“I made myself realize I should not be so attached to one thing or a person. After the breakup, I had to pick myself up. I cried a lot but I have become a better person and I thank him for that.”
Have you decided to stay away from love and avoid the pain, the drama and the heartache? Well, as magical the feeling of falling in love is, even more painful are heartbreaks. When you breakup, your heart aches with pain and you start building a wall around yourself. You get detached from your close ones and nothing feels the same again. You try blending into your normal life but the stinging ache in your heart still remains. You feel miserable and helpless and lose all confidence in yourself. You tend to question yourself and begin to believe that something was wrong with you.
Why would anyone want to go through that again, right? The question to ask isn’t what went wrong? You need to ask yourself how to stay away from love.
Love and pain go hand in hand – how true?
Love is like a virus, which after catching on to you, leaves your life miserable. Being in love makes you feel happy and complete and at the same time makes you feel pathetic and miserable. You get into a relationship thinking that you’ve finally found someone that makes you happy, till the honeymoon phase gets over. After the honeymoon phase, all that follows is reality and that’s not pretty. You long for moments of happiness but they just seem to get more and more distant as time passes. One moment of happiness is followed by a series of fights, frustration and self-doubt. Do love and pain go hand in hand? Definitely! Imagine having to go through it all over again. Avoid falling in love if it means leaving you empty inside. Avoid love pain.
So how do you stay away from love? We give you 8 effective ways.
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8 Ways to Stay Away From Love and Avoid the Pain?
After getting back to normal, you find someone again. He is attractive, caring and has swept you off your feet. You feel gravity pulling you towards him, but you don’t want to get into the same situation all over again. So, How to not get attracted to someone? How to stop falling for someone you can’t have? And more importantly how to not fall in love? We’ll tell you how.
1. Focus on yourself
Focus on what you want in life. Think about the person you were before you got messed up into all this love pain drama. Remember your goals, both personal and professional and make a plan on how to achieve them. Make a list of all your goals and accordingly plan on how you want to achieve them. Think about the things that make you happy and why you stopped doing them. Not only will you stay from from the pains of love, but also end up doing something better for yourself.
Find yourself again.
2. Spend time with your loved ones
Your family members have always been the ones to stay by your side through your thick and thin. They are always going to be there for you no matter how much you drift away from them. To stay away from meeting new people and eventually falling in love, better catch up with them and spend some quality time. It will help you heal from your previous relationship and you will find love with the people who actually matter in your life.
3. Hang out with your Girl Gang
If you have a girl gang that is going strong, you will never need a guy in your life. Your girl gang will always be there to keep you from falling in love. Make sure that majority of your girl gang consists of single ladies or else you’ll just fall into the love trap again. Hang out with your girl gang, bitch about guy and eye the guys at the bar. Flirt with the guys if you want but don’t get carried away.
4. Bury yourself in work
Why only work? Bury yourself in practically everything that will keep you away from love. Keeping yourself occupied will distract you and keep your mind from calling cupid. Focusing on your work will help keep your mind distracted into something product which will also help boost your confidence over time. You will stay away from love and excel in your professional life.
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5. Explore your hobbies
You can get a lot of pleasure by rekindling your passions and hobbies. Plus, you won’t fall in love because you’d be busy on your own. When was it the last time you painted something or held your guitar? Go back to the time when you indulged in your hobbies rather than painstaking relationships. If you don’t have any hobbies or are confused, try developing new hobbies. Try new things like cooking, yoga or something that you wanted to try from a long time. Learn something new, keep yourself busy and stay away from love.
6. Convince yourself
To stay away from love, you first have to convince yourself how toxic love was for you. Remember the pain you went through in your previous relationship and clear your thoughts. Spend some time alone and consider this aspect of your life. There’s no rush. Go to an isolated place surrounded by nature. It will help gather your thoughts.
Only if you truly believe that avoiding love will be the best option for you, can you move on from love and head towards yourself.
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7. Start making out the difference
Now that you are single again, make out how different your life is with no man in your life. Of course it gets lonely at times, especially when you see couples around you. But notice how you feel from inside. You will realize that you are happier from within. There’s less drama in your life which makes your life way more stress free. And the best part, you can spend all your money on yourself. You can sleep in peace knowing that no one is going to cheat on you.
8. Love yourself
The most important way to avoid love pain is to start loving yourself. If you love yourself from within, you won’t feel the need to seek for love elsewhere. You will feel complete because you believe in yourself. Most people get into toxic relationships because of lack of confidence, self-doubt and feeling unworthy of someone better. This happens because people don’t love themselves. Once a person begins to love themselves, they feel happier and fulfilled. They find themselves and their true personality come out. They tend to find out things about themselves that they never knew before.
As the saying goes, “Love yourself and the rest will follow.”
The above points answer your question of how to stay away from love. Now that you know the mantra to staying away from love, even someone you are attracted to, you know what to do. Being in toxic relationships will just poison you from inside. It is important to focus on the things that are constant in your life like your friends, family and work rather than relationships that come with an expiration date, leading to years of pain and getting over. So stay away from love and don’t let cupid strike you with its arrow.