While it is always women whining about crazy things that men do, but women too have some habits that drive men equally mad.
Are you driving your man crazy?
It is common to hear women complaining about annoying things men do, and am sure we all agree that men are somewhat irksome. However, some things women do might annoy the hell out of their men too, even if done unconsciously. As you read, don’t take offense. Instead, treat this information as counsel on how to be better. Ask yourself, would you put up with yourself if you were your own husband, fiancé, or boyfriend? Let’s fight the stereotypes and make a few changes to improve our relationships and ourselves.
Here’s a list of things to avoid doing so that you don’t mess up your relationship by irritating or annoying your guy.
1. The bud night
There is a sanctity to fraternities that your man wants to uphold and that is an unsaid but clearly demarcated territory. He will need his chill out time and maybe you have a night off that you would want to spend with your man, but please do not attempt to unleash hell by asking him to cancel with his homies in the last moment.
If you are living with your man, then this one particular nasty, albeit natural thing might just keep ticking him off without you consciously realising it. Hair all over the room, the floors and especially the bathroom is not a pretty sight to deal with, no matter how much he loves you.
3. The ex-hunt
Yes, we know, you want to find out everything there is to know about him: unveil that aura of mystery, but going off-track to contact his ex(s) and chatting them up is not the ethical way to do it. If there is something that your man feels you should know, he will make the extra effort to hand it out to you personally, come what may. But ladies, if you do want to end up with your man inculcating trust issues, this is strict no.
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4. Old habits die hard
Maybe your man smokes a little too much or gets his awkward on after just a few drinks, or maybe he’s the gym freak who remembers the calorie count more than he remembers important dates, but do not go full commando and order him to change overnight. Not only is it not going to happen, this will annoy the brains out of your man. Give him space to adjust and grow with you and mend his ways to a better version of himself. All good things take time.
5. The privacy element
He had a life before you and he is most definitely not giving up on that. Privacy territories need to be maintained at any cost. His phone, his laptop, his mails and his schedules are his to deal with, and it is the mature thing to leave it that way. Do not try to go Sherlock Holmes on the part of his life that he wishes to keep for himself. The overlapping grey areas will take time to merge into one and you need to be patient for that.
6. The sports chat-box
Okay, so most guys love their sports and are very religious about it. It would be the biggest compliment to him if you wanted to share this love of his and make it yours by showing interest in game night. But whatever you do, do your homework before you unite with that couch. Do not bombard him with questions of whats, hows and whys in the middle of the game. And maybe keep the conversations of how annoying your boss is on hold for a few hours?
7. The movie buff
If he can sit through hours of SATC and gossip girl and Pitch Perfect to follow up on your likes and dislikes, you can manage to squeeze in some time for Star Wars or Lord of The Rings. It won’t kill you to nerd out with him once in a while and make him feel loved after all that he does for you.
8. I’m fine is never fine
Be rational ladies, no matter how charming he is, he is not a mind reader. When you are upset about something, that may or may not be related to what he did, and he shows concern about your well-being, tell him what is bothering you. Try to not go cold turkey after repeated “I’m fine” or “I’m okay”. He is there for you and with you. Let him in and tell him what is troubling you, instead of getting annoyed because he cannot figure it out on his own!
9. The withholding
If you ever think of withholding sex because something happened or didn’t happen, DO NOT. It’s not only annoying, but almost borderline crazy, and even more when you don’t actually let him know what’s going on . Physical intimacy is not a bait that should be used to deal with situations. Instead, mature up and talk it out, no matter how exhausting it might be!
10. The mommy vibes
You are his partner, his better half and not his mother. Stop mommying him around by telling him what he should or should not do, what he should wear or should not wear, his eating habits, the kind of people he chooses to hang out with. He needs you to be there with him shoulder-to-shoulder to face the world with him, no matter how tough it gets. Bossing him around like his mother is not only really uncalled for, it will also not get you anywhere. Because he’ll end up doing things anyway, but it will be a huge blow to your relationship.