For every relationship, there is a honeymoon period. Every moment with them jostles crates of butterflies in your stomach. The feeling is unparalleled. The next stage gets you to the comfortable stage, where the phone calls are as frequent without the cuteness all around. This is the more mature stage.
He is just not that into you
But what do you do when things take a turn for the worse? There might or might not be definite signs that your man is losing interest in you. Phone calls do not get returned; plans are delayed or even cancelled. You are left to speculate the reason he might be acting this way. You even ask if he is losing interest in you. The signs may come all at once or they may come slowly. There is a palpable shift you cannot quite put your finger on. You wonder if there are changes you can bring to the relationship that might make the situation better. However, there are times when the wisest thing to do is to recognise and acknowledge the fact that he might not be into you anymore.
1. Dwindling romance
Your morning kisses or texts don’t come anymore. If you initiate it, they show the minimum effort just enough to keep you on the hook. Your man has suddenly turned cold, making no efforts on his own. You feel his hands are always cold, doesn’t linger for more than a few seconds. Previously, he would bring you your favourite lilies every Sunday but the vase has no flowers in it anymore. This dwindling of romance indicates he is slowly losing his interest in you.
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2. Too busy all the time
While earlier it was all about being with you, now he comes up with crappy excuses – he has a really late meeting, he is going to have dinner with his parents, he has to get up early for an early meeting, it’s raining outside and he doesn’t have a raincoat (that’s still legit). While earlier he would run miles to take you out, now he has started using excuses. When someone provides an elaborate excuse why they cannot do something, it’s because they genuinely don’t want to do it.
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3. No sex or just sex
A man, who genuinely likes you, won’t just want you there to warm his bed at night. If a man is uninterested in engaging in sex, it’s high time you realise there’s something he is not at all interested in. If a man shows interest in you only when he is horny or drunk-horny or is in a mood to have sex, it’s only sex he is looking for from you. Anything more simply doesn’t perk his interests anymore. Why not say it out loud to you, you ask? You think he is dumb enough to let go of getting sex whenever he wants?
4. Awkwardness in the air
You used to talk or chat with your partner for hours. Now you have to look for topics to have a real conversation, mostly because all he does is sit back and answer your queries without taking an initiative to know about your day. Even in public, you can feel a sort of tension and awkwardness hover in the air around you both. He remains unresponsive to your humour, which, previously, he used to find super cute. Now you are the only one laughing at your jokes.
5. No talk of the future
One of the most important signs that he is losing interest in you is his choice to not commit to anything more than a month in advance. The ‘we’ in the relationship has dwindled down to a more solo ‘I’. Really makes you wonder if he even wants you in his life anymore.
6. Change in priorities
When I say, his priorities have changed, it means you feel like you are not even a priority anymore. He prefers hanging out with his colleagues and friends more than spending time with you. What’s even worse is that he refuses to hold a dinner party together where you get to meet his friends. The moment he prioritizes his friends you have moved a lot farther away from his close circle. Men tend to only introduce you to his buddies when his interest in you is stable.
If you read these signs in your man, know that he is losing interest in you. So step up your game and make him interested in you again. Or it’s time for you to run for the hills and find a better partner, this one may not be worth the effort.