So, you have the first date, and you are wondering how to impress a girl you have just met! Yes, you would like to impress her, and if all goes well, meet her again too. Nervous? No need!
Fortunately for us, in the generation of so many dating apps, you already know a fair bit about the person and her likes and dislikes, the first meeting is also to see how much of her is really what you have been imagining.
But there are some old rules on how to win a girl over on the first date that remains relevant, even in today’s modern world. Be yourself and the person will be more impressed. A feeling of excitement, even panic is natural, as well as the many doubts that must be running through your head.
But girls are not so complicated, and there are chances she may be as nervous as you. It is not so hard to impress a girl on your first date, especially because the rules of the game of dating have never been black and white. Remember, in mostly shades of grey, you need to play smart, adapt and create a good first impression. So that there is a second date, and more!
Find out everything you need to know to make a successful first impression, impress a girl on the first meet. Make the moment count and make it memorable! We will help you out.
How To Impress A Girl On A Date
Impressing a girl is not hard work. But if you are too jittery, unsure, shy and overthinking then things can get tough. We share a few tips that will help you, remember to impress a girl even before she meets you.
1. Call, don’t text
Unless you have social anxiety (yes, that is a thing for some) and prefer texting and waiting for an appropriate amount of time before you start to get ready for the date, give your date a call. Just a quick call to confirm the time, a see-you-later call.
Sure, you have asked her out via text message but on the day of the date, make sure you communicate with a phone call. Impress a girl with words, with efficiency, with your voice (if that is a bonus for you). A phone call can achieve information in less than a minute and there is no wait time. It adds a mature humanizing effect; it also shows the right amount of eagerness.
2. Groom yourself well
Yes, groom yourself. And groom yourself well.
If you have been putting off trimming your beard for the last three months, now is the time to get cracking. You don’t have to go all beard-off, but trim it nicely to look presentable. A nicely shaved beard will boost your self-confidence and a woman won’t be disgusted to wipe the cappuccino foam from it.
Shave, shower (if you have been putting it off for a few days), shampoo, condition (yes, men do it too).
Leave the trip to the salon to her, unless you have been really very, very lax in your grooming. Make the effort this time, be neat, be presentable, you do not necessarily have to do a full makeover.
3. Dress well
Dress well. Dress comfortably. If you are the tee-shirt and jeans kind of guy in your normal life, make the effort to wear a fresh pair for the date- there are no rules that says you have to drastically alter your looks. Just, be neat.
Impress a girl without talking, before you even speak with each other, the first impressions are very important.
Casuals are evergreen. And remember to wear nice shoes (doesn’t have to be Italian leather, just the ones which you don’t wear on a daily basis). Most women check out the kind of shoes you are wearing, so don’t be scruffy with your shoes tonight.
Oh, and cologne. Because men who smell good get an extra brownie point!
4. Do your homework
A little research goes a long way.
A scroll through your date’s social media profile will give you a further insight of what she is all about. Dont stalk her, but don’t just check the photos either. The real clues about who is she is and the things she does are in the comments section. Read the things she expresses, and what excite her. Browse the places she has been to, these create easy conversation later.
When you have gathered enough intel, break it up and weave it naturally into your conversation with her. This will open up more vistas of like-minded conversation. There will be no awkward pauses.
5. Plan an activity
Impress a girl on a coffee date by selecting the place well. Impress her on a dinner date if you both enjoy the same kind of cuisine, or impress a girl you already know by finding those hidden gems that serve the food you both enjoy.
The normal thing is a dinner and a movie, the safe bet! But if you feel one half is trying to talk with food in your mouth and the other half is sitting in the dark without speaking is not what you want to do, plan. There are many other options now, try a bowling alley or a walk in the park (this will definitely get you good brownie points too after the pandemic).
Maybe you could plan to meet for an ice-cream by the beach and draw out your date for a longer time if you are both having fun. Or maybe a book reading if you are both so inclined. There are many theme restaurants ranging from Escape Rooms to ice skating, so plan ahead. Make it fun!
This way, even if you find conversations difficult, you are at least doing something together and it can impress a girl you barely know.
6. A small gift shows you are thoughtful
Now you don’t have to buy her anything extravagant right on the first date. A small gift shows you are thoughtful. Maybe a copy of the book that she liked and has always wanted to read, is a sweet gesture enough. You can also go for a bunch of her favourite flowers or some chocolates.
7. Eye contact matters
Wandering eyes say a lot. This one thing is probably the most important; also the one to get right.
Too much staring will make you ‘the guy who stared at me the whole time’ and too little will make you seem as one who isn’t paying her enough attention. The right amount will be making eye contact when she talks but dialing it down when you are talking. It will make her feel you are wonderfully attentive and will ease her into the date.
Compliments don’t need to showered on her, just point out the few things you have noticed and liked about her. And look at her when saying so!
8. On your mark, get set, attention
Generally, women complain about most men having a slight case of ADHD. Your attention span shouldn’t be affected by the couple at the next table or a bird flying overhead. Listen to her like she has the most interesting gossip ever (even though you might hate gossip and she is basically ranting about a colleague who shaves at his desk). The whole point of this is to be attentive and listen to what she has to say; being a good listener sets you apart from everyone else out there.
So, make eye contact, listen and compliment her genuinely. Don’t get easily distracted, it could be translated as boredom!
9. Big talk and small talk
This is the chance to ask questions, get to know the things she is crazy about, find out how she feels about the things you are passionate about too.
Politics and religion have now become very touchy topics, especially with social media and its army of keyboard warriors. But these are good conversation points to weave into, so you know her own views, as well as the level of passion involved. For all you know, you may both find common ground that you find funny in today’s world and laughter is always a good ice breaker.
Controversial topics could split you up before you even begin, but go ahead if these topics are important to you and will eventually save you time by discovering it early. Talking about exes can be illuminating, finding out she is not yet emotionally available if she talks too much about an ex can also be helpful.
10. Don’t force it
If you find she is still not looking at you, if you find yourself getting bored, don’t push it. There is no obligation to prolong the session, nor do you need to prove to anyone that you have a second date. If there are more awkward silences than magic, do not push for another date.
Your date will probably appreciate the space and the honesty. It really is not a litmus test of your machoism if she does not want to meet again either.
11. Who pays?
Now this can get little tricky. Modern lifestyles say the bill should be split between the two of you. But you don’t know if your lady cares about equality?
Always offer to pay.
If she is like ‘No way. I don’t need no man spending money on my shit’ (or some less abusive version), laugh and split the bill. If she doesn’t say anything, then you have no choice but to pay the bill on your own.
This can get tricky for a lot of people. Many might find it offensive if you grab the bill the moment it arrives (some will blame it on the age-old machoism definition that the man pays for meals you both have eaten; some on the male ego). So keep it light. Politely offer to take care of this date. If your date wants to split the bill, oblige. Don’t insist. Women who generally offer to pay their half might bring their own feminist turn to this and that’s not how you want your date to end, is it?
12. Gentleman always wins the deal
A kiss on the cheek is a sweet and a forgotten gesture. If you want the girl to await your return for a second date (assuming the first one went really well), play it like a gentleman would play it. Hold off to proceed beyond a formal kiss, even though her body language may say different. You could be misunderstanding the signs, but do wait for the second date to make things clearer.
Drop her home, say thank you, fix the next date while you leave. A successful date needs the right follow up, where you are also gauging how she feels about meeting again.
Gender roles to play
Some things do not go out of fashion. There is a basic courtesy in the dating game, that is easier to follow than fight till you understand each others position on the matter. These are gender roles, do’s and don’ts to follow, and as relevant to teenage dating etiquette to second time dating!
- Pick her up from her home, especially if she still lives with her parents. This gives you the chance to meet them too when you join them for a short while, make that first impression impressive too
- Hold open the door for her and allow her to go first. An old-fashioned courtesy that may go a long way in making her feel special.
- Offer to pay for the dinner, or the movie, or whatever it is you are doing together. She will possibly offer to pay half, or pay for dessert, but that is her prerogative.
- At the end of the date, drop her home first.
- Raised necklines! It is better to not show too much cleavage on the first date. This may sound old-fashioned but first impressions are important
- It is alright to freshen your lipstick after the meal, but grooming yourself at the table is not advisable. Excuse yourself, use the bathrooms
- If he holds open the door, thank him. If you have an issue with that, do raise it politely, as you get to know him better.
By following proper dating etiquette, you will be able to make your date comfortable, and in turn, strike a connection with him/her. Traditional rules of dating have given way to modern norms like maintaining an updated social media profile, splitting the bill, avoiding conversations about weather, politics, religion, knowing the right coffee date etiquette and so on.
And, if so many rules sound like it is too many things to do, too many things that can go wrong, we broke it down into a simple grid for you to keep in mind, using a little help from the Eliminate-Reduce-Raise-Create grid. Keep this handy!
We know that first dates are extremely awkward. However, with the correct mixture of the dating etiquette and dating advice given in this article, you will be able to seal the deal for sure. All the best!
See, it is not hard to impress a girl on a date, and it is relatively easy to have a good time together.