing in your head. Great sex comes with an almost carnal pleasure that you had in you but never got to explore.

5. Totally into each other

In simpler terms, the chemistry between you and your partner. This follows the scientific course where sex is simply ‘Blah’ if the chemistry is not so intense enough. You might be striking all the right notes to make the dual experience memorable enough, but deep down you know you are lacking something and you are bound to forget about the night in a week’s time. Chemistry is something inexplicable and factoring it in the sexual experience is like having a slice of dough that feels like ham and cheese pizza.

Great sex feels very much like that.

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