Humans are complicated beings. You may spend a lifetime with someone and still have trouble understanding them at times. So, it is not surprising that a lot of people complain about the fact they don’t know what to do when their partner shows a sudden change of mood or behaves in a certain way. So, to help some of the clueless boyfriends out there, we put together a list of things they need to keep in mind when handling such changes in their partner’s mood.
Men, your saviour is here because we are about to tell you exactly how to handle your woman’s mood swings:
1. Give them space
This is for when you have already tried and realised that it is not your fault that they are mad. Or it is your fault but, while you have already apologised, they still need time to cool off. So, call up their best friends, make sure there is ample food in the fridge and make yourself scarce. Hopefully, they will feel much better when you do get back.
2. Talk it out
Half of the problems in relationships would get solved if people would just talk. So, instead of throwing up your arms in utter outrage the next time the love of your life seems to be in a bad mood, try to find out what it is that went wrong. Maybe there is something up at work and the promotion they were aiming for was given to someone unworthy. Maybe they are homesick. Or maybe you said you will do something but completely forgot about it. If they are very mad at you, chances are that they will not tell you outright but will snap at you often due to no reason at all. So, talk. Find out what went wrong and try to fix it. Silence might usually be golden but might be a bad idea in such cases.
3. Don’t argue
Talk but listen too. Don’t interrupt or argue. Be respectful of each other and let them finish what they are saying. Try not to get all defensive or dismissive when they tell you what is wrong. If it is not your fault but someone else’s entirely, let them rant; then comfort them. If they say it’s your fault, consider what you did, apologise if you think you actually did wrong and explain if you didn’t. Be civil about things throughout. It won’t help if both of you are being cranky and irrational at the same time.
4. Get them food
If it is work or other related things and you really cannot help out, get them their favourite food as they figure things out. It will also give them energy to tackle the problem head on without obsessing over it and doing nothing.
5. Show them cat and dog videos
If even food hasn’t worked its magic, it’s time to bring out the big guns. Show them cute cat and dog videos. There is hardly anything more delightful in the world than those little furry buggers so this should cheer bae up pretty soon.
6. Help out
Maybe they are worried about a work project. Or some thing they need to do and the deadline is coming up and they lack inspiration. Whatever it may be, if you think you can help out, do. Even if you cannot help out with the actual work, a relaxing massage and a full cup of hot coffee might just do the trick. Words of encouragement go a long way in such situations too.
7. Never belittle
Even if you think they are obsessing over too little a thing or just seem to be randomly pissed off, there is no reason for you to belittle what they feel. It is not only disrespectful but also does not help their mood. Chances are that they will end up being more annoyed than they were before. Remember, life is stressful for everyone so sometimes we tend to have seemingly random meltdowns. Support your partner during such times and you will be reaping the rewards soon enough.
As you can see, most of these situations are not sudden. They grow out of certain factors and due to the build up of work or other frustrations. So, the most important thing for you to do here would be to not dismiss their problems as unimportant and treat actual annoyance as inexplicable mood swings. Try to find out exactly why your lover is behaving the way they are and help out. Your lover is not a child and probably doesn’t like being treated as a child when something is bothering them. Listen. Empathise. Encourage. And maybe buy them biryani. Works wonders every time!