If there is one thing that everyone knows to be true about relationships, it’s that they are full of ups and downs and half-hearted compromises and passive-aggressive adjustments. There is always just enough tension in the air to turn small fights into something nasty, and while that does not always spell doom, it does call for some added safety measures. So in case you slightly messed up and your SO won’t stop being grumpy even though the fight is officially over, here are some pretty cute ways you can say sorry to them:
Get them food
People who claimed that the way to someone’s heart is through the stomach definitely hit gold. After all, there is nothing more enticing than the smell of food in the air, maybe even mutton biryani made just the way your partner’s mother makes it.
Tip: In case you can’t cook to save your life and are left with a dark crumbly lump instead of a cake, maybe it’s time to order in. One piping hot extra, extra cheesy pizza later, I am pretty sure the love of your life will have a lot of trouble staying angry at that cute face of yours.
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Take them shopping
It doesn’t matter if they often claim they are not into shopping. Everyone on this planet has something that turn their knees into jelly. Take your gamer SO to a gaming shop, drag the book-nerd to the nearest book-heaven and your fashionista to look at the latest styles and, while you are at it, be ready to spend some serious cash. Look at it this way: the angrier they are, the lighter your wallet will feel afterwards.
Tip: If they are too mad at you to agree to go anywhere or if you are too broke to function, order something online. It can be their favourite game, a new book by their favourite author, etc. This way you get to control just how much money you spend while letting them know that you do care and do listen to them when they are telling you something. Genius, isn’t it?
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Write them a poem or a song
It really doesn’t matter how bad you are at it. What matters is the idea that someone created something completely new with just you in mind. Believe me, to know that someone spent so much time and effort and made something that is the most limited edition thing ever for them and them only feels extraordinarily amazing.
Arrange a ‘best friends only’ night in
If you are seriously considering doing this, the situation must be pretty bad. Hopefully, you have planned ahead and have the phone numbers of your partner’s best friends. Call them all up, arrange a sleepover at your place, makes sure there is ample food and alcohol in the fridge and make yourself scarce.
Tip: Never, ever decide to join their tiny party. Give them the space to vent and relax. The madder they are at you, the more they’ll appreciate it.
Cancel them meetings and get ready to cuddle up
If all your recent fights have been about how you just don’t seem to want to spend time together and how you always seem busy, it might be time to take a long hard look at your priorities. And in case they really are wrong when they claim work is more important to you than them, it might be time you show them that. Cancel all work for the day and ask them if they would like to build a pillow fort or annihilate you at their favourite game. Spend time with them, open up, eat a whole lot of junk food, cuddle, eat junk again, watch a sappy movie and go to sleep tangled, spent and happy.
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A day full of surprises
This one will take some time and creativity to arrange. Start small then build from there. Maybe place a pretty handmade card beside their breakfast. Arrange for chocolates and/or flowers to be delivered to their office. Let them open their bag to find a homemade lunch and a message. By the time they come home, they should be way less angry than they were before. Maybe give them a hot and relaxing massage before unveiling the last surprise: an intimate and beautiful candlelit dinner, perhaps?
Just like old times
Now this one is for you if both of you have suddenly realised that the honeymoon phase is over, so no more fun. Just work and adjustments and fights from now on, right? Wrong. Prove how little has changed and how happy they make you still by taking them on a date. Try and relive the first time you met: her in her sunflower yellow dress and you in your blue shorts and tee. A chance meeting at a bookshop over your favourite author perhaps? Or a steaming cup of tea and lots of laughter. Recreate your first day and your favourite experiences together since as much as you can.
Fights in a relationship are as unavoidable as getting sand in your shoes on the beach. The trick is to let your lover know how much they mean to you and just how much you care. And remember: the tiniest details can bring the greatest joys.
You don’t need to be extravagant to prove you care. You don’t need to be extravagant to prove you care.
Just saying sorry and meaning it can go a long way in fixing a lot of things. Also have your puppy eyes on point. Just in case.