‘She said she always tried to watch shows in the genre cerebral and I had seen a few and spoke about them. Man, was she impressed. A few days later I asked her out on a date. I am planning to propose to her soon.’ We end up spending most of our time with our colleagues, and it is but natural to get attracted to them, especially if they are from the opposite sex. This man did research on the kind of show his crush liked, watched them, and used it as a way to strike a non-work conversation and finally won her over.
Is there a woman you like at work? Someone, you are really interested in beyond casual hookup and sex? If you are wondering if your alliance will mature into a marriage, then you will be happy to know that couples who meet at work are more likely to get married than those who meet elsewhere. A study conducted among 2000 adults concluded that 14% of couples who worked together ended up married, compared to 11% who were introduced by friends. Now that sounds interesting, doesn’t it?
Top 12 Tips To Impress A Woman At Work
Any girl working in your office is a female colleague. They could be younger than you, older than you, married or single or even committed. They could be your junior too. Impressing a lady at work can be challenging. Approaching a woman at work and leaving a long-lasting impression is the first step. However, there is a high chance that you might mess things up in your eagerness to please her and come across as a charming person. The way you approach the situation will make a huge difference. This is what women notice about men on the first dates, maybe these tips will help.
But before you go ahead keep these in mind for your own benefit!
- Check if you are really interested in her and she is worth the time. Not because everyone else is chasing her
- Make sure she is single. You can do that easily by befriending her on social media or through casual conversations
- Do not tie your self-esteem to this. If not her, there will be someone else. You do not have to prove anything to anyone
- Check to see if she really is your type
Here we talk about the right ways to impress a woman at work.
1. Be sincere towards your job and do it right
Women admire men who do their jobs to the best of their abilities. Sincerity is one quality that you cannot go wrong with, and women are quick to judge it. Men who act bossy or show disrespect towards others may have that badass appeal that may last for a night or two, but it will not mature into a long-lasting relationship. If you are looking for love, you might as well behave and work responsibly and take pride in what you do. Respect those under you and try and help your subordinates when you can, this will definitely make an impression on her. Read this piece on what qualities in men attract women the most.
Be respectful to your colleagues and help them when required. Follow work ethics. This way you will impress your female colleague and have more than just a fling.
2. Be yourself – do not fake a personality you are not
Acting fake and trying to put on a false personality that you think may impress her is not a great strategy to make her notice you. She will see through it, if not right away then soon. Be yourself and carry that with aplomb. You can be shy but confident, you may not have the best physique but you can make it up with being charming. You may not be witty but you can be pleasant. Women like men who are confident about themselves. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses. Try to highlight your strengths without showing off. Be frank and upfront. Do not try to paint a larger than life picture about yourself. Women at work are smart and will see right through the act that you are trying to put up. Unless you just want temporary attention from her, do not attempt at faking your personality. ‘I claimed to love her dog and period dramas after a few weeks I just could not pretend that anymore’, someone wrote to us. Remember you cannot carry what you are not forever!
Not only will you not impress the woman, but also give her a negative impression about you. That’s a downer.
Related Reading: How To Date A Girl Out Of Your League
3. Always be presentable
Don’t wear ridiculous clothes to impress a lady or sport funny hairdos! She will definitely not get impressed, and chances are that somebody from HR will come and see you! Dress in a smart and presentable way. Follow the dress code at work. Try to stick to the rules, but play around with styles and colours. Being presentable is not only about the clothes that you wear to work, but also about your hairstyle, your face, and most importantly the body language that you wear. Don’t scuffle when you walk. Take confident strides, and keep your back straight. And yes smell nice!
Your body language plays a very crucial role when someone is trying to form an impression about you. That way you can impress both her and your client.
4. Be a gentleman – and not just for her
Open the door for her, let her in and out of the elevator first and offer her a helping hand whenever there is a need. However, opening the door only for her and banging it shut in the face of other female colleagues is not going to impress her much! The idea is to come across as a person with good manners all throughout. Be kind and courteous to the people you talk to. Don’t forget that you are being watched all the time, and also being judged. Speak like a gentleman. Use words like please and thank you. Apologise when you have erred. Accept apologies when others offer it sincerely.
Speak when you need to. If the woman at work gets the impression that you are trying to show off your presence by unnecessarily speaking, you will create a bad image about yourself in her mind.
Related reading: 6 things a man does to show his love
5. Be interested in her, genuinely
Showing genuine interest in her is a sure-shot way to impress. Ask her about her day, her work, and offer advice if she needs help. And when she speaks listen. One girl said what attracted her to her office colleague was when he would remember things she said in passing weeks ago. However, asking too many personal questions and poking your nose into things that aren’t your business will immediately throw you into creep-zone! She will not only be not impressed but might also start avoiding you completely. You don’t want that, do you? If she feels close enough to you to talk about her personal matters, she will talk to you. Respond to that.
Show empathy and help her in any way that you can. If you ask too many provocative and personal questions too frequently, she will immediately refrain from talking to you.
6. Act and behave like an adult
You should try and not throw tantrums. Act your age. Communicate in a mature way. If she is not responding to your efforts be patient. Do not feel entitled. Do not act like a teenager in love. It will create a negative impression of you. Check your behaviour regarding other colleagues too. Don’t call people names when you are angry. The way you handle yourself and your emotions say a lot about the kind of person you are.
7. Be considerate and soft
Don’t try to over-power your junior female colleagues at work. Do not belittle anyone if their performance is not up to your expectations. Always be considerate and soft when dealing with people. Don’t ask someone else to decide on your behalf. If someone comes to you with a problem, look for the solution and do not magnify the issue. Be a mentor and a guide when you can.
Be considerate and give her the option of choosing what she wants. Be assertive, not overpowering or dominant.
Related Reading: 15 Signs A Female Colleague Likes You
8. Have an open mind
Office spaces are full of people who come from all walks of life. You will see different people every day. So will the woman you are trying to win over. Your story may not be their story. Your idea may not be their idea. You should not come across as being judgmental, to your female colleagues. Women tend to like men who are liberal in their views and do not jump to conclusions on what is seen and heard.
9. Be supportive
Support the woman that you want to impress. Be proud of her career, as proud as you are of yours. Make her laugh when she seems stressed or overworked. No gender discrimination, remember. Listen to her when she is having a bad day. The idea is to make her feel good about herself so that she looks forward to coming to work every day. Men who are caring and supportive are a rare gem to find and women know that. Giver her the benefit of the doubt even when you think she doesn’t deserve it.
10. Don’t fool around
Your office may have plenty of attractive women, but if you are interested in only one of them, then make sure you have eyes only for her. Women tend to share a lot, so if you are trying to get the attention of many women, you may soon be trending as a player. Gossip spreads fast, and if you are looking for attention of one woman, do not go about dating every colleague or ogling them as they pass by. She should feel that it’s only her that you are interested in.
11. Be genuine
Look into her eyes when you talk to her. Do not make her self-conscious by doing so intensely. You might even make her defensive. Let her feel your empathy and care through your eyes. When you smile, let your eyes smile too. Show her that you are a warm person and not a robot who just shows emotions for the sake of it. Do not be pretentious and artificial. Women are quick to figure these things out, and if she works with you, she might well have a fair idea how you are as a person. If you are to meet her at a decided time, make sure you are there first and don’t make the lady wait.
If you have made a mistake, do not try to shy away from apologising. Own up to it and apologise. You may face ego issues, but it will create a good impression about you. Cowards tend to run away from their mistakes. If you apologise, she will know that you are a strong person.
You could also do a few other things:-
- Socialize with her friends
- Be well-groomed and flirt with your eyes
- Do not be overly obsessed with your phone in her presence
- Compliment the way she looks, but do not go overboard. You must sound genuine
- Ask her for advice but do not come across as clueless
- Have an opinion on things
- Ask her out to a social situation that could be on the borderline of a date or friends hanging out
Impressing a woman at work is simpler than you think, provided you are really interested in her. No matter how easily you create those umpteen PowerPoint slides or how deep your technological knowledge is, impressing a women at work requires some sharp tips and a little common sense. Hurry up and make plans for tomorrow! Time to impress women at work!