My Boyfriend Is Marrying Someone Else And I Am Feeling Broken

I am a 29-year-old girl working in the government sector. I have been in a relationship for the past 3.6 years. We both were head-over-heels in love with each other.  Now he is marrying someone else and I don’t know how to move on.

My Boyfriend Is Marrying Someone Else And I Am Devastated

He is a Jain and I am a Brahmin. He told me in the beginning that his parents wouldn’t agree to our marriage because they would want a girl from their own community, but I thought all parents say things like this and we will convince them when the time comes. I rejected all marriage proposals because I couldn’t marry someone else. For me religion is secondary. No one in both families is/was aware of our relationship. I wanted him to first talk to his parents but he had his own excuses. When your parents disapprove your love you find a way out. Don’t you?

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But he didn’t. My lover is getting married to a girl of his parent’s choice next month. I am devastated. I know I should move on because he has not even tried to speak to his parents. Maybe someday I will move on. But this time I am broken. I am still praying that he will come back. I really don’t know how to let go off this past relationship. I don’t know how to deal with this after my lover is marrying someone else 


Dear Girl,

You really didn’t deserve what happened to you. After investing everything you had into your relationship, I can understand that now you probably feel lost and empty…

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How to let go of a past relationship

Looking at what you have written, I don’t see a question that you have asked me. Also, I don’t want to give you cliched advice of getting over him or try to distract yourself etc. Maybe you just needed to share your pain and I’m here to listen. Reaching out for help is a good sign.

How to let go of a past relationship
How to let go of a past relationship
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You are trying to move on

It shows that you are already trying to get on the path of self-healing. You are learning to let go of past hurts. Meanwhile, if you need someone to hold on to, while you heal yourself do get in touch with the Bonobology team here and they’ll connect you to me for private sessions.

Please take care,
Prachi Vaish

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  1. Hey I am simran, I was in relationship from 6 years .. but now my bf is going to maary with his parents choice … In. The beginning of our relationship we both know that our parents will never agree for our marriage … Because we both belongs to the village and our problem was not inter caste.. the problem was that we both are of same caste alike. Our beradri is same… My bf is in army … And the family was also good but our home is opposite to each other home … He was saying that we will do court marriage against our parents because he cant live without me … He gave me so so so big dreams that now I couldn’t believe that he is going engaged in April with someone else … He didn’t tell me about his engagement ..i came to know from someelse ….now he is not picking my call ,he is not reply my txt … I don’t know what to do I am totally broken … Plz tell me what should I have to do now.??

  2. I am 20 years old
    I am in deep love with my boyfriend but he told me he is going to marry another woman of his parents choice
    And he didn’t even try to convince his parents.my hurt is broken i can’t stop crying every night i remember everything we did together. I am thinking that i don’t want to live without him
    Please hel0 me how to forget him

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