Do you have commitment phobia? Do you remember that scene from the movie 500 Days of Summer, when Summer says, “We’re just fr…” to which Tom interrupts by saying, “No! Don’t pull that with me! This is not how you treat your friend! Kissing in the copy room? Holding hands in IKEA? Shower sex? Come on!”
Can you relate to the character of Summer? Then maybe, you have ‘fear of commitment’ or ‘Gamophobia’. Here are some clear signs you need to take the commitment issues test:
- You lead people on unintentionally and end up hurting/confusing them
- You give mixed signals, without even realizing it
- When someone brings up marriage/relationship, you literally want to run in the opposite direction!
- You fear being vulnerable in long-term friendships
How to overcome commitment issues? You can try deep breathing exercises and meditation. If you’re having panic attacks, work with a therapist and understand more on what you can do to stop them. If this is a common pattern in your life, a licensed professional can find out reasons for such behavior. Our counselors from Bonobology’s panel are just a click away.